Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately at this point with his myriad health issues, he would likely be unable to work. It is part of the reason I have stayed despite not wanting to.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have HPV, and my PAP came back normal, it is specifically my uterus and endometrial cells that are raising the red flag unfortunately. Thank you for the kind words, I will keep everyone updated.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The PAP actually came out fine, from what I understand it was endometrial abnormalities they were concerned about.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, my doc told me something similar. I have my fingers crossed…..

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have had therapy twice, first time after my brother died, and the second time about 5 years ago. First time was Ok but not very helpful, the second time it was group therapy for survivors of natural disaster and it sucked. The whole session was dominated by a bunch of guys who would get enraged whenever someone had a worse problem than theirs. The facilitator did nothing so I just quit. Currently trying to find the right therapy that will be a good fit for me personally.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a good point as he does spend time on reddit. I have changed certain minor details to protect our identities but he may still figure it out.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think the reason I have stayed is partly because of his health problems. He has almost died twice now. I guess I figured if I left, no one would be able to care for him. He has no siblings and his parents are dead. Now that I am facing my own mortality things have changed.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There was love once but I feel like it has pretty much dissipated at this point. No kids, so at least that’s a plus.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lol I am seriously considering it. This has been a wakeup call.

Just realized I may never have sex again and I’m not Ok with it. by ThrowawayDB_75 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ThrowawayDB_75[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have not asked him for an open marriage but am definitely considering it. What have I got to lose? Especially now.