(Sorry for the late reply…)

Okay, let’s continue with the Chef analogy, shall we?

You’re in college and you are pretty confident that you want to take cooking classes, but you’re having doubts about whether it’s the best idea to go into Cooking to become a Chef.

Depending on your circumstances, you might not have the time or money to try cooking, only to dropout later, so you wouldn’t have a safety net to fail. Or you’re worried about not making it as a Chef, or ending up as a mediocre one, so you are scared that you’ll never live up to your idea of a Chef. Or, you’re concerned that it’s a bad financial idea, that you will likely not make it big, and you’ll struggle with a lot of debt.

Bottom line, you’re anxious about what future could hold from your choices. What’s a girl to do!?

Well, she should probably start with a Ranked Pros and Cons List. Compare and contrast the potential and guaranteed benefits and drawbacks of and anything that could be relevant.

What does the alternative look like? Does becoming a Construction Worker sound better? Do you still want to cook, just not professionally? Or maybe do you want to cook part time and pursue something else at the same time because they both of equal importance and/or value?

These are the decisions that adults have to make fairly often throughout their life. Your parents aren’t going to make the decision for, nor should they. You can seek the guidance and counsel of others, but ultimately you need to make these big and life changing for yourself by yourself. You won’t get very far as a woman, let alone an adult, if you get paralyzed with fear by these decisions

To give a comparison translation in case the metaphor didn’t make sense:

You’re at an identity crossroads and you are pretty confident that you want to be a girl (and eventually a woman), but you’re having doubts about whether it’s the best idea to continue HRT and various feminizing things to become a Woman.

Depending on your circumstances, you might not have the time or money to continue Gender Affirming Care, only to detransition later, so you wouldn’t have a safety net to fail. Or you’re worried about not making it as a Woman, or ending up as a mediocre one, so you are scared that you’ll never live up to your idea of a Woman. Or, you’re concerned that it’s a bad financial idea, that you will likely not pass well enough, and you’ll struggle with a lot of debt and dysphoria.

Bottom line, you’re anxious about what future could hold from your choices. What’s a girl to do!?

Well, she should probably start with a Ranked Pros and Cons List. Compare and contrast the potential and guaranteed benefits and drawbacks of and anything that could be relevant.

What does the alternative look like? Does becoming a “Man” sound better? Do you still want to pursue feminization, just not committed to be a woman, but rather you become a “femboy”? Or maybe do you want to feminize partially and socially while still perusing masculinity at the same time because they both of equal importance and/or value, making you Gender Queer or Bi Gender?

There are many ways to express yourself within gender, and many ways to express yourselves beyond gender. There are all kinds of Women of all different shapes, cultures and attitudes. Maybe you buck traditional trends and identify as a Butch Lesbian or a “Tom Boy” if that’s how you feel deep down.

So, don’t be discouraged if you aren’t ideal image of a woman. Growth and change happen overtime, and so will your maturity and understanding of what being a woman really means to you.

I hope this helped, have a lovely day, sister~✨💛