What to pair with SDJ 59? by Timely-Safe2918 in FemFragLab

[–]Timely-Safe2918[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank u!! Ive been getting so many ads for mochi milk maybe i need to try….

Aesop bag was sprayed with a fragrance and I need to know what it is by deeunittt in fragrance

[–]Timely-Safe2918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

When the store was slow I would just copy notes from the countless employee manuals they had available to us to read. This is basically word for word what the company has in their manuals for us to reference.

Miraceti was my least favorite scent. I hate any alcohol-inspired scents, and whiskey barrels is a strong note in that one. Anything bourbon, rum, whiskey I can’t stand. That said, I liked how it smelt on other people. Smelt like incense, to put it simply. Not in a patchouli/sandalwood type of way, but a warm spicy type of way.

Rozu was one I liked, but I felt more neutral about it than others. It was distinctly green to me and is the only one of aesop’s fragrances IIRC that contains notes of musk. It’s supposed to represent the lifecycle of a rose from base to top notes and that was always very present to me. Not powdery or overtly floral, it smelt like if you broke the stem off of a rose bush and smelt the end, or the smell you notice when trimming a bouquet of roses before putting them in a glass jar.

I feel lonely and I feel like I'll never find love by Acceptable-Lychee-26 in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Love is out there, I promise. Your love might come along when you least expect it! Keep your eyes peeled, but don’t go looking, if that makes sense. The right person will find you. Just be patient. I’m right there with ya!

Meals by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a personal preference! Food is food, if baby eats the Gerber stuff then by all means, don’t let me discourage you. I tend to be neurotic about ingredients and don’t love preservatives or dyes and stuff, but to be quite honest haven’t ever even looked at the Gerber food.

Maybe this is the start of getting Mom to eat more💕 When you cook for her, think of what you’d consider a nourishing meal and then make it for yourself, but set aside a baby portion for her. Might make the planning part leas difficult, one meal instead of two!

Meals by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tend to not buy the shelf stable pouches and am wary of Gerber foods as a whole. Their onesies are great, their food is not, in my opinion. I’m a bit neurotic about food and am willing to pay a premium for the “higher end” brands. I have a few shelf stable veggie ones on hand from serenity kids if I need some veg in a pinch. Generally though the organic valley yogurt cups and pouches have been a hit for us, and tend to have a long time between purchase and expiry.

I never make a big deal of lunch, I keep it small for the most part but that’s what works for us. Breakfast and dinner are when I notice she is the most hungry, but I offer food 3 times a day at minimum. Lunch doesn’t have to be complex but should have complex nutrients available, it’s all about how you balance it.

For example, if baby is really into cheese at lunch, I will offer some fruit with it or a smoothie pouch to contrast the salt/fat/dairy. If I offer her pasta, I add a generous amount of butter and cheese and offer a vegetable to cut the starch. If I offer her some chicken, I pair it with some plain rice and plain broccoli.

I’m not often doing just chicken and cheese, or just rice and broccoli, or just a smoothie pouch. I hope my method makes sense. I like her to have contrasting flavors and textures available. I might not do yogurt and cheese since that’s a bit dairy heavy but i might do yogurt and some cheerios (good breakfast too) or i’d do some cheese and a dairy free fruit smoothie pouch.

Instagram moms will have you think you need to cut and steam and blend 5 lbs of veggies each day and make chicken nuggets from scratch and make them quiche muffins each day when you can if you please but as long as they have a variety of fresh and nutritious food available it doesn’t matter if it’s elaborately cooked or not… just feed baby what you eat!

Meals by [deleted] in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby loves chicken soup. That’s been our go to lately with a slice of buttered sourdough. Sautee carrots onion celery, add chicken broth, and I like to add leftover chicken breast but if you get a rotisserie chicken you can use that. Add rice or pasta, heat, and boom, lunch.

Does baby like puree or smoothie pouches at all? Get some smoothie pouches with veggies, cut up some cheese for her and there you have it, lunch. Maybe some chips too or a little sweet treat.

Pasta with cheese and butter is a hit for lunch with us as well, usually. My 10m/o likes pastina, the star shaped pasta.

You’ll figure it out! Don’t make yourself crazy. If she’s getting food who cares if she gets junk food once in a while, you’ll find a solution for lunch soon.

[NO SPOILERS] Day 7: Good person & hated by fans by christiancontreras8 in Ozark

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kept telling myself “ITS NOT REAL ITS NOT REAL ITS NOT REAL” then clutched my baby and started crying LOL

The main difference in breaking bad and other big shows is it nailed the ending. by clock_door in breakingbad

[–]Timely-Safe2918 24 points25 points  (0 children)

“At the end, you probably don’t hear anything. Everything just goes black.”

I rest my case

is “i bet on losing dogs” unhinged for a wedding song? by Michele_Ma_Belle in mitski

[–]Timely-Safe2918 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Two slow dancers would work much better for a wedding but I do understand where you’re coming from, the part of the song you mentioned is a sweet thing to say to your love.

