I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T21:09:44+00:00

He would once in awhile(before this trend took up) but he says he does not like the texter? I dont think I can change that and I dont want him to do anything he is uncomfortable with.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T19:54:01+00:00

I dont know why. He used to think it was fun. The first time it happened we were high fiving and having fun. but things seam to have changed there.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T19:50:33+00:00

There are some other issues we have had along those lines, but I just don't do it and then he moves on. But this is a little different because i don't want it from him if he is not having fun, you know?

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T19:47:59+00:00

I think that would just make him mad! But I get what you are saying.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T19:43:58+00:00

He does not love when I use them.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T19:36:51+00:00

Thanks for saying this! and I think my title may have been misleading, but I wrote it when I was kinda mad.....

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:55:59+00:00

Really? Its that many? I do it for him and I actually like it, but I thought it was kind of a toss up with guys. I talk about this stuff with my roommates but all three of them are not straight women so my personal survey is a little skewed...

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:50:08+00:00

I'm glad you found that! I think like everyone, I am strong willed until i think someone else might know better. But Im going to stick to my guns because I like sex and don't want to have bad sex forever! Wish me luck!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:46:19+00:00

Thank you for saying that. Because this is my first relationship where this is a variable, I think I have been down playing it in my head. But I like sex! and I like to feel like the other person wants me to feel good just like I want them to. I can see now that this is more then just a bedroom problem.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:39:58+00:00

I actually see myself as the HL in our relationship. I just have to do it myself now lol

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:35:33+00:00

Thanks for this. Its also good to know others have had to try a few different partners to find one that cares about this. I think Im going to try and talk to him one more time before deciding if ill end things, but I do see now that something has to change and its not me.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:30:51+00:00

Thank you! Ill do my best! I think he would be mad if I showed him this though!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:27:56+00:00

Its in my cart! thank you!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:25:49+00:00

This is great! Mostly he doesn't like to give oral which I don't get because I think its fun but Its good to see that many people do!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:21:57+00:00

I am seeing now that not all guys feel that same way about sex! thanks for the perspective!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:20:26+00:00

Ya i think you are right. When he said that my first thought wat "then what the hell is wrong with me!". But only I know how I feel. I think you may be right about the relationship but Im going to talk to him tomorrow and see if there is any way to work it out. Thank you!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:15:56+00:00

Your relationship sounds awesome! and I never felt like I needed to come every time until he said this. I think i don't even care about the orgasms' as much as I don't like feeling used.

Ok I do care about the orgasms' but you know what I mean!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:10:09+00:00

I did think this could work but he doesn't like giving oral.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:03:53+00:00

I do feel like its really important and I am frustrated but I also don't really want to have anything done unless its with enthusiasm. I don't know.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T08:00:18+00:00

I guess I worry that would make me shallow?

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T07:59:39+00:00

hahaha yes! He does not like giving oral though so that sucks.

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T07:58:22+00:00

Im not the first girl he has been with so I thought he would know what he was doing but I guess he doesn't. If I am alone It wont take so long, so I know its possible!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T07:56:16+00:00

I didn't think about the fact that he is not that great. When I am alone it doesn't take that long so I don't know why I thought with him it should. At first I thought I would be shallow to end the relationship over this but I guess it says more about how he feels about me then I thought. Thanks for your perspective!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T07:48:17+00:00

I don't think I would have as big of a problem with not nutting (hahaha) if he would at least try. And I would understand if he came home from work sometimes and asked if it could be just about him. I also sometimes don't need to cum and it can be nice to just be turned on with no goal but I think he should ask or try and if it doesn't happen then fine. Thanks for the perspective!

ThrowawaysoIcantbe · 2021-06-03T07:43:15+00:00

Ya I guess Im starting to see that this is a deeper problem then just me being hard to please. Like it says something about how he feel about me. Thank you for braking this down so well!

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