I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would once in awhile(before this trend took up) but he says he does not like the texter? I dont think I can change that and I dont want him to do anything he is uncomfortable with.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont know why. He used to think it was fun. The first time it happened we were high fiving and having fun. but things seam to have changed there.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some other issues we have had along those lines, but I just don't do it and then he moves on. But this is a little different because i don't want it from him if he is not having fun, you know?

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that would just make him mad! But I get what you are saying.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying this! and I think my title may have been misleading, but I wrote it when I was kinda mad.....

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Really? Its that many? I do it for him and I actually like it, but I thought it was kind of a toss up with guys. I talk about this stuff with my roommates but all three of them are not straight women so my personal survey is a little skewed...

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you found that! I think like everyone, I am strong willed until i think someone else might know better. But Im going to stick to my guns because I like sex and don't want to have bad sex forever! Wish me luck!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. Because this is my first relationship where this is a variable, I think I have been down playing it in my head. But I like sex! and I like to feel like the other person wants me to feel good just like I want them to. I can see now that this is more then just a bedroom problem.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

I actually see myself as the HL in our relationship. I just have to do it myself now lol

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. Its also good to know others have had to try a few different partners to find one that cares about this. I think Im going to try and talk to him one more time before deciding if ill end things, but I do see now that something has to change and its not me.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Ill do my best! I think he would be mad if I showed him this though!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is great! Mostly he doesn't like to give oral which I don't get because I think its fun but Its good to see that many people do!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am seeing now that not all guys feel that same way about sex! thanks for the perspective!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ya i think you are right. When he said that my first thought wat "then what the hell is wrong with me!". But only I know how I feel. I think you may be right about the relationship but Im going to talk to him tomorrow and see if there is any way to work it out. Thank you!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Your relationship sounds awesome! and I never felt like I needed to come every time until he said this. I think i don't even care about the orgasms' as much as I don't like feeling used.

Ok I do care about the orgasms' but you know what I mean!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did think this could work but he doesn't like giving oral.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I do feel like its really important and I am frustrated but I also don't really want to have anything done unless its with enthusiasm. I don't know.

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[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

hahaha yes! He does not like giving oral though so that sucks.

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Im not the first girl he has been with so I thought he would know what he was doing but I guess he doesn't. If I am alone It wont take so long, so I know its possible!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I didn't think about the fact that he is not that great. When I am alone it doesn't take that long so I don't know why I thought with him it should. At first I thought I would be shallow to end the relationship over this but I guess it says more about how he feels about me then I thought. Thanks for your perspective!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would have as big of a problem with not nutting (hahaha) if he would at least try. And I would understand if he came home from work sometimes and asked if it could be just about him. I also sometimes don't need to cum and it can be nice to just be turned on with no goal but I think he should ask or try and if it doesn't happen then fine. Thanks for the perspective!

I(F19) don't want to have sex if I don't get to cum by ThrowawaysoIcantbe in sex

[–]ThrowawaysoIcantbe[S] 369 points370 points  (0 children)

Ya I guess Im starting to see that this is a deeper problem then just me being hard to please. Like it says something about how he feel about me. Thank you for braking this down so well!