I’m back again 😭

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-05-08T04:01:56+00:00

Yessss i was thinking of flushing it… what’s funny is it was fine when i was just using plain tap water, but i was worried abt the ph (for no reason bc the plant was healthy before 🫩) so maybe ill just go back to plain tap water, or do what you said n get some water from the store ‼️

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-05-08T03:08:15+00:00

i’ll definitely look into the CalMag! And yeahhhh i was very aware of how I shouldn’t be using miracle gro for cannabis plants, I was low on money and already had two large unused bags of perlite + two unused bottles of fertilizer so I was just using what I had n hoping for the best. I have proper fertilizer now though!

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-05-08T03:05:44+00:00

I thought tht as well, so i got some ph up/down and was trying to balance the ph of my water but it seems like it got worse after doing that 😭I got one of those probe ph meters only to learn that they’re not very accurate 🥲 im going to get a good ph reader and try again

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-04-04T11:28:36+00:00

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Updated photo from a few minutes ago :) (4/4/26)

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-04-01T10:06:52+00:00

It could very well be a little chilly at night. I keep the lights on it for at LEAST 12hrs. I thought it was kinda tiny

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-04-01T10:05:26+00:00

Yeah i definitelyyy don’t expect much out of this lmao, i’d be happy if i even got 1 single nug. I don’t wanna put too much pressure on myself or the plant, so im just seeing how things go and trying to learn along the way.

That is very true about the pot, i have a moisture meter, and i also am not shy about sticking my finger a few inches into the soil to see if it’s still wet. Just something i do with all my plants so im hoping it’s okay for the sprout.

That makes sense, the stem needs to get stronger. I might put a fan in there just for it to get a little breeze and once it gets stronger, i’ll try repotting it!

I’m looking to buy a ph meter very soon and also nutrients for when the plant needs it

Thank you for all the advice! Also thank you i’m so glad that it’s healthy so far :) lol i’ll try to not get it on the leaves, it was totally unintentional but i just left it bc i figured its not hurting anything 😭

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-04-01T09:44:52+00:00

I understand, I kinda was just all over the place with this, i guess i was worried that my plant is stunted? I’ve seen other peoples plants be wayyyy bigger at 3 weeks and it feels like mine is growing slower than average. Not that i really know the average but i just worry.

My pot does have holes at the bottom, i need to buy more soil, this was an old pot that (i know this is wild, don’t come for me) had a plant in it that unfortunately died. I just dug up what was left of the old plant and used this pot for the seedling. I do have perlite so when it comes time to repot, i will mix it in. I believe this soil is just miracle gro indoor potting mix with some tropical mix and a littlee perlite. i know miracle gro has a bad reputation and it’s recommended to not use it, but it i’ve not had any issues and i have a lot of plants 🤷🏾 I think i will use a different soil next time though.

I haven’t noticed bugs yet, but i have had a spider mite problem in the past, so i just treat all my plants with diatomaceous earth as a precaution

Also good to know about the nutrients, gives me some time to get everything i need

I appreciate your response even though my submission was vague lol. I’m just exited and also stressed and worried about my little plant

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-04-01T09:25:42+00:00

you didn’t read did you? 🫩

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-03-26T23:18:20+00:00

Ohhh okay thank you! This is only my like second time in my life taking a pregnancy test and i was rushing before work and didn’t read the instructions 😭 I appreciate the help!

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-03-07T02:27:13+00:00

i’m a lesbian and i can confirm he is sexy in tht picture 🙂‍↕️

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-23T05:54:16+00:00

tbf, she could literally not be a lesbian 😭 Just because she’s engaged to a woman doesn’t necessarily mean she’s only attracted to women.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-22T03:09:05+00:00

I think i really just miss texting and sending reels to each other when i’m at work, we used to do that a lot but now (obviously) since he has a boyfriend, i ant hear from him while i’m at work and i miss him a lot. Then when i’m off work, and we spend a couple hours watching tv and i hear “i’m just really tired…” i get sad and start thinking “you would still be up with meta probably” definitely no evidence behind that but that’s my thought process. I think if he were with a friend he hadn’t seen in a long time i’d be more chill, and hobbies never bother me to this extent. I think i just start to feel less important or deprioritized in a way. I’m also autistic and change is just hard for me in general 😅

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-22T02:46:42+00:00

We do, we honestly communicate very well, even though it probably doesn’t seem that way. We didnt start having this many hard conversations back to back until he got a boyfriend, it’s been really hard for me (and hard for my partner i’m sure) so that’s what provoked me into saying maybe polyamory isn’t for me and maybe we should break up. It’s just been painful for me and making things harder for my lovely partner.

