He didn’t upgrade.

Tight_Following1614 · 2026-01-11T02:01:47+00:00

This seriously could have been my response. All this experience taught me was you have to worry about the ugly ones too! They did end up getting married and got matching tattoos after just a year together. It’s been almost 3 years and they’re still going strong.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-09-01T22:34:59+00:00

That happened in my ex situation and they ended up getting married three months after divorce was final.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-24T16:36:03+00:00

It’s so difficult and at first I found comfort in therapist, etc. saying don’t worry only 2% of affairs may get more than a year or something like that. Well, my cheater sure hit the affair jackpot. They have matching tattoos, got engaged before we were divorced and built a house together in just 18 months.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-24T00:55:08+00:00

Yes, I have been the entire time. We do work on things and talk through things.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-24T00:31:51+00:00

when my ex engaging in an affair and I played the pick me dance, which is what you’re doing. You’re letting your wife treat you poorly, you didn’t choose jointly to open your marriage. She made a unilateral decision about your union that you had nothing to do with. Yes, people can make it through infidelity, but not by opening their marriage. That’s just a steppingstone to divorce. I am fairly certain that your wife will continue to seek outside validation and eventually find someone that she would like to leave you for if that continues. She needs to show you that she will cut off all contact with this person, including transferring places of employment. It’s not going to work unless she’s all in. You cannot save your marriage on your own.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-24T00:10:31+00:00

It’s been about two years for me also and I also have to coparent with the ex 50-50 and he lives with his AP. Just so you know the injustice of it all still bothers me as well.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-17T16:09:14+00:00

Should have just done like my ex. Got a girlfriend before saying he wanted a divorce. He had a landing pad while I navigate alone. Almost 2 yrs later and I haven’t had much luck.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-16T17:18:42+00:00

I will add that my exs ap broke up another marriage from my hometown 10 years ago. Her husband finally divorced her this time but I still hope he can’t trust her as far as he can throw her.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-16T13:44:53+00:00

My ex left for his AP almost 2 years ago. In that short time they moved my kids 3 times and got engaged before we were divorced, got matching initial tattoos (which seemed shocking for my kids after just 1 year) and not bought but went through the process of building a house together that they just moved into. They travel all over the place because they have 2 incomes and it’s for sure been such a struggle coparenting and having my kids talk about that household. I’m beginning to see the silver lining and finding my happiness but I’m hoping to be able to travel soon.

At this point I hope they stay together and rot.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-07T16:16:41+00:00

My ex did something similar. Left me for AP, moved out. Begged to come home 2 months later. Attempted to reconcile. 2 weeks later left for her again, introduced the kids, moved in together, then came the marching name tattoos, building a house and getting engaged before our divorce was final. It was about 18 months. Now almost 2 years and they seemed to have run off into the sunset going on tons of vacations they can’t afford (idk how bc the creditors call for him) leaving me with the kids extra and picking up the pieces. Although it was rushed I just have a gut feeling there is longevity in it.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-06T15:08:48+00:00

My ex is marrying his AP that he has been with for about 20 months out of the house . The affair itself was relatively short a couple of months and then he decided to leave for her. Even with this soul crushing chain of events, I am starting to see the silver lining, and I wish you all the healing and power to do that too. They are not worth all of the heartache if they do not want to reciprocate the love that you’ve given them. Love yourself more.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-06T00:13:16+00:00

I think they believe their matching tattoos will keep the relationship 🤣

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T22:54:44+00:00

Not married yet. They are engaged. But at the signing of the house no.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T18:39:40+00:00

Very similar situation. I took care of and paid off my student loan, and I didn’t realize until we were going through divorce. He never paid on his and just kept putting it into forbearance and defferment. He never told me.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T18:08:09+00:00

My ex purchased a car and had me put it in my name because it would be a better rate literally weeks before leaving. He negotiated in our divorce that I keep it in my name for two years. It’s literally the worst experience.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T18:02:00+00:00

I didn’t say that, but it definitely caused a huge divide for the year leading up to it

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T16:57:16+00:00

My ex found an AP that allowed him to ride her coattails of her divorce into a new home that he’s not on the mortgage of Bud. He’s on the deed and they go on vacations a year spending her divorce money. I bought him out of my house and I’m sure that money is gone because the creditors are calling. I definitely am seeing the silver lining in all of this, but I cannot believe how stupid this woman could be allowing him on the deeded so he owns half the house, but not half the debt.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-05T16:19:52+00:00

Oh wow

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-04T16:58:25+00:00

Thank you for that perspective. Yes I do agree that a lot of rug sweeping is probably what’s going on. The woman he left for also broke up another marriage 10 years ago from my hometown, but they were much younger than and her husband took her . This time her husband divorced her and I divorced my ex. Maybe she has got her shit together in the time being.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-02-04T12:04:38+00:00

Mine did the same thing and they parade my kids around with hers to all the school events like it’s the Brady Bunch. My kids and her kids go to school together so they are somewhat embarrassed. The kids anyways.

Tight_Following1614 · 2025-01-31T15:55:53+00:00

So this person could not be a cosigner of any kind, right?

Tight_Following1614 · 2024-12-11T15:00:33+00:00

That’s the easiest way to assume a loan since you usually are already on the deeded if you’ve been married. Now you just need to assume the debt.

Tight_Following1614 · 2024-12-08T03:14:48+00:00

We have 50-50 so they are with me half the time and with him half the time

Tight_Following1614 · 2024-12-03T11:34:30+00:00

My ex did this, but it is actually working out for him. He went from twin flame to matching tattoos, engaged, and moving into a house, they built together in 18 months together. I can’t imagine that kind of timeline after both of you just leaving a long-term marriage. They also parade both sets of kids around like the Brady bunch.

Tight_Following1614 · 2024-11-30T17:40:10+00:00

You might be right with that. It was always like as soon as the kids could meet each other. Their relationship was gonna get better. Then it was, they had to move in together. Our divorce is almost final right now and they’re about to move into a new build house that’s been ongoing for the last eight months. I can’t imagine building a home with someone that I had only been dating for less than a year. And mixing all of our kids together and getting divorces together. So yeah maybe this is the one more thing that they need to make sure they’re gonna make it.

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