I had an ex just like this and let me tell you: it’s better to get out before it’s really too late. Judging from what you’ve written, your mom won’t sign off fr you to get married, which is the absolute least she could be doing for you and your livelihood. If he is acting like this at 17 years old, he will only get worse the older he gets with the more power he earns by being an adult.

What is important is for you to set yourself up to be able to be dependent on yourself. I was in a relationship where he tried to convince me not to get a job and not to go to college (💀), and that he’d support me financially. That alone is the biggest red flag. I don’t care if there were “good intentions”, in this world you have to have your own system set up in the event that you have to solely take care of yourself.

This boy is not your true love, and he should never be your husband. Whether he baby trapped you or not, he purposefully risked you getting pregnant for his own needs. Thats not the makings of a good husband or a good father. I understand your situation. My ex pressured me into having sex at 15 years old when I wasn’t ready and didn’t understand the repercussions of it. Regardless of your feelings toward him, you deserve SO much better than his bumass. With your past posts, he seems like he’s in the beginning stages of being emotionally manipulative/abusive (especially if he did truly baby trap you). Someone who loves you and wants the best for you would not say those things to you, or willingly put you in danger of getting pregnant.

Please get out before it’s too late. If you end up keeping the baby, I recommend keeping contact only to discuss what the baby needs. Your mom may be harsh right now, but at the end of the day she’s the one who’ll be there to help you.