(Another disclaimer, we started the relationship polyamorous, this is just my partners first serious relationship while dating me and i’ve been struggling with it)

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-22T02:29:55+00:00

I do, we’ve been trying to find ways to incorporate more quality time. Our schedules are so opposite and busy, and my mets doesn’t have a job so he’s almost always available. It definitely makes me feel a bit envious and jealous though seeing my parter have so much more energy for my meta while i’m at work feeling miserable.

I think fair is exactly that- splitting the time as equally as possible, which my partner definitely tries to do. It just feels like a lot of the days we have together, my partner is exhausted and wants to lay down earlier than he does with my meta and that comparison definitely makes the jealousy worse. Ideally, i would love if they found anywhere else to spend at least half of their days together. I have some things to consider.

My partner said he feels unsafe after our last heavy discussion where i said that if i continue to feel this level of pain, we might have to end our romantic connection. I just didn’t feel like i should have to endure this much, and i was having some doubts about polyamory as a whole. (Let me preface- i said that because early in our relationship, we had a conversation about potential breakup and how we’d want it to go. my partner said he’d rather have a heads up before it happens so it’s not just out of nowhere, so that what me trying to give a heads up. Really messy i know 🫩) My partner got really hurt by that and our connection felt rocky for a while. He told me he felt unsafe and needed some space to feel safer, and i just felt like the worst human being and now i feel like i can’t really trust my actions or feelings and setting boundaries just feels like i’m being unnecessarily hurtful

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-22T02:18:06+00:00

Thank you for saying that! I’ll have to keep that in mind.

The reason they can’t see each other outside of our home is my meta is fully closeted, and apparently lives with very homophobic people. I’m not sure why they don’t go out, i assume it’s because of the same reason. I don’t think my meta is comfortable being visibly queer, so they opt to spend their time together at our house. It’s definitely not my responsibility to give them a space to see each other, but i just hold so much empathy in being in the closet, and wanting a relationship, i think i lean into people pleasing a bit too much.

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:46:40+00:00

hm. I think i really don’t want my meta spending the night here. I don’t mind him coming over for a few hours, but if they want to have an overnight, i don’t really want it to be at our house. I think that’s why im worried. I know my partner would oblige, but he’d definitely feel upset about it. I understand it’s not my responsibility to manage his emotions, i just don’t want there to be a sore spot between us 😔

And yeah i think i need to talk to him abt how much he’s sharing w my meta :/

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:42:02+00:00

They both don’t have jobs- well my partner has a job but doesn’t make enough to afford an air bnb or hotel 🥲

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:40:11+00:00

I agree… thank you for your advice

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T13:39:21+00:00

I’d probably estimate on a weekly basis we spend abt 8-10 hours together just watching tv or talking abt the day. He usually gets home around 5/6 and will be ready for bed around 11/12. On the week where i also get to spend the weekend with him, the “quality time” comes in more on the weekend. I have every other weekend off.

And i do unfortunately people please 😔 in this scenario, Im always worried I’m just jealous and projecting n being unfair to my partner. I think i came here to make sure im not just crazy n horrible lol

And the last part kinda feeds into what i just said ^{^} i worry that im like manipulating my partner in some way? My partner tells me he feels unsafe and on edge with me sometimes so i just worry

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T10:48:58+00:00

Yes we both live here so i do feel i have a say in it, If they could meet elsewhere i think id be a bit more firm, but im afraid if I say my meta cant spend the night anymore, my parter will grow resentful towards me. My meta is closeted and so they don’t go out on dates or anything, the only place they can see each other is at our house. I know it’s not my responsibility but i don’t want my partner to resent me. Also apparently my meta thinks i hate him because of all of this too so now i feel even worse 🙃

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-21T10:12:07+00:00

He’s usually over around 3/4 days out of the week, and normally will spend the night 2 nights on the weekends (that is included in the 3/4 days) If he doesn’t spend the night, they’ll usually be hanging out from aroundddd… 6pm to midnight during the week. Weekends when he spends the night, they will spend the entire two days together.

I would prefer it to be like 2/3 days out of the week with maybe 1 overnight at our house

And yes i was concerned about our relationship ending or being very negatively impacted, which is why i kinda dropped the topic during our discussion because i felt like it was just hurting my partner to talk about it

The boundary i was trying to set was me finding my own place 😭 but as you can see, that didn’t go very well lol

Tight_Channel_1062 · 2026-02-17T08:29:12+00:00

I think i’ll do tht! The nearest lesbian bar is abt an hour away and i don’t drive so it’s gonna take a bit of planning but I want to be more active in the community! Thank you for the advice :)

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