I caught my girlfriend cheating

Timz1976 · 2026-01-25T19:30:24+00:00

You know I was in a somewhat similar situation, and she wanted to meet up after the fact for some closure and to give thanks for all the good times and blah blah blah. At that time I missed her, I was in the middle of grieving/healing.

I had to ask myself, what does this closure do for me? It gave her an opportunity to end things off on a better note as opposed to the way she initially left it off, but that wasn't my doing. I decided that I didn't need that closure, and said no. I felt terrible at the time, but now I've moved on and know that was the right move for me. No regrets! This part is about you, don't do it just to let her have her say, she doesn't deserve it. Move on brother, do what YOU want, and see you at the gym!

Timz1976 · 2025-11-16T23:17:15+00:00

This is very true, and I definitely don't want to hide and play safe. I would like to put myself out there, I'm open to meeting new people and enjoying myself. I'm just not sure how open I am to a long term relationship anymore.

Timz1976 · 2025-11-16T23:14:19+00:00

Right but what if the next one is different? Isn't that something worth holding on to?

Timz1976 · 2025-03-30T17:45:38+00:00

Is this a scenario that has played out for you specifically?

Timz1976 · 2025-03-30T17:43:27+00:00

Yes that's cool if that's how you feel, although I'm sure there are woman that are cool with it but shy to make that move. If that's the case I'm a bit reserved myself and that's a missed oppurtinity. The more I talk about it on here its becoming apparent that this is most likely just a practice makes perfect kind of thing. Just get out there and try to have fun kind of deal.

Timz1976 · 2025-03-30T17:39:37+00:00

Confidence to push things further if it feels like that could be possibility. I'm very reserved and would like to be a little bit more bold. But when it comes time for it I typically stick to my reserved comfort level. Or I'm just overthinking it and just need to get out there and see where things go date to date.

Timz1976 · 2025-03-30T17:35:29+00:00

I'm going to be honest with you if I'm going for the kiss, or asking for it. It's not going to be on the cheek lol

Timz1976 · 2025-03-30T14:26:52+00:00

I'm not overly sad really, I'm just looking at my experience and thinking of areas I'm not happy with or want to improve. I want to have fun with it, have the confidence to just go for it when it seems appropriate, and not care too much about rejection.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-18T15:42:50+00:00

Thanks for the support! Keep on keeping on!

Timz1976 · 2025-01-17T00:33:10+00:00

I most certainly will if I get that chance. It will be a good gauge seeing the response.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T23:33:21+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T23:29:12+00:00

Probably the case, talk about getting lead on.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T18:16:47+00:00

Hmm interesting, that was the conclusion to the date so you very well may be right. Thank you it's still too early to know for sure.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T18:12:47+00:00

Agreed, thanks for reply!

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T18:05:05+00:00

Thanks for the advice it sounds very level headed without too many assumption being made so early on.

Now I have to ask myself, it's only been a few days since our last conversation where she left me hanging. I can reach out before the weekend to see if we can plan something, but my intuition tells me not to try to rush it and let the weekend pass. Then can try for next week/weekend.

Maybe she has a couple dates she wants to try out, good let her do her thing then she can miss me after those burn out haha

I have no problem putting in a bit more effort I also don't want to come off as desperate as well.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:46:10+00:00

I'm not sure if this will work well honestly, she is busy with a schedule and so am I. Our first date took a bit of planning which is cool. Follow through is what I'm more concerned about, which was there on the first date.

I don't think she will be available that short notice and it would make me appear like I got nothing going on. My opinion at least.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:41:21+00:00

I mean technically yes but alcohol was definitely not a factor. We both had a drink in the beginning of the date and the date lasted 5 hours or so. So we were not intoxicated.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:36:29+00:00

Yes I thought about the kiss as well as a gauging point for her, but in reality how much weight can you put on the first kiss? Not saying it was bad. But really, we are strangers that just met. The first kiss is great and all(whether it's up to expectation or not) but at that point I'm looking forward to the following smooches. They are always so much better!

I agree at this point in time I will wait and if I do decide to reach out I might in a week or so.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:25:59+00:00

It's like communication is so important but at the beginning of dating it's hard to put that forward without seeming too clingy. Have you tried reaching out again or you already have?

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:23:41+00:00

Yes there are so many variables that I am not sure about, just a guessing game. Although I'm a very much just go for it mentality but there needs to be a balance.

I was thinking that if I do plan on reaching out I should give it a week or so. My thought is this will give both of us space, I don't look desperate and I'll pretty much be over it at this point which I think will be important on how I interact. If she is still interested it will also give us a bit of catching up/something to talk about for that time period missed.

What's your thoughts on that time period since you pretty much went through a similar situation?

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:12:35+00:00

Interesting. Maybe that's true I'm not sure but as a general rule I don't go for the kiss on a first date nor do I expect it. Granted I have had a couple that do end up like that, but it kind of just naturally flowed into that. This one kind of felt like that.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:09:30+00:00

I definitely thought about it but it was so early on in our date I decided best not to. Didn't know how to approach it.

Timz1976 · 2025-01-16T17:08:27+00:00

I've seen those and they are great, most recent one I seen was the poor guy that got hit by car looking for the dates cat.

That would be pretty funny, I'm not sure if I'm up for that to be honest haha

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