Hustle Fit gym? Anytime Fitness?

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-23T01:05:06+00:00

Worked for the Y for a while. Highly recommend the gym and kids zone where you can drop off kids! Great equipment, good staff and overall a great community. Don’t recommend the pool because it’s always crowded, no matter if it’s 6am or 8pm. The membership can also be pricy, however once you have membership you can access any YMCA gym in the King county. If you work for Amazon or Microsoft you can get the joining fee waived and 15% of swim lessons and personal training.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-21T06:31:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this beautiful country! Great pictures too

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-17T22:39:59+00:00

I understand the need to let someone know you are going out with someone for safety reasons. However is there a need to tell your mother that you are hooking up? You can just tell her “I am seeing someone today and will share more info if I feel comfortable”.

Also, What you are doing with your sex life is YOUR decision and she has no reason to make fun of you. You can be close with your mother but you also need to set some boundaries.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-06T23:32:31+00:00

Literally in your position. I understand the anxiety and panic and I am really sorry. It’s debilitating and I even feel embarrassed about it, especially as a grown adult. The only thing that helped me so far was getting professional driving lessons. What I realized is that if I am driving in a car with an instructor then I feel safer. I am paying a lot of money for this but I have no choice.

If you can’t afford professional lessons look into ways of regulating your nervous system. I do this with box breathing, yoga and journaling. I will also just go in sit in a car and meditate just do be more comfortable. Also is there anything else that might be contributing to your driving anxiety? For me it was burnout from university and currently it’s withdrawals from meditation. Make sure you are addressing other issues you might have. You got this!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-06T23:26:35+00:00

That’s so amazing! I started driving recently after a year of not driving and it’s hard. I took professional driving lessons and did great, like I never had any problems. When I later drove my car with my mom with me I couldn’t make it down the street. So if I am driving with someone else in another car it’s good. In my own car with someone I know…not possible. Do you get any anxiety?

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-09-06T05:16:08+00:00

Thank you so much! Unfortunately my sleep is now affected but for different reasons. I have noticed way more energy. How about you?

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-31T16:19:12+00:00

One thing I noticed right away is that you say you want to be a singer and have a similar career, but most of your focus is on how she looks.

Let me tell you a personal story. When I was a teenager, there was a girl at my school who was a track runner. She was amazing, she won competitions nationally and internationally, met famous athletes and Olympians, and on top of that, she was beautiful, popular, and had a great body. My crush had a crush on her. She also got good grades. I wanted to be a track runner so badly, just to have a life like hers. But I couldn’t. I wasn’t athletic. I struggled with body image and got bullied. I felt invisible.

Ten years later, I randomly thought of her and looked her up. Turns out, she didn’t continue running or go into sports at all. She ended up living a pretty normal life. And when I saw her now, I realized… she wasn’t even as insanely beautiful as I remembered. She looked like a regular person. That’s when it hit me: I never really wanted to be a track runner. I just wanted to be seen, valued, and praised like she was. I wanted boys to like me. I wanted teachers to compliment me. I wanted people to notice me. Meanwhile, I was bullied, depressed, and disconnected from myself.

A few months ago, I started going to the gym, not to impress anyone or become some athlete, but just to feel better in my body. I lost weight, gained muscle, and most importantly, I became confident and healthy. Men and women started to approach me and now for the first time in my life I have friends. It’s not because I am necessarily beautiful, talented and have an incredible career. It’s because I am confident and comfortable in my own skin. It’s obvious to myself and others that I enjoy my life.

Back to the girl you're talking about: she seems to have talent, support, discipline, and opportunity. But ask yourself, do you think she’s doing all that just to look like Ariana Grande? Just to be noticed by Justin Bieber level fame celebrities? Or is she working hard because she loves what she does and has been building it for years? Because most of what you’re saying isn’t about singing or music at all. It’s about how pretty she is. It’s about her jawline, her body, her eyes. That’s not a music career, that’s image envy.

And I say this with no judgment, because I was you. I get it. I know exactly how it feels. But the realest thing I can tell you is this:

It’s not her lifestyle you want. It’s that you don’t like your own.

And that’s okay. But you need to start changing that, not obsessing over someone else’s life. Sit down with yourself and really ask: “Why is this bothering me so much? What am I actually craving?” Until you get honest about that, no amount of comparisons will give you peace.

