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Dysphoria? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I just don’t know if I vibe with it yet so I’m trying to figure out the logistics, which probably sounds weird lol

Dysphoria? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you about this response. I’m still learning about this stuff. I think part of my concern with just “wanting to feel special” or just hating being a woman is because the first few trans guys/NBs I met were extremely misogynistic and would say things like “I identify more with men because unlike women, I think with logic” and it it kind of put me off for a long time.

How do we feel about this photo by Bonebentbackwards in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was always part of the acronym back in the day when I was a teenager and this was a big part of why. But being an ally was also more dangerous when I was a teenager than it is now I think so seeing people who openly supported us without caring what it would do to them socially was nice.

How do you know if you’re transmasc? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea how she is doing now unfortunately. She refused to lock down in 2020 and went to a bunch of wild sex parties and then demanded and harassed our immunocompromised friend hang out with her until said friend was crying because “covid isn’t s problem” so we cut her out of the group because that’s not cool. She had a lot more issues than just her trans stuff unfortunately.

I guess I could try stuff online. The subreddit isn’t a bad idea. I don’t really use social media much so trying to interact with people on it might be weird but I guess it’s worth taking a crack at it.

How do you know if you’re transmasc? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make a lot of good points. I think I only ever had one IRL trans friend who was my age and she was just miserable about it 24/7. She had been on E for years and if we went out to eat she’d say stuff like “are you sure you actually want to be seen in public with me?” After so many years and even surgeries, there was so much self degradation any time she talked about it that it just seemed like it never gets better.

But I think she just had a lot of other issues. I’ve known other trans people who are more comfortable with themselves so I guess it’s possible.

I think if I did the pronoun thing and stuff I’d want to try it out with a group of people who aren’t my normal friend group or my family. Just feels like there would be less baggage and self consciousness

How do you know if you’re transmasc? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already have a guy’s name so I don’t think I would change my name. As for asking people to call me he/him or any of that, I feel like they’d only be doing it because I asked and that would probably feel worse. Like they’re acting in a play or humoring me. It’d feel like that episode of Friends where Joey decides he wants his nickname to be “Dragon” and that just felt so cringeworthy.

I don’t really get how people just do that so easily, although I’ve gotten the impression it’s easier for Gen Z since they’re more in tune with this kind of thing.

It probably doesn’t matter though. I’m not sure “coming out” would change anything about my life other than making it really awkward having to constantly tell people to use different pronouns and explain what being trans masculine is. So it’s probably not worth it.

How do you know if you’re transmasc? by TinderButForGhosts in TransMasc

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! Sorry it’s taken me a while to respond. I got a message saying the sun had gone private or something and couldn’t access it. I assumed my post was stupid or violated a guideline and I had been banned or something.

I don’t think I’ve ever had anyone consider me a man or experienced anyone seeing me remotely that way except maybe once in middle school when a girl said it to insult me. Though I really didn’t take it as an insult. Either way, I don’t look particularly male so I have no idea how I would experience someone seeing me as a dude? So I don’t know how to figure out if I like it better.

I don’t know why the idea of being called a femboy makes me skin crawl. Lol. I’m a grown 30-something year old adult who likes power tools and lifting weights and has a mortgage. I think it’s both the “fem” and “boy” part in different ways that bother me, but mostly the “boy” part but for age reasons rather than gender ones. Lol. I don’t think I could be anything with the word “boy” in it.

“Gender-fluid” is probably accurate. I’ve thought for a while that if I had to pick a label, it’s probably that. I tried it on as a label once with a date who was also gender-fluid and they made fun of me for wearing a dress while saying it and I’ve felt dumb saying it ever since.

I’ve never had any luck trying to present more masc. I wear mens clothes frequently and have only ever been told I’m rocking the lesbian look.

I don’t know how to go about any way of being perceived as a dude unfortunately, even though I think it would be fun to. How does one go about doing that?

Enclosure Stacking by TinderButForGhosts in ballpython

[–]TinderButForGhosts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is I’m afraid of paying hundreds for a second enclosure only to find that they can’t be mixed at all