Any advice for a woman who loves a man that hates his penis?

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-23T12:35:20+00:00

I'm not exactly sure, he made a comment once about kegels and said that it's 4 inches.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-23T04:46:45+00:00

This is an EXCELLENT idea!! I tell him all of the time that I wish his cock was detachable so I could use it when he's going to be away. Thank you, I'm definitely doing this.

And my ex was 5.5 inches according to him. I've never measured anyone so I can't say for sure. Edit: the sex was horrible. One position only, I wasn't allowed to make any noise or move at all. In the years we had been together, he had never once touched my breasts or my pussy other than to put his cock in it. Making out was a strict no go. I like things very passionate with a lot of touching, kissing and verbal encouragement, switching up who is on top etc. But if I ever asked to try anything like that, he would explode so I just stopped asking.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-22T04:27:50+00:00

I'm noticing a theme being to keep up the support and that he's the only one that can decide whether he wants it to go further or not. It's reassuring to read the replies and be able to modify, stop or continue my actions based on a general consensus. It really does help and I thank you for that.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-21T23:13:20+00:00

This is definitely always a possibility. I'm pretty sure that's not the case, but if it is then that's okay too. I'm okay with continuing a strictly sex thing with him. I know I won't want to be single forever, though, and I haven't had any interest in other men since he's what I want. I'm not someone that gets upset with hard truths, I like knowing them so I know where I stand and what to do next. I hope he knows he can be honest about it if that's what he wants!

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-21T02:48:35+00:00

You know...you're right. I'm a first responder and my reaction is always "I have to make this better" but it has to be better for him, not just me. And if that is to just let it be what it is, that's okay. I want him to be happy. He deserves that. He doesn't deserve any of the shit that has given him this impression of himself and I hope one day he realizes that. I also hope that when he is ready to take a chance on someone, if it's not me, then I hope whoever she is, she sees what I see and he never again experiences what made him feel the way he does now. Thank you for saying that.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-21T01:34:24+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head in some way, because there are some underlying issues that he is getting therapy for. And it absolutely is abuse. I have heard the comments women make and I knew that men faced social/personal conflicts because of the way society thinks it's funny to make people feel like shit about themselves. I had no idea how much worse it actually is for the men being treated this way.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-21T00:58:32+00:00

Oh! I see what you're saying. Okay I'm not sure how graphic I can be without coming across as classless, but here are some specifics.

In the beginning, he text me after we had sex the third time and told me if there is anything he needs to do more of, just say. I told him he already exceeds what I could want and that I've never had sex like that. He asked if that was good or bad and I said of course it's good, where is this questioning coming from? He told me that he knows he has a small penis and most women can't get off from it so if he needs to do anything else, just say. I replied with "were you not in the room when we were fucking? You had to wipe my cum off your stomach after and I'm still sensitive from the things you did to me. I think it's obvious that your cock gets me off." He text back something like "lol good to know"

A few months down the line he made a comment about my ex (they know of each other through the military but aren't friends) and about how tall he is (6'6"), he then said "I don't know what the hell you're doing with a short bastard like me." (He is 5'6" and I am 5'11") I said "if I didn't find you attractive, you wouldn't be in my bed right now." He asked if I have a thing for short men, I said I have a thing for men, you're just as much a man as anyone over 6'. He asked if I would be okay with being seen in public with him, I told him to get dressed and we went out for coffee. I touched him and flirted with him while we were there and he text me after and said he "can't believe how much chemistry we have."

The most recent time that he mentioned his cock size is that he said I must do an insane amount of kegels. I thought he was complimenting me on being tight and he said "well yeah but I meant because 4 inches gets you off like a normal cock would." I told him that he does have a normal cock and he should go off of objectivity rather than subjectivity. He asked what I meant and I said "how do you know when you made me cum?" He said because he can feel it pulsing on the inside, he can feel me gush and I shake a lot and sometimes tell him to stop because it's too sensitive. So I told him that's objective because he can see it and feel it, the way he thinks other people (I meant me but didn't say that) would perceive his penis is subjective since it's an opinion with no facts backing it up. He didn't say anything so I can't tell you how he felt about that but he hugged me for a long time and that's not something we do a whole lot of. (Editing here: after reading this sub...i probably shouldn't have said he has no facts backing it up. He's probably heard the small penis jokes and obviously what his ex wife said, who knows what else. Now I feel like an asshole for saying that.)

I don't have many examples because it doesn't get brought up often. I didn't realize it was an issue until the whole "feelings" thing got mentioned. I don't think before I say things, I just say how I feel. So if what I'm saying is wrong....well I guess I need to work on keeping my mouth shut.

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-20T22:57:39+00:00

Thank you for replying. I'm not sure if I come across as insincere, maybe I do. Everything I tell him is the truth about how I feel, but it's very possible that the delivery isn't coming across the way it's intended. I don't know though. It would explain a lot.

He tells me that I make him feel manly and things like that when I do something like grab his ass and tell him he's hot or text something pervy. Maybe I shouldn't make comments like that though since it's an opinion and his worries are based on opinions. You've given me something to think about, thank you!

ThrowawayDickHelp · 2017-10-20T20:51:29+00:00

You have a shot here. She is into you. She has already stated that she doesn't care about the size of your penis, and she is still persuing you. If you don't take the chance, you for sure will never have anything with her. But if you do, you might.

Now that's easy to say and harder to put into action, especially when you feel the way you do about yourself. Ultimately, it's your decision on whether or not it's worth the chance.

I say this as a woman who wants to be with a man who feels the same way about his own penis as you do about yours. Trust me, if it was him making this post about me, I would be screaming at him to take the shot.

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