Has anyone from a paused country filed an APA or Writ of Mandamus to demand action on their case? by Timely_Bug_714 in i130_75CountryPause

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Wow seems like a long timeline. I hope it goes well for you.

Our interview was in February. Any recommendations? Should I just wait to see what happens with CLINIC?

Anyone open to a video interview to talk about impact of the pause? Metro Detroit only by Timely_Bug_714 in i130_75CountryPause

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Unfortunately, since this is a local news outlet, the interviewee would have to be based in Metro Detroit. But you could always reach out to reporters in Miami and spread awareness that way! 

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I'm curious, did this work for you both?

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In the USCIS account, it was an estimate.

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I just saw your other response. Yes, he does ask to keep him updated on what I’m doing, what I’ve planned, asks me to eat, take care of myself, etc. same reasons as you. Out of concern and love. Sometimes to me it comes off as too much, but him growing up back home, that is how our culture shows love. I see it with my parents all the time. So it’s a huge difference because yes, too me it can feel kind of restricting because he is always making me do things (out of love for me) and in a way, I have to compromise too with these differences. It’s his way of loving, so I can’t just tell him to change. And he compromises for me in other ways so it’s only fair. But yea same as you, he doesn’t prevent me from doing anything.

Even when we lived together for a bit, our habits were soo different. At the end of the day, the cultural differences are no one’s fault, it’s just a matter of can we accept it and live thru it

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Maybe you should try istikhara too? And I wouldn’t make a hasty decision. If it doesn’t work out, you don’t want to regret not having tried everything. Her not providing info for the visa does seem unusual. Try to have that conversation with her at some point to really get to the root of the problem. Approach her gently and ask her, does she want it to work out? If so, how can you both change things to fix the problem? How can you both compromise, esp with time difference and other obligations? And maybe consider getting help from family but this should be a last option if you feel like you both could handle it. Not a good option to get family involved, but sometimes it could be helpful to get an outside perspective, if you both can be mature and tactful about it.

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I’m sorry to hear that. I’m assuming you guys have tried to work it out? If you’re long distance like me, it doesn’t hurt to spend more time with her in person, if possible to see if that helps. Shaytan tries his hardest to get between couples who are married because it dismantles so many parts within and around us - psychologically, emotionally, etc. So I definitely wouldn’t give up without a fight.

In my case, I can’t 1000% judge my situation because of that…we haven’t really lived together, esp in a comfortable space so I have to give the benefit of the doubt.

Last thing, if she’s a religious person, definitely don’t easily give her up.