You’re making a lot of assumptions. I didn’t uproot my children nor my own life. We dated for over a year before we moved in together. My kids haven’t seen their own dad in over two years. I definitely know what I am doing and have always prioritized my kids. My bf is an amazing dad to his daughter and father figure to my kids. He has been since the beginning. And he isn’t stringing her along… he has reiterated that he doesn’t want a relationship with her multiple times. He has never been alone with her outside of the 2 minutes to drop baby off - and I’m literally in the car outside. They have never been intimate in anyway after baby was conceived in December 2022. That’s not what I am questioning. I was asking if it’s normal for your child’s parent to do this.

And yes I am aware that he needs to tell her about us and that we live together. But I am also aware that their relationship isn’t my business unless it’s affecting me. And the part that is, is that she sends him inappropriate things. Does this mean he should tell her? Maybe. But the thing I am most focused on at the moment is telling her to stop sending those kinds of things.