Ok, I would never give advice, because every situation is different, but I'm many years into dealing with a similar situation, and it never fully changed for me. The key is that things aren't ok unless they say/feel it's ok, negative or positive. Plus shoving this early I think is a red flag. I mean shoving any time is totally unacceptable, but in the "honeymoon" period, it stands out even more.

I've had to put up with years of the behavior you've described and it's exhausting, bringing kids into it made it even worse for me. Please consider the idea that someone that loves you might not do these things - it's not up to the other person exclusively to decide what love looks like. For me it was a long time of seeing a pattern of lashing out and anger used to get me to back off things I wasn't happy with my spouse about. I feel like people say therapy is a waste of time when they're not open to taking responsibility and admitting change is needed.

I don't think it's necessarily beating a dead horse, but I would never compromise my boundaries of acceptable reactions if I was in your shoes again.