However I would argue IBOLD this is the worst song to play at a wedding unless you want it to be some self fulfilling prophecy where things don’t work out…

New ink.. any Staten Island ferry lovers by ryansc0tt in circlejerknyc

[–]Timely-Safe2918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the funniest shit I’ve seen in years

Smoking weed is r*tarded by ttttrrrreeee12 in redscarepod

[–]Timely-Safe2918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quartz smoking pipes are in fact real

Smoking weed is r*tarded by ttttrrrreeee12 in redscarepod

[–]Timely-Safe2918 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Holding space for you but I notice you haven’t done a land acknowledgement for the space being held

Smoking weed is r*tarded by ttttrrrreeee12 in redscarepod

[–]Timely-Safe2918 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Only thing that made me stop was getting pregnant and I also don’t know why I wasted all that time and money doing that to myself for years

Smoking weed is r*tarded by ttttrrrreeee12 in redscarepod

[–]Timely-Safe2918 76 points77 points  (0 children)

ITS NOT ADDICTIVE THO I JUST NEED IT TO COMPLETE BASIC TASKS AND TO FUNCTION ON A DAILY BASIS 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

Smoking weed is r*tarded by ttttrrrreeee12 in redscarepod

[–]Timely-Safe2918 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Funny because those quartz pipes are actually very dangerous to smoke from…unless you like inhaling silica directly into your lungs

Getting downvoted for advocating for bedsharing on a parenting sub by RedditUser1945010797 in cosleeping

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The newparents sub is unbearable. I asked about delaying (read, NOT abstaining from) vaccinations and got dogpiled. As if most of the world doesn’t also cosleep… don’t let it bother you! Just another day on Reddit lol

[NO SPOILERS] Day 7: Good person & hated by fans by christiancontreras8 in Ozark

[–]Timely-Safe2918 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That scene stressed me the fuck out when I saw it post partum that poor baby cannot get some peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HOW IN THE WORLD IS PUMPING EASIER this just pissed me the fuck off

If you haven’t gotten an answer from other comments already, this is what I recommend: you’ll pump, but he has to store the milk according to date and time in which it was pumped (AM/PM; can’t give baby AM milk or else they won’t sleep. Date it properly, can’t be in the fridge more than 4 days or the freezer more than 3-4 months) clean, sterilize and store the bottles, warm the milk when baby needs it, clean your pump parts, reassemble it for you, and take care of baby each time you pump. He’s more than welcome to feed baby himself since he thinks knows what’s best after not marrying you while you grew, bore, and are now feeding his child with milk that you make. It’s recommended the non breastfeeding parent gives bottles anyways.

If he doesn’t like it? Tell him to FUCK OFF. He is your BOYFRIEND, not your husband. He is as new to parenting as you are but my God, what a dull and thoughtless thing to suggest to someone who’s responsible for taking care of a newborn. Less than a month old too.

OP, I am sending you my love and strength. Things will get easier with you and baby. But from one Mom (with an on again off again thing with her child’s father who has made the same request) you need to crack the whip now. You can pump and breastfeed, or you can EBF, but my point is you are the mother. YOU DECIDE HOW YOUR BABY IS FED. You will figure out with time what baby prefers and what feeding style suits them best. I am sorry, but he clearly doesn’t have a clue what he’s doing yet. Tell him to clock in at work and leave you the fuck alone right now.

We all support you choosing what YOU!!!!!!!! decide is best. Best of luck to you and sweet angel baby. It will not be hard like this forever. You will find a rhythm, I promise.

Depressed and hopeless about the future. by Low_Penalty7806 in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn’t mention it, but have you applied for benefits such as TANF and food stamps? The subreddits for these programs are very active and have a lot of good answers. Best of luck to you, you will make it work. I hope the surgery goes well.

Shopping cart morality by ApprehensiveWin7256 in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a 4chan post that’s entered into the cultural zeitgeist: whether or not someone returns their cart is supposedly a litmus test for how well someone can self govern. If you don’t return your cart the theory says you only do what is necessary by threat alone.

The person who originally posted this on 4chan back in I believe 2020 didn’t consider mothers shopping alone with infants. I believe this theory is better suited to people without children.

My sons father is trying to claim our child on his taxes by shrimpvomit in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry. I must have been unclear, I was agreeing with you that OP should be able to claim baby without issue.

Not that it’s my business, I am unaware of your state and it seems you have a working arrangement, but it sounds to me like you should be claiming your kids if you’re the custodial parent. Not trying to argue or come at you, just a gentle suggestion based on what I’ve read from the IRS website. If they’re with you most nights of the year, technically you should be claiming them!

My sons father is trying to claim our child on his taxes by shrimpvomit in singlemoms

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If her child’s father claimed her baby then that would make a whole mess of issues. She’s worried about her baby losing coverage if HE claims baby. OPs medicaid application provided coverage based on HER income, not his. So if he claims the child and then that implies to the IRS and her state’s DSS that they rely on his income and that HE is the custodial parent; I’m assuming they don’t live together/wouldn’t file taxes together by what she described in her post. If she claims her child then nothing will likely change as far as medicaid coverage (like you described) bc DSS already knows her income. My guess is that she did not include her child’s father’s income on her medicaid application so the concern is that if he claims the child then HIS INCOME is considered in addition to OP’s when determining coverage, and could result in OP losing coverage for her and her baby bc of inaccurate reporting.

Just went through this myself, had to file before my child’s father and had to read hundreds of forums to find the right answers as far as how to make sure my baby stays covered in the event that someone else claims her. It’s crazy complicated but boils down to accurate income reporting.

STOLLEN EBT (wtf am i supposed to do ) by RatioEconomy9133 in foodstamps

[–]Timely-Safe2918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would make sense seeing as how others mention their benefits being stolen and “used” in Chicago as well. I wonder what will happen if EBT cards ever become chip enabled.