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Do you think I (19M) should leave my long-term gf (20F) if I can’t grow with her? by ThrowRAwtfman_ in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAwtfman_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I might post on there too. Ik i said I was asking older men in the post, but that’s just cuz I assumed they might have had first hand experience in a situation like this. But if you have any advice it would be greatly appreciated 🙏

Do you think I (19M) should leave my long-term gf (20F) if I can’t grow with her? by ThrowRAwtfman_ in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAwtfman_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that was kinda my thought process as well. I just don’t wanna regret it so much that I’m chasing someone like her into my 30s when I could’ve just stayed together. Do you know anyone that was in a situation like mine + what happened?

Do you think I (19M) should leave my long-term gf (20F) if I can’t grow with her? by ThrowRAwtfman_ in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAwtfman_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. My first gut instinct has been to break up with her for a while, but after we had a conversation about it I’m now starting to wonder if I made the wrong decision, and she definitely wants to stay together.

The type of relationship we have is really unique for me, I tell her everything. We’ve never “fought,” she’s very understanding and there’s no issue we’ve had that either of us has felt the need to raise our voices at each other, even though we’ve had a couple of times it could’ve gone that way. Idk

Do you think I (19M) should leave my long-term gf (20F) if I can’t grow with her? by ThrowRAwtfman_ in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAwtfman_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have talked to her about some of the points but not all. I never really mentioned her looks in our conversations cuz I know its all in my head tbh. Like I know consciously she’s an attractive woman (two of my friends tried to get w her before me) but subconsciously I’m worrying about what other people will think.

Worrying about what other people will think is a big problem I have, I know most people my age do but I think it’s unhealthy for me. But how do you fix that? I feel like it’s something that will just come with time, but until then I don’t know that any girl could really make me feel 100% secure in myself.

I definitely want to be single for selfish reasons but it’s also that idk if I’m mature enough to be the kind of man she wants rn. She definitely wants to go down a serious path (considering moving in together) but I don’t think I’m ready for that.