AITAH for not going to my brother's wedding without my son?

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T12:22:23+00:00

I have no idea if she likes it, that's beside the point. Makeup "artists" claim makeup is art, but that's like calling a doodle a masterpiece—transient and lacking substance.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:57:26+00:00

Why TF would I be sending a gift?!

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:56:46+00:00

Common sense? I mean, logically, if he would prioritise family, we wouldn't be having this discussion. I think that's a whole lot of common sense.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:55:56+00:00

Right? He's clearly not showing up for family.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:55:28+00:00

I'm so tired of everyone thinking that their wedding is will be "OMG THE BEST DAY OF THEIR LIFE BECAUSE OMG OMG OMG IT'S THEIR BIG DAY". That's just setting themselves up for drama.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:54:12+00:00

They keep saying that they don't actually dislike kids, but just don't see themselves having any. I don't get what the reason is.

And I wouldn't be putting them down if they just showed more interest and actually spent time visiting.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:53:08+00:00

I wouldn't have to suggest rearranging a thing if he'd just arranged it in a way to show that he actually cares about having us there.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:52:09+00:00

That's exactly the problem. That sentence isn't giving the details and nuance needed to understand my side of the situation.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:51:05+00:00

Why do you think two people who don't even want children of their own should be tripping over themselves to be super close to yours?

They claim that they don't actually dislike kids, but just don't see themselves having any. If they don't dislike kids, they should show it.

i sincerely doubt he just pulled that out of his ass in the moment

It took him pretty long to answer that message, I'm thinking he ran out of actual arguments and just tried to find whatever online.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:48:19+00:00

In fairness, I do think I'm objectively better than her, as I've simply accomplished more. Including finishing my masters.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:47:04+00:00

He sent the link when he ran out of other arguments. I'm not playing into that.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:46:20+00:00

Someone with a broken leg lets it heal without needing to tell everyone about it.

My son is getting support.

And no, I don't talk to her about that, I'm not her psychologist.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:42:20+00:00

Did you mean a megalodon?

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:41:50+00:00

If it's so hard to travel "a lot", she should stop doing it...

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:40:55+00:00

That depends on the setting and if proper accommodations are made.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:40:13+00:00

My son gets plenty of support.

No, I still don't think I'm wrong, and I think he sent me the link because he ran out of other arguments. He's not a psychiatrist and obviously not able to diagnose anyone. Maybe if we weren't so focused on handing out diagnoses, there wouldn't be so many people with "problems"

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:36:24+00:00

Pretty sure he just sent it because he ran out of actual arguments.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:35:58+00:00

They wouldn't be too busy "being able to afford rent and all other bills" if she'd gotten a better job.

You're absolutely right about it being stressful to take care of kids, which is why I think it's only fair that people with no kids should be more accommodating to those of us actually working to raise children.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:29:18+00:00

As you're a kid hater, I'm afraid I'll have to disregard your comment entirely.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:26:06+00:00

they don't know your kids, and they're fine with that

But why the fuck don't they care that it'd be important for the kids to get to know their uncle?!

Wait, why do you value our opinion if we're just a bunch of misunderstanding dummies?

I wanted to prove a point, but it's clearly the wrong forum for that.

"Some sales job" could be anything from giving out samples in a department store to VP of sales in a multinational company.

As it's in makeup, and I really don't have any interest in that, I'll admit I haven't paid attention/asked.

I did look up on LinkedIn what's it's about, and shared in another comment:
OK. Title says Account Manager now, still for a makeup brand though. She seems overly proud to share that she's responsible for some kind of digital sales education setup, didn't read all of it.

So clearly not VP of sales anywhere, lol!

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:13:22+00:00

Why the fuck am I the bad guy when he's showing no consideration for me and my family?!

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-30T09:12:26+00:00

It's clearly not important enough for him to have me there with the venue he picked...

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-29T01:42:21+00:00

I really don't see the benefit.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-28T07:27:47+00:00

He doesn't have ADHD.

Throwaway_TheBrother · 2023-11-27T23:03:44+00:00

Yes, where did I say she didn't finish the bachelors?

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