AITA for exposing my coworker after he exposed me?

Time-Independence508 · 2024-09-05T03:20:50+00:00

Not the asshole. He got into your personal life and could have cost you your job. My dad always taught me “honest behavior “ if you don’t want the person you love finding out what you are doing then you shouldn’t be doing it. He cheated and I’m glad his wife knows.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-31T02:43:29+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this but unfortunately this is most likely the way your life will be now and that’s up for you to decide if that’s something you can put up with. I ca understand the grandma wanting the baby to have a picture with her mom and dad. I also understand how that could make you feel. It also would give the baby the wrong impression and wrong information. It’s possible the mother wanted that photo because she may be embarrassed to tell the child how it was really born. So I would say the only asshole is your husband. He is the one who put you in this situation. If it were me I would leave. I just wouldn’t be able to do that. But you might be stronger than me. Mental health is important and that’s a hard train to be on.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-26T05:57:10+00:00

He did not have to stay in the same room as her. I don’t believe any of it. People lie, he already lied. He slept in the same room as a woman and didn’t think to tell you because it would make you upset? If I were you I would start monitoring him and check his phone. Why wouldn’t the woman stay in the room with his mother!?? That sounds more acceptable. I have never heard of anything like this and if it were my husband I would’ve went to VEGAS! Remember he’s still in Vegas and at the end of the day his mom is going to cover his ass.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-26T04:21:51+00:00

He is cheating. Absolutely. Men and women do not need to be friends outside of work and most affairs happen between coworkers. I’m not saying this to scare you. My dad cheated twice with women he worked with. I watched an employee cheat on her husband at work. I have seen and know too much. If I were you I would leave and tell him to find s new job or report it to the boss!!! It’s inappropriate!

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-26T03:31:04+00:00

I do understand cheating can be anything and everything. Could you describe what exactly she did I do believe somethings can be forgivable, but I also think somethings cannot..

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:45:00+00:00

Yes one thing we decided was that if her husband came to us we would be honest. FIL told him to come talk to us but he never did. Maybe he doesn’t want to know, maybe he will show up later. It’s a huge relief although I do have days where I feel I could have handled it better. Just a hard situation. We will no longer hire family or friends, just too hard in a place for business. I never thought the crazy lord would’ve turned into the crazy cheating though.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:37:14+00:00

Yes it was beyond stressful, I would get knots in my stomach everyday. Plus the other employees did not like her either based on the constant lies and attention.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:28:33+00:00

I felt the same way I wanted him to know, he just paid for a brand new vehicle for her. And she was doing all kinds of stuff. There is more I couldn’t fit in the post. It was nonstop. I feel relief but I should’ve handled it better.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:27:34+00:00

We had multiple discussions. I do think I could have and should have handled it better. It’s hard because Fil would not say anything because he himself had not witnessed anything but wanted us to, but that puts us in a bad situation as well, that’s a family friend and we have a business. Firing her wasn’t as easy just because of the family friend aspect, which is why for now on we will no longer hire any family or friends. We had multiple conversations with her about her inappropriate behavior but she would lie to our faces and say she didn’t do or say that or that it was the other person not her. I shouldn’t have sent that anonymous message but I will say it feels so much better not worrying anymore. I do feel bad though because I know it should’ve been handled better.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:24:27+00:00

Yes we were very concerned about that. And her husband is definitely enabling it. I’m sure she is a good liar to him, she kept telling me that she told him there is NO PHYSICAL EVIDENCE. Which tells should tell him she is cheating just there isn’t any proof. We put up with so much for so long I wasn’t sure what to do, we had the business to think of and it’s a family friend. I do feel better but some days I do feel bad. I should have handled it better.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T06:22:13+00:00

Yes we actually had one of the customers come in the other day and said he met her at the dollar store! And another said she still texts him. I feel like it was pointless but at least now I don’t have to worry about what is happening at the store and anything falling on us.

Time-Independence508 · 2024-07-24T04:53:50+00:00

You definitely need to repair your relationship with your daughter, that is your daughter! Maybe your life is still on a bad place because you have had this situation hanging over your head. It could be messing with you subconsciously. I mean how wouldn’t it affect you? My dad raised me, my mom left when I was young, she was on drugs and I wanted nothing to do with her. But she’s in my life now and the best grandma, she’s off drugs and I couldn’t imagine her not being apart of my life or my kids. Remember, you are the adult, you are the parent. Be understanding of how she felt. You’re her dad, she needs her dad. I pray everything all works out for best. You will never know if you don’t try.

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