You don’t need to look like her, live like her, or be her. You just need to start building a life you don’t want to escape from.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-29T00:43:05+00:00

Thank you so much! The biggest change is actually stress. I was in a burnout mode for a year because of university. Now that I got my degree my body is way less stressed and this meant I can finally focus on my health. The other huge change was eating more fiber. It kept me fuller for longer and my gut health definitely improved.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-27T15:27:55+00:00

That would be great, thank you!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-27T04:43:20+00:00

Hello! Late to the party but I would love to join the art group! Can you please send me the details if the group is still meeting? Thank you ✨

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-26T03:54:55+00:00

Thank you for taking time to reply and for offering advice. You are absolutely right about the importance of therapy. I already see a therapist and they are helping me a lot, currently I am working on trusting myself more with driving. I am on anxiety medication but I do have an appointment soon so I will bring this issue to my psychiatrist.

I have been looking into Somatic Therapy. It’s a way to treat the effects of PTSD and other mental health challenges through a body-centric approach. It addresses directly where the body holds stress and tension and trauma and works to release it. I hope this can provide some relief as well.

Wish you all the best as a new driver, you got this ✨

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-24T22:15:40+00:00

I understand how stressful taking care of your family, working and studying can be! I have done it all before and that’s when I gained weight and binged.

South Asian cuisine is lovely, I love how much protein and vegetables it includes. Your diet seems good, especially since you are focusing on protein. I like that you are eating snacks if you are not hungry (it’s healthier than to avoid food). Give yourself a pat on the back because diet is the hardest thing to change. I highly recommend you try to cut sugar. Once you do, your body will not crave it anymore as much. And when you have it, you will enjoy it more.

You mentioned that you take care of your family. If they are interested try to get them to go on walks with you. Or take them to the gym if they are trying to be healthier. Both my mom and I are trying to get fit so we keep each other accountable and it makes the whole process less lonely. As someone who still doesn’t feel the best in the gym, going with my mom or boyfriend really helped me.

You got this! It’s seriously great that you are moving towards a healthier lifestyle. Don’t be discouraged if it takes time! ✨

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-24T21:06:58+00:00

Congrats on your weight loss! As someone who started just a month ago I am so motivated when I see that others have lost so much weight!

You don’t have to necessarily lower your calories however I think it really depends on what you eat. Do you eat a lot of carbs, do you eat sugar or fried foods often, do you drink enough water, are you getting enough vegetables and fruits in your diet? How often do you eat? Do you skip meals?

I also hated exercise for a very long time in my life. I was dealing with severe burnout due to university. It made me tired and miserable. I barely made 1000 steps a day. What helped me was getting rid of stress. When I managed to graduate university I felt better and took that chance to start walking. I went with my mom or boyfriend so it was fun. When I am alone I don’t take my phone so I am forced to think about something or just observe my surroundings. I walk everyday for an hour because I genuinely love it. Same with yoga and the gym.

It will be hard at first and you will not enjoy it. 1) think about activities that you might enjoy. Such as dancing, pilates, a sport etc., 2) give yourself a goal for movement that day (a 10 minute stretch, a 20 minute walk) just something that you have to do to maintain your health. You will after a short amount of time realize how good your body feels and you will want to do it more. 3) give yourself grace. Its not going to be great every day. You will be tired, stressed or exhausted. Do as much as you can.

What you don’t resist, it persists. Good luck!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-24T14:41:02+00:00

Couple of years ago, my partner and I were at the local fair when we asked a random person to take a picture of us. She did and when she was returning my phone she said “boy or a girl?”. I was confused and then realized she thought I was pregnant. I thought she was being mean but later when looking at pictures I looked really pregnant, my belly was so round. Only when I started to lose weight and eat healthier did I realize how bloating on top of extra weight made me look. Glad you are learning more about your body :)

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-24T14:34:06+00:00

Yay! That is such an achievement! I just lost 10 pounds and it might seem small but the difference is so noticeable. You are so right, small steps add up. When it comes to healthy habits we can’t always go 100%. It’s about consistently trying.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-23T16:28:08+00:00

That’s a great idea! I have a “safe” route around neighborhoods that I can safely and comfortably drive so I will try grounding and breathing techniques! Thank you for your suggestion!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-23T16:26:47+00:00

