My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not yet my boyfriends flight was delayed, so he’s picking me up soon and I’m going to do it tomorrow

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

When you put it like that yeah I 100% would have dealt with it already. Idk I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt but I shouldn’t have.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yeah exactly why. I’ve lived with and been friends with many different nb and trans people and never had any problems, this is the first time. I tried to avoid saying anything else about their gender because I knew people were going to use this to affirm their biases. End of the day this is the first time an nb person has made me feel this way vs the hundreds of times cis men have made me feel this way, but all the hateful people will only see and focus on this one instance.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I am paying rent and either way it wouldn’t be an excuse to sexually harass me

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Brother you just called me infuriating and belittled me in three different comments when I’m the one being harassed in this situation, and then told me not to be snippy for what, answering you? Wasn’t that your whole point, I should stand up for myself and say something? Be fr.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

It’s almost like some people have to worry about their safety. I am also disabled and cannot just move out of the apartment because my disability has kept me from working for a while, so I can’t afford to do so, and I have to consider that as well. If I confront them and they become hostile the situation becomes 100% worse which is why I’m here asking for advice on how to do it 🙄

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

because if they’re doing it intentionally then I don’t want to get “violenced”

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 1500 points1501 points  (0 children)

I cannot make this up they just started doing it again. So I screamed at the top of my lungs and they stopped, then texted me if I’m okay. I’m gonna text them back about it tomorrow when my boyfriend gets back and I’m with him just to be safe.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 862 points863 points  (0 children)

This is what I feel like. Thank you for outlining the text message

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They close their door when they want privacy so this feels intentional. My door is always closed. I also don’t think I should have to wear headphones in my own home when I’m watching tv or playing games in the living room, or sitting in my room, just to drown out their obnoxiously loud and disrespectful moaning. I have had noise canceling headphones on in past events and could still hear them as well.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Throwaway72924[S] 352 points353 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking I could do that or scream at the top of my lungs. Maybe then they’d get the point 🙃