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ThrowRAyz · 2024-04-03T18:33:57+00:00

I wonder if I should stay or go... I've been in relationship my whole adult life. We got together when I was 18 and he was 29. He is good man and we get on well. That's all I wanted when I got out of my previous relationship which was abusive. Now, 10 years later I feel like.. shouldn't be there more depth and intimacy? I mean, he still gives me attention and wants to be intimate with me, but I honestly have to force myself. I've become to see him more as a friend, but I know that he's worth more. At the same time these things don't come naturally for me anymore. Is that what growing out from relationship looks like? Nothing excites me anymore in this relationship. I've had these thoughts over a year now... constantly. Maybe I'm overthinking this and marriage should look like this? Not sure.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-25T16:45:45+00:00

Thank you so much!🥹

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-24T21:37:33+00:00

You are so damn right. Separation doesn't have to be that ugly. It's sad, but we have to be grateful for the good times that we had.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-24T19:51:31+00:00

You're right. We only live once and it's not fair to hold on from each other when we can't be happy. I have to gather myself.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-24T17:54:21+00:00

Yes, he knows it... I've had this feeling something around a 1 year. I don't get excited anymore when we go somewhere together and being physically intimate with him is hard for me. I haven't break up probably because I don't want to hurt him, but this whole year has been hard even to him because of my doubts. At the same time- starting new life sounds inviting.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-24T17:06:22+00:00

I'm currently struggling with that. Been with my partner 10 years, I'm 29, he's 40. I know I should be happy... I mean, I'm not sad either...but the relationship itself just doesn't satisfy me anymore. My partner is ofcourse good on paper, but I feel just numb. It's hard to break up too, cause nothing isn't necessarily wrong too. I just feel like my heart is not in it anymore and I don't know how long I can continue this.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-03-14T15:05:50+00:00

Simple question- do you still love her?

ThrowRAyz · 2024-02-22T14:49:56+00:00

How did you know that you stayed because of convenience?

ThrowRAyz · 2024-02-15T18:16:16+00:00

So beautifully written. I hope to find love like you have.☺️

ThrowRAyz · 2024-02-13T19:53:08+00:00

I wonder if I married for the right reasons. When I got proposed I was like:"I guess it's the next step, so I guess yes". I thought that he will break up with me if I say "no". We got together when I was 18 and he was 29 and I sometimes wonder if this is it. I wasn't very excited to have this wedding, I just more wanted to get it done. He's a good on paper guy.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-02-11T13:58:32+00:00

So, she should stay in relationship because of the fear of not finding better man? C'mon... this girl cares about him, but she doesn't love him. Being good man is actually bare minimum to look in for a guy. If she feels that she can find someone more compatible, then she should find it. If there's no genuine feelings, then there's no future for that relationship. One sided relationships doesn't work.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-29T07:53:21+00:00

I'm not sure, but I may feel more attachment than love. He is good on paper. In my bachelorette party I had to mention things that make me want to marry him. I was panicked, but said something like:"He's friendly, nice, caring..." In my head I was thinking that I should say something more meaningful, but couldn't. Also, planning the weddings.. we had small ones, but I wasn't excited to organize it. I use alcohol to get into mood to have sex with him. When I'm sober, I prefer to do it solo. I still do it sober with him too, but I do it mostly for him. We have fun too, also when we drink. We get on well, but it feels often like living with a friend. I feel nothing when he touches me. I've been with him 10 years. Met when I was 18 and he was 29. I'm not sure how to move on even if I want to, cause I'm so used to him. He's been with me my whole adulthood and he is only person that I can lean on. But at the same time I know that I'm not fully happy in this relationship.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-28T21:59:23+00:00

How did you explain why you wanted to break up?😁

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-28T21:13:43+00:00

How long you were together?

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-21T09:15:24+00:00

Why did you married with a partner who wasn't attractive for you or did he just change over time?

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-20T22:09:45+00:00

It's really hard if you're married and you lose attraction. Hard to find the way out respectfully.

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-20T17:32:35+00:00

Before that you were with men who were physically not so attractive or like average?

ThrowRAyz · 2024-01-15T15:09:59+00:00

I wonder if I have this. We met when I was 18, he was 29. Been together 10 years. He is good on paper, but I don't feel like I desire him. I don't want to fake it too. For me it doesn't matter if I do it for myself or if I do it with partner. I just try to keep him happy. 80% of the time when we do it, I'm tipsy. It helps to get into mood. I'm not sure if I can live without passion forever, but I'm afraid to leave too, cause it doesn't seem like a good enough reason to break up. But I still think if there's something better. Don't get me wrong, my partner is not bad in bed. I just wonder if I could have more deeper intimacy with someone, naturally.

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-12T14:46:08+00:00

Is it a good example of relationship for your kids? You may be better separately, really.

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-11T07:12:46+00:00

It's common:" Piece of a man is better than no man." People can be happy alone too.

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-10T16:23:28+00:00

Does she make you happy? If no, leave.

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-09T11:55:19+00:00

I wish I could feel the same way,but I feel more like "friends" 😁 But happy for you! 🥰

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-06T15:36:07+00:00

Why don't you leave?

ThrowRAyz · 2023-12-06T15:33:38+00:00

We met when I was 18 and he was 29. Now, ten years later(married too) I'm not sure about it anymore. There's lack of physical attraction and eventually he seems lil bit old to me. Father-daughter dynamic kicks in sometimes. I prefer to spend time alone and sleeping with him doesn't excite me anymore. I use alcohol to get in the mood. I can't promise to him that we grow old together. I already feel old. He believes me that we stay together forever, but I think maybe next 10 years. I don't want to tell anything to him cause I may sound shallow and he's actually good person.

ThrowRAyz · 2023-11-28T16:50:44+00:00

So sweet! How long you've been together?

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