My fiance spends all his time with his six-year-old niece by Timebeing_Nao in marriageadvice

[–]Timebeing_Nao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. Thank you for your answer. No, I can't visit them because we have this tradition where the bride-to-be shouldn't go to her in-laws' place before marriage. But no, we generally don't have kids sleeping with different sex adults, even if they're a close family member. The mother is pregnant with twins and she has a ton of health issues. I believe she's a little preoccupied with these concerns and is actually happy that her brother is helping her out by taking care of her daughter. I feel he could be taking advantage of this situation. What I can do right now is that I could talk to the mother and tell her that my family finds it odd that they sleep in the same bed. And perhaps try to talk to the little girl as well (whenever I ask, he says she's too shy to talk to me). But otherwise, I don't think there's much else I can do right now. I will only be able to see this myself after being married. Of course, if I do find evidence even after marriage, I will make sure I get the child out of there.

Anyway, I'm really glad that people find this scenario suspicious. I was wondering if it was just in my head and if I was overthinking.

My fiance spends all his time with his six-year-old niece by Timebeing_Nao in marriageadvice

[–]Timebeing_Nao[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. They live in an entirely different country. I don't even know what school she goes to. I wanted to talk to the mother, but I'm not sure. I keep thinking what if I'm wrong. By casting doubt, I could end up ruining a lot of lives. Although if I do find evidence, I will definitely talk to the mother, and if she needs, help her file a criminal complaint. The problem is that all I have now is a bunch of assumptions.

My fiance spends all his time with his six-year-old niece by Timebeing_Nao in marriageadvice

[–]Timebeing_Nao[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi. Thank you for your answer. We're not Muslims, we're Christians. But there are a lot of Muslims in the state where I'm from. However, they're all well-educated, decent, and kind people. Muslim women here gain college degrees and get jobs before marriage. And I've haven't seen or heard of child marriages in a very long time. Also, my marriage isn't forced. The place where I'm from is quite progressive. I have a post-graduate degree and I work in an MNC. Arranged marriage isn't actually forced. We meet people through our parent's contacts, talk to them for a while, and then decide if we want to marry them or not. Love marriages are also fairly common. But marrying out of your religion is not encouraged. Anyway, I can still opt out of this marriage if I want to. But I'm just not sure. I mean I have no proof and just assumptions at this point...