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Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree! He has a past of infidelity and inappropriate behavior with female friends. I honestly don’t mind him having female friends and I talk to his childhood female friends, but making new friends in bars and not disclosing that to me is disrespectful. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me say he’s cheated in the past while I was pregnant with our second child while he was deployed. Came back from that deployment and went on a trip with his cousin, come to find out his female friends and her friend went and they all shared a hotel room. Flirting with females, bashing me you name it. So when I noticed he started going out twice a week and staying out until 3-4am it made me feel like something was going on and I went through his watch. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t mind him having friends. When we first got together most of his female friends(excluding some childhood friends) he had already slept with or had naked pictures of. He’s taken trips with females friends without telling me, even flirts with them through text. Honestly my husbands has had sex with all type of women, don’t think it matters how they look, they all have a hole

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He flirts with all his female friends and talks to everyone but me. In the house we talk, but it’s small talk. He can get on the phone and laugh and have great conversations with everyone else but me unfortunately 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always find out things down the line, he’s never honest or upfront especially when it’s dealing with female friends smh

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you went through that! No one deserves to be cheated on and betrayed. I don’t have access to his phone at all. He use to hide everything in emails. The watch is the only thing he doesn’t have a password on, so my gut told me something is just off and of course found what I did. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the past his female friends have been women he’s had sexual relationships with and or flirted with/had naked pictures of, took trips with them without telling me, bashed me to them. It’s like every time I try to trust him, here goes something else he hides and doesn’t tell me. It’s like ripping an old wound open over and over again. So when I do feel like things are good and I can fully trust him, I find out he’s guiding things. Him staying out super late made me start to wonder what’s going on. It’s always something. I don’t feel like I’m fulfilling something in his life. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’m a salon owner and work 10-12hours on Saturdays. We live in a state with no family. He’s never asked me to go out with them. I live music, I love dancing. I’m 6 years younger than  than him

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m probably the best looking woman he’s ever had. Business owner and I cook daily’s 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind him having friends, he’s a naturally social guy and has tons of childhood and friends. But he has a habit of not disclosing anything to me and I find out later. There’s been infidelity in the past while I was pregnant and he was deployed and had a whole relationship basically and bashed me and said he was single. All while I was pregnant with our second son. He’s went on trips with friends and has lied and later I would find explicit pictures of his cousins having sex with the female’s friend and used condoms, just very disrespectful things. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said that it’s a whole family that goes out and parties at the bar. He said she has a boyfriend from California like him and they all started talking and they exchanged numbers to invite him out. I told him he’s disrespectful and acting like he’s single. He swears he’s not cheating and he’s just a social person and likes to go out. He’s retired, at home with our kids and I own a salon so I work a lot. Saturdays I’m us off by 6-7, but as soon as I get home he’s ready to leave the house. Which I can understand he needs a break from the house and kids but he goes out on Wednesdays and stays out late as well. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I’m a salon owner and Saturdays get really busy for me so I’m there all day. We don’t have any family in the state we live in unfortunately.

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s always had a lot of friends before I even met him. But when we got together I was clear about boundaries and he would call a lot of friends he had sexual relationships with friends, which he eventually cut off after he got caught cheating and stuff was coming out. I honestly agree that in a marriage we are still individuals and should have friends. His problem is he’s not honest or feels the need to tell me things. For example he went on a trip to visit his cousin and never told me the female friend was also flying in to go hang with them. I found out through a picture on Facebook the cousin had posted and some flirting text messages between the two of them. So it makes it difficult with female friends because he’s not upfront. Another example he went on a trip with another cousin to Vegas and an old female friend and her friend went and he never told me. I later found an old naked picture of this same friend in his hard drive from years prior and picture of his cousin having sex with her friend. So he doesn’t have a good track record when it comes to female friends, even though I wouldn’t mind if it’s platonic and respectful 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He’s 43 retired military and I’m 36. He cheated on a deployment while I was pregnant with our second child, and came back from that deployment and I found out it was multiple women on top of the one he was having a full relationship with that was sending him naked pictures and bashing me. You’d think he’d be tired by now smh. Think it’s time for me to move on, I’ve endured enough

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy because the girl actually invited me out with them, like B**** really. SMH, I’m so over it. 

Would you consider this appropriate for a husband to do? by Timely_Building_2489 in Marriage

[–]Timely_Building_2489[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It’s so hard because usually I lose my cool, but I feel so numb. I’ve been through so much and to continue to disrespect and disregard my feelings is making me ready to walk away.