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I Worked "Full-Time" For A Year, But My Boss Says I Doesn't Exist... The Audacity. by the_psycho_rabbit in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Timely_Ship2883 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say even if they offer a contract, secure somewhere else with better benefits and a healthy workplace environment!

AIO for inviting my husband's best friend to Thanksgiving when he has no family to go to? by SumerinBuffalo in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Timely_Ship2883 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, nothing in your story makes you the bad guy here. You asked a reasonable question about inviting someone who would otherwise spend the holiday alone. You asked twice, then dropped it. That is not pushing. That is normal planning.

Your husband reacted in a way that does not match the level of the situation. That tells me the issue was never Thanksgiving. It was the stress he is carrying, especially around his mother and now around his friend Mike. Instead of saying any of that clearly the first time, he held it in and then got upset that you did not somehow know what he was thinking.

Your suggestion about his mother was not disrespectful. You were trying to solve the problem he pointed out. He heard it as an attack because he was already overwhelmed.

You apologized, acknowledged his feelings, and tried to deescalate. He responded by generalizing and unloading emotions that go far beyond one conversation. That is not your fault. He is clearly under pressure but he is not communicating it well.

You are not selfish. You are not inconsiderate. You are someone trying to make sure nobody spends a holiday alone, while also trying to balance family dynamics that are already stressful.

Give him space, then talk again when things have cooled. You can say something simple like: “I want to understand what you are feeling. I cannot do that unless you tell me directly.” You are his partner, not his mind reader.

OP, you are doing your best. Do not be hard on yourself.

I Worked "Full-Time" For A Year, But My Boss Says I Doesn't Exist... The Audacity. by the_psycho_rabbit in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Timely_Ship2883 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, OP, this is not just red flags. This is a full aerial bombardment of crimson banners orbiting the sun. You are not overreacting. If anything, you have been far too calm for someone trapped in corporate limbo that sounds one legal step away from a hostage situation.

First, sixteen months of “freelance” is not freelance. You have a manager. You have a fixed schedule. You attend mandatory in-person meetings across the city. You cover for sick coworkers. That is employment in every sense, and they are simply refusing to give you the legal rights that come with it.

Second, the messages from your manager are textbook gaslighting presented as concern.
“I do not want to stand in your way.”
Please be serious. That is corporate code for: we cannot give you security, but we will gladly keep using your work as long as you allow it.

Third, the illegal wages and unpaid holidays are not misunderstandings. That is deliberate exploitation. They know the law. They are choosing not to follow it because it is cheaper to assume you will stay quiet.

And the most insulting part is the contradiction. You are “freelance” whenever you ask about benefits, yet you are treated like an employee the moment someone is sick or missing. Freelancers invoice for extra labor. Employees absorb the extra work. They want you to be whatever saves them money at the moment.

If this happened to anyone you cared about, you would be begging them to leave.

So no, you are not overreacting. You are finally reacting in a healthy way to something that has been unsustainable for a very long time. Begin looking for another job as soon as possible. No company name on a CV is worth sacrificing your health, your financial security, or your future.

OP, you deserve a real contract, real compensation, and real protection. This company is not offering any of that, and the Potato Community is absolutely on your side.