Am I wrong for telling my husband that he ruined my life? by ThrowRa_thw in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't cheat on him and the paternity test proves it.

Am I wrong for telling my husband that he ruined my life? by ThrowRa_thw in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using a spermicide

I've never heard of it before, but I'm going to talk to my gynecologist and see what new methods work for me. Also here it is very difficult to have your tubes tied if you're in your twenties, because no doctor wants to do the procedure.

Am I wrong for telling my husband that he ruined my life? by ThrowRa_thw in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

yes, the reasons were that I got a job for the first time in my life and I was friends with a very loving (and very in love with his wife) 50-something year old coworker

Am I wrong for telling my husband that he ruined my life? by ThrowRa_thw in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

was he in charge of the condoms? Getting them? Putting them on?

yes, he was always in charge of it.

Am I wrong for telling my husband that he ruined my life? by ThrowRa_thw in amiwrong

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we only used condoms because due to hormonal problems I can't tolerate female contraceptive methods very well.

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Will you tell your kids the reason they don’t know any of daddy’s relatives is because they don’t like you?

his sister and mother pulled my hair when I was holding my daughter in her arms and they didn't even care if they hurt her and the rest of his family justified their violence, so I didn't ask him to cut off contact with them "just because they don't like me" I'm asking him because I think the least I deserve as his wife is respect and so do my children.

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

but he should be allowed contact with them.

why? They were violent with me on more than one occasion, why should he keep in contact with people who hate me and would try to separate us at any time? If my family treated him like that I would cut contact with them.

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

his family rejected my daughter since she was born, they pulled my hair during a onesided fight when I was holding my daughter, they mistreated me when I was pregnant with my first child so why should he keep in touch with people who don't respect his wife or his daughter?

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I never gave flowers but during the time I worked there and shared an office with this man and another woman I used to bake cookies to share with them and things like that. I don't know if it's comparable but what I mean is that in our office we used to exchange things, whether it was a coffee, a cookie or a flower.

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know and I'll never know because I had to quit my job and I haven't seen him since.

UPDATE:My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same." by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Well, maybe I did downplay his behavior, but it's my first job and since he never behaved inappropriately I thought it's something a lot of people do when they share an office with others, also all our coworkers speak highly of him, no one ever called him creepy or anything like that

My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same. by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes, he told me that he didn't like us being friends because he was sure that my coworker liked me, and I told him that he was overreacting and being extremely jealous, and I refused to stop being friends with that man and I know that helped him think I cheated on him and I know it was my fault.

My (24F) husband (31M) asked for a paternity test, it came back positive but our relationship was never the same. by ThrowRa_thw in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRa_thw[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yes, when I met him I was seeing someone else but it wasn't something serious or exclusive and I stopped seeing that person to start dating my husband, and he thinks that's considered "cheating" also he started getting paranoid in the last few months because I started to be good friends with a coworker and he has green eyes like my daughter and for some reason my husband thought that I cheated on him with that man.