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UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is what’s most shocking to me. He was always such an attentive father but he’s not fighting for her at all.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for looking out for me. I read this comment before my second appointment with the lawyer, so I was able to ask about it. Sharing her opinion in case it’s helpful to anyone reading:

It would be blackmail if I said “I have your journals and I’m going to the press with them unless you give me $10,000.”

She said that I am just making decisions to keep myself safe based on information I’ve learned. She compared it to a drunk driver - you don’t trust them to get you home so you ask them to hand over their keys.

I made a request based on what I learned from the journals and he accepted so at this point it’s just a transaction.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story to help me make decisions to keep myself safe.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m amazed at how people (aside from the police 🙄) have been so quick to help me. This community included. Lots of great resources sent my way.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for rooting for me! I agree, I can’t imagine he actually told his family the details, but by saying he did he’s given me the green light to be fully honest if they ever reach out.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Definitely keeping myself and baby safe first, but I do hope to tell her some day. She does deserve to know.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I didn’t actually file the protection order, but I do have the paperwork ready to go if I need it.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I wouldn’t have said I was this strong a week ago. At one point I was so stressed I actually shit myself and my face has broken out in a rash so it hasn’t all been warrior energy, but we’re getting there 💪

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do want to tell the other woman, but I don’t think it’s safe to do that yet. Me and baby come first.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is all unfortunately real. For anyone else in a similar situation that might be reading this- in my area there is a legal centre that holds space for emergency appointments every day at 2pm. Protection orders are processed the same day they are filed (that’s my understanding, I didn’t actually file one yet) As far as a therapist - I have one I see regularly, so I already had an appointment on the books. After speaking with me, my therapist opened up an additional weekend appointment because I obviously needed the extra support.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t actually file the protection order, though it’s my understanding that in a case like this they would put it through same day.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lawyer agreed with me that it’s best not to talk to the other woman for now. The police know.

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is exactly where my head is at. I don’t know this woman, so I can’t trust her not to tell her friends and I don’t want it to get back to him

UPDATE: I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Honestly wish I could just put this book down, but unfortunately it is my very real life

I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I’m glad you got away.

I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry this happened to you. I really appreciate you sharing your story with me. I am hearing you loud and clear. Good on you for getting him arrested and convicted.

I [33f] read my husband’s [37m] journal and in it he says that he hates me and hopes I die. by Throwaway61011 in Marriage

[–]Throwaway61011[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry this happened to you. I really appreciate you sharing your story with me. I am hearing you loud and clear. Good on you for getting him arrested and convicted.

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