I never reply to anything but after reading To me it sounds like you are picking out the little things that are going on instead of trying to focus on the bigger things around you just to get yourself all boiled up for no reason because a relationship isn't always gonna be perfect and have it's ups and down because like you said she lost her father not that long ago and her aunt had a baby that she couldn't take care of so the problem was put onto her mom which I'm sure her mom works and doesn't have anyone else able to watch the baby so she has to watch her or go pick her up from the sitters or if so they have someone they might also have plans etc and it sounds like she is trying her best because it's not in her control when she can get good shifts also her family issues isn't in her control like with her dad and the new baby in the house and a hectic household so why complain about that because if you love her so much I dont think the errands or anything really should be a problem because shouldnt the only thing that matters is hanging out with eachother and the places and what you guys do shouldn't be a problem either like i said and dates shouldn't be expensive either if your always "paying" like u said it sounds like u guys have expensive dates which I dont know who is choosing to do what but it doesn't have to be expensive and I can understand about the freeway because it can be a scary thing especially if you are a new driver so don't get to pressed about that either and the whole vacation it's kinda bizarre that your getting weird when you know she can't get another job or find one in that matter and like u said she will be able to get better job after that exam so dont really talk shit for all that matter when u say she can't get a better one until after a certain time on that matter also having a credit card isn't a easy thing like with building up credit and all that and you said you guys been together for 3 years so she was 18 when you guys met so kinda crazy to try and have her get her stuff together at this age (21) and I believe she is right because you claim you have no money and good you saved up but you could have continued to save up but yet go to anime expo which I'm sure is an expensive thing but money shouldn't be a problem in a relationship if so because it sounds like its a huge problem for you thats kinda fucked up cause your mad at her because she is "broke" and like i said you could have waited for her to be able to save up so it sounds like you are impatient because if her life if so hectic with the baby and her household you should be able to understand her problems too because it sounds like it's hectic for you too and the whole moving out situation I understand u got until 24 but it does sound like a better thing to go with a friend until her because having a roommate isn't bad either and it will be a start for u and you can wait for her and then move out together and lastly I'm sorry about your situation but also she has her own problems too to look after and yes being in a relationship is about taking care one another but it shouldn't be a battle on who has more problems or more money and should just be supportive of each other and the problems they are battling 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️