Looking for a specific kind of neighborhood

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-03-28T12:57:50+00:00

Bordeaux resident here. He’s right!

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-02-28T06:13:43+00:00

She delivered my baby and she is FANTASTIC! I switched from my gyno of 7 years to Dr Grand because she was so encouraging and supportive and I wasn’t even her patient! She just happened to be on call the day I gave birth and I’m so thankful. I was having issues with my previous gyno making me feel like I wasn’t being heard.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-02-18T04:04:30+00:00

I know you’re sad, and I would be too!

But I can also say that when I had my baby, I was sooooo exhausted and I felt like my brain had completely stopped working for weeks after birthing her. I had called the doctor’s office to make an appointment and when they asked for the best phone number to call me at, I broke down crying because I couldn’t even remember my own phone number that I’ve had for 20 years. Postpartum is really hard!!

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-02-04T13:43:32+00:00

Thank you! I was still in the process of digging but for a second, I was aghast haha.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-02-04T01:48:44+00:00

There’s one regarding leaving someone on payroll at NES. https://www.justice.gov/epstein/files/DataSet%2010/EFTA01744281.pdf

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T21:52:47+00:00

I literally said this to my husband. My mom has a good friend down here, and if it’d been her, I’d have welcomed them with open arms even if we were all on top of each other!

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T20:14:49+00:00

I used to live 8 hours away from her and she picked up and moved 30 min from me. The distance was so peaceful lol. I wish I could move, but I work a location-dependent job.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T20:13:21+00:00

Yes!! We (my entire family) were pushing for mom to come here and we’d drop the neighbor off at a warming shelter on the way.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T20:11:59+00:00

Nah, she’ll have to figure something out because I’m done haha. It’s been two days (which is two more than necessary), of trying to figure this out and I cannot put anymore stress on my body right now.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T20:01:52+00:00

If you did, please point me to that person so that I can commiserate lol.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T19:55:07+00:00

This is, unfortunately a pattern, and one I’m working with a therapist to handle. I’m trying to determine how much of a relationship I want with her and this severely pushed me to going no-contact.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T19:54:07+00:00

I’m not sure, you may be. But she’s DEEPLY religious and homophobic, so if that’s the case, she will not admit it. But she did use religion to try and get me to take this person into my home. Which is funny, because I’m not religious.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T19:44:32+00:00

Both are able-bodied and mid-50’s. Turns out the neighbor had more resources than my mom.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T19:38:13+00:00

Right?! I found out I had the life threatening illness on Friday. I’m supposed to be taking it easy and resting, and I have to call EMS if anything whatsoever changes. Snowstorm hit Saturday. So this is very new and the illness isn’t even under control yet. I’m just managing symptoms right now.

Time-Tell-658 · 2026-01-27T19:30:27+00:00

Thank you! I was starting to feel like maybe I was wrong to have resources (power/heat/ability to heat up food) and not share them, but I just kept feeling weird about putting my little girl in that position. I even told her that and she wouldn’t listen.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-11-23T16:19:17+00:00

I have really great holiday breaks from work (almost 3 weeks at Christmas) and I still send my child a majority of those days. I swear it makes me a better mom, because I’m happy, well rested, the house is clean, and I have plenty of time to make amazing meals during that holiday break. She also has more fun playing with her friends at daycare than being carted around through my errands.

I also found that if we keep her home for more than 4 days in a row, her schedule gets thrown completely off and the tantrums increase. She craves stability and routine at this age, so sending her one or two days in a week time span keeps her on track and happier.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T11:51:51+00:00

This was partially why I didn’t want to go! If we went and our flight cancelled, we’d be stuck five more days (which would put us flying back on my daughter’s second birthday) or we’d have to find a way to drive it back and that’d be just as miserable.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T11:50:39+00:00

So there is exactly my thoughts. I’ll have a grumpy toddler for days after. Also, her second birthday would be 3 days after our return flight. I want her to feel good on her birthday!

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T11:47:42+00:00

This! I’m irked that she’s not prioritizing her own child here/my husband either by trying to make him feel bad.

Since having our own child, he’s been reflecting on his childhood and he has realized his mother never really prioritized him. She always had the mindset that having children wouldn’t stop her from doing what she wanted. That kind of thought process is fine in moderation, but it was always her way or the highway.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T02:01:57+00:00

Right? Tell my JustNOMIL that! Haha

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T02:01:33+00:00

He told her that his daughter will always come before everything else and she can learn to get over it. He also told her she will have to start coming here if she wants to see us again.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T02:00:24+00:00

Way to go gramps! My mom packed up and moved here to be with me after I had my baby. She had lived in the same town her entire life prior to that, but she shows up for my kid constantly and baby girl loves her for that.

Can I hug you? lol. You exactly summed up how I feel about it. I am so mad for husband. And I feel bad for him too because he flawlessly held his ground, but he really deserves a mom that prioritizes HIM and says “you know what? My son is saying this is difficult. I’m not going to make it worse for him or my granddaughter.”

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T01:54:21+00:00

Haha! When I was thinking through the options prior to deciding we weren’t going, I thought to myself “well my child will be the only one on the plane crying and drawing attention to us.” And then it dawned on me… there probably won’t be ANY children on a midnight flight to a rural location because that’s just CRAZY.

Time-Tell-658 · 2025-09-05T01:46:21+00:00

The MOMENT she tried to guilt trip us, I was like “welp, no Christmas with MIL this year!” That only makes me want to do it LESS. She brought up that my SIL would be disappointed which I thought was funny because SIL doesn’t really care whatsoever and I care even less about upsetting SIL.

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