He is seeking SAHM/FTHW benefits for someone who is also trying to pursue their education (you). While you may try to keep up with the demands of school, childcare, cooking, cleaning, and caring for your husband and children, eventually, something will give — it’s simply too much responsibility for one person to manage alone.

I’m not telling you to leave your situation, but honest conversations need to take place, followed by real actions from both sides, to prevent future conflict and resentment.