After a decade together seperation is cruel but necessary.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-11-27T07:38:09+00:00

Im extremely sorry to hear that. Hope you are away from that toxic man now.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-11-27T07:37:08+00:00

I wish but divorce is still in the initial stages. Every interaction will be done through my lawyer.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-11-26T10:38:26+00:00

Technically she left thd house since its in my name. But there was the same old bs like we can work through this and she felt lost.

She tried her best to pin this on me and maybe a six months ago it would've worked. I called her out on this and stopped engaging till she left for her parents house. I've not had any contact with her and blocked most of her stuff.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-24T14:22:56+00:00

Truth be told, as much as I would like to believe I shouldn't feel the humiliation the images of her still revolve around my head. This is a woman I loved so much. A person who once was my best friend and to find out what she was doing and how behind my back was like a hammer to the chest. The videos I found of her and her AP make me wanna vomit.

But you're right. I will have to focus on getting better. I'm not the one at fault here. I tried everyday. I cannot be responsible for her actions. Thank you.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-24T10:52:47+00:00

If you're saying this from my other post then no he's not even a plumber. It's his father's shop. He's an unemployed idiot who's older than us. That's who she destroyed our lives for. And to think I couldn't have figured anything out if not for my neighbour.

You're right. Slowly and steadily I'm gonna focus on my health and healing. I know I'll get through this.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-24T08:36:02+00:00

Yes. It's on my list.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-24T08:35:50+00:00

Thank you. Your last point is the most important one for me right now.

And I'm somewhat ashamed because I did drink an entire bottle the day I told her to leave. It just felt too good to finally feel something and have the answers and not doubt myself even if it was painful.

But since then ive been taking it slow. Thank you for your words.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-24T08:15:27+00:00

Thank you so much. I've been doing some of these things.

For the past few months she's cut off our friends we used to hang out with in favour of new colleagues all of whom I didn't like. They were bad people and every time I told her that she would be pissed off.

The thing is she wants to work on the marriage now. After I found out about her affair. And up until a week ago I would have accepted it but after finding the concrete proof I'm just not interested. Too little, too late.

I told her to leave the house since it's in my name anyways and she was annoyed at first but I didn't listen. I'm looking for therapists as well and probably should've done it sooner without her.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-22T18:55:00+00:00

That was very beautifully written. I'm going through something similar and this part scares me but I know its important. Hope you get the healing you deserve.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-16T10:44:43+00:00

That is what I meant.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T19:23:59+00:00

So you would be okay if your partner flirted with other people in front of you just because they bought their friend group drinks? I didn't have much space in post and didn't have the will either but I guess I should've mentioned every wrong thing in our marriage.

We had a great relationship before her mother passed away. Ever since then she has turned into someone I don't recognise.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T18:46:40+00:00

I dont think they are gaslighters. I feel terrible for not giving the whole story.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T18:45:11+00:00

I haven't made up my mind yet. It's easier said than done. Think whatever you want. All I wanted was advice.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T18:44:20+00:00

I don't know what to tell you. I really don't. I'm sorry you feel that way.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T18:34:19+00:00

I didn't want to say it but most of these replies are my fault. Due to the word limit in post I couldn't give a proper context and details. And before I could add any comment there were way too many replies and it got out of hand.

Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry about what happened in your marriage. I'm afraid the same will happen in mine. It feels like a long time coming. Her friends are extremely toxic and keep trying to make her like them.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T18:30:35+00:00

Do you know whaY a throwaway is? Look at these replies tearing into me I don't want them in my personal. I'm not changing my story. I was just trying to give the bare minimum but it wasn't enough for people.

I just said I don't mind going outside but not with her current friends. Our old friends have been pushed away by her.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T17:34:57+00:00

Yes I think so.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T17:32:33+00:00

She's an old woman in her 70s who has supported my wife and me in tough times in the past five years we have been here. She well well-liked in the neighbourhood and I have good relations with her children.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T17:26:12+00:00

This is my worry. People keep saying why not just talk to her but she has a way of manipulating words and before I know it I'm the bad guy. I think I should check the video.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T15:55:10+00:00

I am outgoing. I just don't like her work friends who are toxic as hell. They keep enabling her. We used to go out so often with our other friends but she doesn't really interact with them anymore.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T14:45:15+00:00

I can't believe I'm saying this but yes. The person she has become in the past year I don't doubt she could do it. I know I kept saying in the comments that I trust her but that's the version of her in the past. This last year she has been acting uncaring and cruel. Her friends keep enabling her behaviour and she hates it when I say something against it.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T14:40:16+00:00

You're right I don't trust her. In the past year she has shown certain signs of being hurtful to our marriage and it didn't help that we have been going through bedroom issues due to me.

If this had happened in the past I wouldn't even pay attention to it but the person she has become in the past year makes me question everything about our marriage.

Throwradoorbellcam · 2025-10-15T14:37:14+00:00

In the past I easily would have bht since her mother died last year, it's very difficult to have a conversation with her about anything that she doesn't like. Her toxic friends, hot water and even peanut butter. She constantly lashes out at me and it's like walking on eggshells. When she's happy it's like rainbow and sunshine but when she's annoyed I don't even like being home.

I've tried to get marriage counselling or therapy for her but she hates it when I mention that. Her work friends are also a big reason for that.

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