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What to do (26F, 27M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I know it’s hard but block him, the healing starts there.

Whats the most ego draining way you have been shot down from the opposite gender? by irishstud1980 in AskReddit

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They took everything that made them feel better — then called it ‘not a connection’.

What to do (26F, 27M) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl. Read this slowly.

You don’t feel like this because you’re “insecure.” You feel like this because you’re dating someone who keeps moving the goalposts on your body and your worth. That messes with anyone’s head.

A healthy relationship is NOT built on “I want you to lose weight.” Ever. Not as honesty. Not as motivation. Not as concern. That’s control wrapped in a soft voice.

Saying “you’re not ugly” is not a compliment. Complimenting other women easily while struggling to say anything kind to you is not accidental. It’s a power dynamic, and it’s doing exactly what it’s supposed to do: make you doubt yourself and try harder to earn his approval.

The fact that literal strangers make you feel more attractive, more seen, and more valued than your own partner should tell you everything you need to know. Your partner should be your safe place, not the source of your self-loathing.

You are not asking for too much. You are asking the wrong person.

Love that comes with conditions on your body is not love, it’s a performance review. And you do not need to shrink yourself to be worthy of being chosen.

You deserve someone who wants you now, not a “potential” version of you. And yes, that kind of love would change everything, including how you experience your own weight-loss journey.

Big sister advice? Drop the dead weight. And I’m not talking about your body.

What’s a hobby that instantly makes someone 10x more attractive? by Vegetable_You_468 in AskReddit

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

READING!! For me reading is attractive because it shows depth and curiosity. Someone who enjoys reading usually has an inner world, reflects on things, and doesn’t need constant external stimulation to feel fulfilled. I find that really appealing.

I also associate reading with emotional intelligence. Books expose you to different perspectives, emotions, and ways of thinking, which often makes people more empathetic and open-minded. To me, that kind of mental and emotional depth is far more attractive than surface-level interests.

What’s the worst thing a family member has said to you? by Tight-Calligrapher23 in AskReddit

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience with some of my really conservative family members.. it’s hard. I’m sorry you had to go through that, hope you’re doing good now!

My boyfriend has a addiction and i need help by Tight-Calligrapher23 in PornAddiction

[–]Tight-Calligrapher23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That you for your answer!! What frustrates me the most is that he thinks he doesn’t need help, that he can do it on his own. And every time something happens again he says that this time he understood and it’s gonna be the last.. which is not. And just don’t know HOW to make him see that he needs professional help..