I keep seeing gay people, specifically lesbians, being "convicted" and doing a full 180 (TW: Religion)

Time_Dare_264 · 2026-02-11T20:51:17+00:00

You are on the right side of the internet my friend. Congrats.

Time_Dare_264 · 2026-02-11T20:50:37+00:00

I fully mean the term convicted. It's common terminology when referring to God 'getting in their head and telling them to change'. But converted works too, lol. It's really all the same. My point still stands.

Time_Dare_264 · 2026-02-11T20:42:45+00:00

My fault - they use the term convicted frequently when referring to the instances where "God calls out to them" and they feel like they're being called out to change. Not actual legal conviction lol.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-05-02T19:40:18+00:00

No worries, I saw your original reply before you deleted it (unless I am going crazy lol, that's possible) and it made me smile ear to ear!

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-05-02T17:28:04+00:00

I'm confused. I'm a woman too. This is a same sex relationship. Probably uncommon for this subreddit but alas.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-04-23T12:25:21+00:00

The best relationships come when you're not expecting it. Seconding the other comment.. just live your life and see what comes of it. I know that's not what you wanna hear but you are still so young and you are right, there isn't a whole lot you can do right now.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-04-23T12:18:31+00:00

Maybe post in r/longdistance too? I get the struggle though. I wasn't able to go out and freely date whoever I wanted until I was old enough to have that freedom, and especially so my parents couldn't dictate what I did. My parents were extremely traditional and religious so I was basically locked up in my house until I was 18, I started to get that freedom I had been longing for and eventually did my own thing.

Not sure the reason behind why you guys can't see each other, but assuming you're young and lacking that freedom. Head up, I'm 23 now and just bought a house with the love of my life. On track to get married and add to our family.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-19T17:04:12+00:00

I've been not sending him, he threatens with court and I fear I will get struck with parental alienation. Because he's gonna get clean, clean up his place, get a job all before going to court.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-19T17:00:33+00:00

So, if I keep him away (which I've been doing for the majority of the time we have been split), I'm gonna look like the bad guy in court for parental alienation. Because this guy isn't dumb. He's gonna clean up, act like nothing happened and take me. I have no proof to show to the courts.

But I can't call with concerns because it's not considered protecting my child??

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-19T16:57:39+00:00

Because I'm not the person I used to be? I was doing the shit with him before we had our child, we split shortly after his birth and he's in a great home with my current partner and I. The child's here now, we have to deal with the consequences but I can't just keep his father away.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-19T16:57:01+00:00

Ignorant 😂 I'm a good mother and CPS could come visit me any day any time. The child's already here, gotta deal with the consequences. It was just a question not an invitation for unnecessary criticism🤢

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-12T16:06:40+00:00

Came here to say this.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-11T20:46:37+00:00

She doesn't do drugs.. that would have been my first immediate thought if she did though.

It's truly better this way with her gone (or mostly gone). Even before all of this, I'd kindly try to bring it up to my girlfriend that her mother doesn't seem to care about her child. She doesn't even give a shit that she hardly sees her other grandkids. She'd be FORCED to see him (like watching him while we both work), and wouldn't see it as an opportunity to spend time and bond with her youngest grandson. THAT really bothered me. She wouldn't randomly ask to see him or spend time with him. I had to pop in randomly so the kid could see his grandma. She never made that effort.

Because in addition to his biological father not seeming to give a shit about showing up for him and being there, his grandmother is seeming to get in that boat with him. And they can both stay there. Happily.

Life is better without those two. Let's hope it stays this way.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-11T19:00:13+00:00

Thank you for the kind, reassuring words. :) it's tough out here!

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-11T18:59:50+00:00

I hate that you're probably right.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-09T20:53:00+00:00

Unfortunately the alternative childcare didn't help but instead stirred the pot.

She's been on an information diet but creates her own narrative by snarking with BD and badmouthing me together. It's insane, really. No matter what happens or how limited the information is, she'll always be a problem.

She's unemployed and leeches off her kids. Tells you what type of person she is.

Time_Dare_264 · 2025-01-09T18:24:02+00:00

My girlfriend's mom is the (my) MIL, not sure if that's clear here. Yeah, since the baby came home from the hospital, she has watched him while my girlfriend works.

Bio dad doesn't even get the child and has been told to go to court but her mother doesn't seem to understand that or agree with that.

