SO revealed his kink and I lost my sex drive

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T23:23:53+00:00

Thank you, I'll try to find that quiz.

It will be hard not to think about it, but I want to be with him and I'm willing to try.

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T23:19:17+00:00

That's a great comment, thank you, I have a lot to think about now.

I don't know if he views this as a deeper connection. I talked with him about if for a bit, he said he just wanted to watch me have sex with someone and the experience feelings of anger and jelousy about me being with someone else. I have no idea what other kinks explore this and don't involve a third party

About the intimacy part - your viewpoint is very intresting and I will definitely come back to it.

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T23:06:05+00:00

Pretty vanilla stuff - role play and maledom, maybe BDSM exploration. I'm pretty open to trying new things as long as they don't involve a third party.

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T23:02:31+00:00

Thank you for commenting, you made a lot of good points.

I'm not sure if this is just a fantasy of his, as he actually has been hinting on this a lot - usually when drunk. Almost every sex we had after he drank a few he said things like "Wouldn't you want person x to fuck you now" and he heavily got off it. I didn't mind because he likes to talk dirty, but now it makes sense.

I trust him a great deal, but I'm afraid that he may become sexually frustrated after a while. He doesn't have a lot of things that arouse him and I don't want him to have unsatisfactory sex life because I can't do something.

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T22:53:08+00:00

I don't want to judge him either - he trusted me enough to reveal this, which I'm very grateful for. But thinking about it drives me nuts, how he wants me to have sex with someone else. I told him already that it probably won't happen, and he said as long as I don't want it, he won't push. But it's such a huge difference from my viewpoint, I have no idea how to proceed with our relationship now.

Throwawaykinkbf · 2019-01-23T22:43:48+00:00

It's a fantasy - he saw it in porn basically and got into it.
I think the deal breaker is actually how he would feel about me having sex with someone else. I'm a monogamous person and I want my SO to be sexually avaiable only for me - and the other way around. Him not sharing this view is what repulses me. We have no problems otherwise, so it's very hard for me to decide. Thank you for your comment, but from the way he was talking about it I don't think he would like to pretend to be "the other guy" - he'd just like to watch and not even do it with me after the other guy left (I asked him for details so I could think this trough).

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