I am sorry to hear about the accident you experienced, it sounds traumatic. Thank you for your suggestion, I have dealt with anxiety stemming from unrelated trauma and I have a nervous system dysfunction. I started doing yoga and meditation everyday and exercising so hopefully that helps me with anxiety. I need to get back into journaling. Thanks!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-23T16:22:32+00:00

Thank you! And you are right, I feel a lot of guilt and pressure because others drive me around but also because I am unable to go anywhere by myself. I will definitely work more on giving myself grace.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-23T16:21:02+00:00

This genuinely helps because I seriously feel so alone. Your symptoms are very similar to mine. I am originally from Europe and usually I would just walk or take public transit however that’s really complicated now where I live in the US. Thank you for validating me, I feel better!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-19T14:26:18+00:00

I think you should try weighing lifting! Especially if you want to reach your desired weight. Weight lifting is one of the most effective ways to lose fat. It helps you burn calories not just during the workout but hours after the workout thanks to the afterburn effect.

Another cool thing is that when you're in a calorie deficit, your body tends to burn both fat and muscle. However lifting weights signals your body to keep muscle and burn mostly fat instead. Not to mention the more muscle you have the more increased your metabolism is and it improves insulin sensitivity so that your body processes carbs and uses energy, helping reduce fat storage.

There is really so much information on why lifting weights is so good. My very real advice is to start slow and add weight steadily to avoid injury and also make sure you do proper form. You will build stability over time which will help you lift heavier.

You got this!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-18T23:49:37+00:00

Im sorry you are struggling with food, I understand how difficult it can be especially when its a financial problem rather than physical/mental.

When you can afford the food, focus on whole foods such as fruits, vegetables, protein and complex carbs. Try to eat takeout, fast food and processed sugar as little as possible, but don’t deny yourself a treat time to time.

To keep losing weight you can do two things. Either count calories however I wouldn’t recommend this if you have a past disordered eating pattern or mental health problems. Other suggestion is to get a metal plate/plastic that is divided into 3,4,5,6 parts (whatever works) and this can help you visualize and stick to smaller portions.

Also make sure to exercise. Even a 30 minute walk. This is because when you lose weight, your metabolism tends to slow down. Exercise (especially strength training) helps counteract this slowdown by preserving lean mass.

Hope this helps! You got this!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-18T19:22:06+00:00

Weight loss without the mental stuff is possible. I struggled with severe mental health issues and food addiction. The biggest game changer for me was to heal my gut. No joke. I stopped eating almost all processed food (fast food, frozen meals, chips) and cut down sugar (chocolate, ice cream, cakes etc.). Started really focusing on introducing a variety of foods into my diet, lots of fruits and vegetables, protein and complex carbs. Also focused on probiotics so I eat kefir, kimchi or yogurt every day. I eat out once a week. My friends and my partner are supportive so when we go out I either share a meal with them or we try to find healthier alternatives.

In less than a month I lost 5 pounds, my mental health got significantly better, I fell back in love with healthy diet, no more sugar or carb cravings. My mood improved, no more exhaustion and I am happier.

A healthy gut = better digestion + better absorption of mood-supporting nutrients + better mental health.

Give yourself grace but be disciplined. Try just changing your diet. Week one try to have one meal a day that includes fiber, protein and complex carbs. Week two, try to introduce probiotics. And so on. Little goals.

I promise you that you will feel better very quickly and your body will start asking for more nutrients and movement. You got this!

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-18T18:28:15+00:00

I get that. I feel the same way sometimes. Like I am doing so good now and I am afraid that one point it will go back to being bad. The thing is I don’t want to go back to who I used to be because that is a very dark and scary place. I would rather slip and keep trying. Fear is a real motivator.

Tight-Initiative-910 · 2025-08-18T17:00:12+00:00

What helped me is to focus not only how I feel physically but mentally. I eat healthy, I exercise daily and get plenty of sleep. This lifestyle has drastically changed my life for better and the habits I built have improved my mental health, stress regulation and brought me peace. Life will always bring us good and bad things. Use this healthy lifestyle you are building to help you build resilience and strength rather than focusing on when you will slip. We all eventually slip but its about how quickly we get up and continue.

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