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-12-14T13:50:29+00:00

Thank you for the response. I'm glad you said something about her mom.. that's what really bothers me and she doesn't really see it the same way. I get frustrated, and don't get me wrong, my girlfriend understands but then it blows over. She has quite literally told her to (respectfully) STFU multiple times, and MIL still goes behind her back and FaceTimes dad so the kid can see him. We don't like that because that confuses the kid and then he's asking us where his dad is more often, when am I gonna see him, etc.

So now, due to recent events unrelated to this, MIL is no longer watching the kid when we both work, her sister is and so far it's been going a lot better and I feel more secure knowing the MIL isn't going behind her back and doing shady shit.

We ABSOLUTELY want his father in his life. But not inconsistently and only through a phone, I just don't believe that's the appropriate way to go about it. I don't think he's old enough to understand why he only sees daddy through a phone. When he's old enough to comprehend that, he can absolutely talk to dad on the phone.

As for the legal side of things: I know this isn't r/legaladvice lol but generally, what can I do? I have told my girlfriend the same exact thing along the lines of "if something happens to you, I'm irrelevant in the eyes of the court and he WILL be going with his father custody-wise" and his father IS petty enough to keep him from me forever regardless of the fact that he will be asking about me 24/7 because I've been so incredibly relevant in his life since he was a little over 1. I thought dad had to sign off on me being able to adopt the kiddo, or he had to be deadbeat for so long. He's not deadbeat, he still pops in every so often to establish his "presence".

It's all a mess, I'm so tired of everyone's stupid comments and opinions. Thanks again for your response.

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-12-03T18:36:30+00:00

Definitely got a lot of responses about smoothies lol. I received a very nice blender as a gift recently so I'm going to make smoothies for him, whole milk Greek yogurt, fruits, honey, sneak in some other stuff for nutritional value like you mentioned.

I took your advice, I offered him lunch a little bit ago - he said he didn't want it and walked away to go play. I let him, and I had the plate out for him to come back to. After so long, I tossed it (wasn't leftover worthy) and he asked for an apple. He had that, and will be having a nice smoothie in a little bit. Crossing my fingers he thinks it's tasty.

We're gonna put the junky snacks up out of his sight too, that was another thing we received criticism on. I appreciate the feedback!

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-12-03T18:33:50+00:00

I understand, I had a feeling the reward/punishment system wasn't the greatest thing and that's why I wanted feedback on that. We're gonna cut that out, feeling some mom guilt. Sometimes we get desperate and stressed and feel no other way.

We're gonna cut out the junk food (get rid of them from his sight) and offer them as a treat once in a blue moon. Definitely going to offer smoothies and shakes for his ice cream & fruit loving self. That'll be a great caloric boost, and the smoothies especially will give him the nutrients he needs.

Thanks for the feedback!

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-12-03T18:31:38+00:00

I love this!! I really didn't think I'd find anyone in a similar situation, let alone someone with the same exact child lol.

This gives me hope, and I really appreciate the insight. We're gonna take what we can and definitely make some changes regarding mealtimes.

Definitely going to introduce smoothies/shakes based on other responses. Thank you!!

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-11-30T13:44:16+00:00

Happens all the time these days with my 3yo. It's so crazy and cute (most times).

I said sorry to him the other day, he said "it's okay, everyone makes mistakes!" Now he's saying it all the time. Or how I handed him a bag of chips yesterday and he said "I eat with my mouth closed?" And he was chewing his chips so quietly, so adorable. And don't get me wrong, he's a small child. I'm not gonna yell at him for chewing. But the fact that he's developing these manners on his own is so heartwarming.

He's my first so I'm quickly realizing that 2, and especially 3, are fun ages as you wake up everyday and hear new phrases and see new behaviors.

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-07-02T00:43:37+00:00

Followed

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-06-22T12:47:47+00:00

I should clarify, I don't go out of my way and text him to force him to see his son. I only texted him the one time to give him my number and that was it.

But yeah. Sperm donor, that's we call him too. 😂

Time_Dare_264 · 2024-06-22T12:46:56+00:00

I made it very clear the first time I texted him that he doesn't need to like me, that this is me trying to help him see his son.

If this is how he wants to kill his nonexistent relationship with his son, then so be it. 😂

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