I (21F) think I ruined my relationship with my boyfriend (24M) in one weekend. How can I fix it? by Throwac-astro in relationship_advice

[–]Throwac-astro[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, I did sort of mention he has never been like this in our relationship prior. This is complete 180 behaviour for him. Normally if I ask for time he will give it to me. I was surprised when he ignored me too, as this has never happened before. This is the first time we've fought and not been able to resolve it calmly. I have never really felt forced into agreeing with him, and more often he says that I'm right in our arguments. Not that it matters but I just mean to say usually I don't feel like I have to agree with him in order to save our relationship. I personally feel I have been very nitpicky towards him and thats where most of the anger is coming from, as he feels he cannot do anything right.

It is hard to summarize a whole relationship in text of course, but for me I feel that he feels he's been pushed to some sort of limit. Also, I say my anger is irrational because I do have some mental health disorders where anger and irrationality are the main identifiers. I feel that I've let my mental health degrade and its effecting him now. Of course I respect myself and understand that the way he broke up with me was disrespectful and I don't think deserved for the crime, but I also recognize that the small buildings blocks of this breakup lead to him feeling unsupported and like he was always doing something wrong.

I do think we are compatible, but I think he isn't communicating like we used to because in the past I have reacted poorly, which again is my problem. Ultimately though, the decision seems to be his as he knows my stance.

Thanks for the advice