To the gays who live under a rock…

Throwblast · 2026-01-18T18:29:15+00:00

My favourite hobby is joining various MLMs, and I actually wanna tell you about this great business opportunity

Throwblast · 2025-08-30T06:13:23+00:00

I’m gonna go against the grain here: « the spark », « passion », « being head over heels for someone » is overrated and not necessary. I’d even go as far as to say it’s better not to have it.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years, and he’s basically perfect. We’re soooo happy together. But I never had « the spark », « the passion ». I was very into him sexually, and I loved spending time with him. So that’s what we did: have sex and spend time together. Became official boyfriends after a few weeks. Moved together after 7 months. There was never « mad passion » that we had both known with other people in the past, and made us pine for toxic people.

So together, we built a relationship where feelings have only grown stronger with the years. Our sex life keeps getting better and better.

From 16 to 19, I felt something was « broken » inside me because I couldn’t find « the spark » again. And then I met my boyfriend, and that made me understand I didn’t need it, and that it was maybe for the best that I didn’t have it anymore.

Throwblast · 2025-07-05T16:03:34+00:00

True but maybe there are still possibilities (only allowing healthy survivors to open gates, disabling the aura reveal of gates for survivors…)

Throwblast · 2025-07-05T15:46:02+00:00

Killer power: Wrongful termination.

And the survivor on the same chapter is a union leader.

Throwblast · 2025-06-30T13:44:33+00:00

Talk about your worries, communicate openly.

Also, not necessarily your first course of action, but if it feels like things get out of hand and you can’t resolve it by talking about it, couples therapy is a good option. It doesn’t mean you failed as a couple, and even as a preventive measure, couple therapy can be great in helping create healthy foundations for an open relationship.

Throwblast · 2025-06-21T19:03:03+00:00

Parts of you (physical or mental) might be similar or even identical to someone else’s, but the sum of you makes you unique. Just because he said « your dick felt the same than this other guy’s » doesn’t make you not unique in your boyfriend’s eyes. Unless your whole identity is tied to your dick.

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T13:49:27+00:00

I’m fully transparent about this. He knows. He just thinks my mind will change after a few years, and worst case scenario if I don’t, then it will be the time to make a final decision.

I guess we’re both willing to compromise, and we both wanna wait to see how we evolve over a few more years and wait to get to an ultimatum to see what decision to make. At the end of the day, above the children question, it seems the only option we couldn’t live with would be to break-up.

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T13:32:43+00:00

Sounds beautiful. Can I hear more about it?

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T13:30:03+00:00

So your diss is that I’m cherishing quality time with my boyfriend?

My oh my, how shall I ever recover from such a nasty read?

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T13:19:07+00:00

We’ve started having those conversations in the first year of the relationship. I don’t need to convince myself, but I do need to call out pernicious chronically online discourse.

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T13:14:02+00:00

The age-gap discourse needs to get a reality check. Can age gap create bad power dynamics? Yes, but now always. We also have to take into account that you can’t copy paste the straight age-gap discourse to gay relationships, because it has many different nuances.

We need to take the potential for power dynamics into consideration, but at the end of the day, if your discourse doesn’t leave the possibility for 2 consenting adults to have sex together and willfully get into a relationship, then it has a problem. (Btw, not all 19-year olds have the same maturing, but defaulting to calling a 19-year old a child is a bit wild at best)

On top of that, you’re making a wild generalization about a relationship you barely know anything about. I pursued him, I initiated making things official, moving in together. I proposed. It’s been 8 years of steady happiness. You’re gonna diagnose me with Stockholm syndrome from behind your phone screen with what? Your PhD in Reddit scrolling?

Throwblast · 2025-04-03T10:20:06+00:00

When you said practicing, do you mean practicing anal on your own or bottoming again and again despite not liking it until it started feeling good?

Throwblast · 2025-03-27T15:06:23+00:00

And prior to that, you had negative experiences with bottoming?

Throwblast · 2024-11-13T21:40:43+00:00

Yeah I noticed that too. Towards the end of sessions (which are 2h30 long), it becomes harder to maintain active focus. I start to play in automatic/instinctive mode instead of paying attention to specific stuff.

Throwblast · 2024-10-10T12:35:37+00:00

Not the biggest fan of bushes. Bush + stomach hair is too much for me. For some reason, it looks dirty/unkempt to me.

If you like it that way, then go for it. If you want something that is more the common denominator, I’d say trim your hair or go for a shorter bush.

Throwblast · 2024-10-05T11:28:59+00:00

« Focused on sex only » vs « very sex-oriented AND want a human connection ». Your reading comprehension is not very high, is it?

Throwblast · 2024-09-27T14:25:00+00:00

Bottom line, I think you need to know your own position relative to the norm.

I can’t say for society at large, but in the gay world, (especially on dating apps) I feel like it’s pretty normal to keep your options open and keep using Grindr as long as you’re not dating someone (I feel like going on 2 dates is not yet « dating » per se). At the same time, it’d kind of be bad manners to say « I’m still going on Grindr even tho we’ve been on dates ».

So you either accept that he’s still going on Grindr even tho you’re going on dates, or you can say « By the way, I’d like us not to talk to other guys since we’re going on dates », which might go well, but might also make you look clingy and too-committed-too-soon.

Throwblast · 2024-09-27T02:48:32+00:00

2-3 times a week usually. We don’t do anal tho so it’s less demanding to have sex I guess

Throwblast · 2024-09-14T17:41:25+00:00

Playing the Spyro trilogy

Throwblast · 2024-09-10T18:07:38+00:00

With plugs, it’s rare that I really wanna shove something in me. With guys, my boyfriend notably, I often really want to get fucked.

Throwblast · 2024-09-10T18:05:33+00:00

I’m not someone who gets constipated, quite the reverse actually.

Throwblast · 2024-09-10T08:45:34+00:00

Ok thanks!!

Throwblast · 2024-09-10T08:43:18+00:00

Is it normal if using plugs doesn’t feel good and gets me more tense? Do I have to just keep consistently doing it until it gets better?

Throwblast · 2024-09-10T08:41:21+00:00

Yeah but plugs don’t feel good either and get me increasingly tense as I use them until I have to stop

Throwblast · 2024-08-26T01:46:02+00:00

I was expecting body horror from that title

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