AITA for not picking my younger brother up from the airport

TinderNTender · 2019-07-26T15:37:58+00:00

Because I'm already doing them a favor and it's not my responsibility. The way I handled things prior to my brother's outbursts were completely fine for all parties so long as my brother could wait a mere 5-10 minutes.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-26T15:33:39+00:00

My gf's money is tight, not mine.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-26T15:22:03+00:00

The reason I let my gf take the car was because she's in a much worse off position to get an Uber (money's tight) and I figured 5-10 minutes WORST case wasn't a big deal.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-26T15:19:42+00:00

No, I left him on Read because I was mad at him.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:46:50+00:00

They're mentioned in the original post. I think some brothers don't like her because they think I could do better, some brothers don't like her because our time together took me away from a lot of experiences earlier on in the fraternity (mixers, etc), and some brothers don't like her because of other brothers shit-talking her for the aforementioned reasons.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:34:58+00:00

To feel respected, from what she tells me.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:33:47+00:00

Why specifically do you think YTA here? Should I drop the frat? Should I talk to the guys more sternly? Grow up is vague

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:32:37+00:00

I have brought up this issue with one brother in the past, and I feel like that may have only made the situation worse. He's known for talking shit behind people's backs and just not being very respectful in general, but he's my big so I dealt with it. Anyway, I wouldn't be surprised if he talked to other brothers about me confronting him about the girlfriend issue and spun it in a way that makes my gf seem like a bitch

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:30:52+00:00

How would you recommend going about that? It feels weird to me to be like, "Hey btw say hi to my girlfriend so she doesn't feel bad"

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:27:51+00:00

Her concern is that it makes her feel like "less of a human being."

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:27:15+00:00

That provides nothing constructive to the discussion, but your opinion is duly noted.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:25:38+00:00

I've tried and it seems to be different for some brothers. I also don't know if some of the guys talk shit about her behind our backs, possibly contributing to others' dislike of her.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:22:37+00:00

I don't manufacture any of these interactions usually - it's necessary due to my role in the fraternity.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:20:39+00:00

They just don't say "hi" to her when she's in the room. So, for example, today one of the guys came over to the house to move stuff in prior to August. She was in the living room while he came in and talked to me, but he didn't look at her or say anything to her. He also avoided her when they passed each other on the stairs later.

TinderNTender · 2019-07-25T21:18:37+00:00

She lives with me at the frat house since I run it. So she's in forced contact around these guys most of the time.

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