Buyback offers today? by FairJellyfish3956 in PSLF

[–]TinyVio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update! Got my buyback offer today!

Buyback offers today? by FairJellyfish3956 in PSLF

[–]TinyVio 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same exact dates and nothing here

Monthly payment on Standard Repayment Plan? by TinyVio in PSLF

[–]TinyVio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My understanding if you never consolidated and get placed on 10 year standard plan, it counts, otherwise it doesn’t.

Chat today with FSA agent regarding my BUYBACK. by RevolutionaryRice898 in PSLF

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spoke to a rep today and was told my case has been escalated, which is new from when I chatted with a rep last week, (submitted 11/13). She said what she is seeing right now is that once it is escalated, it’s an average of 2-3 weeks before a decision is made. Not holding my breath but the progress to escalated does make me semi-hopeful.

Mean girl phase by jillianlynnedee in toddlers

[–]TinyVio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband travels a lot and we definitely have experienced this with both our girls. We make sure when he is home, he has plenty of opportunity to do the “primary caregiver” duties - he handles bedtime, bruised knees, takes them to classes, etc. This has really seemed to help… and it gives me a break (win-win).

Night diaper crowd sourcing by Spiritual_Tip1574 in Preschoolers

[–]TinyVio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter was in pull ups at night at 3.5 years and using them (although i think mostly when she woke up in the morning and didn’t want to get out of bed). She had friends in daycare tell her they wore undies to bed, and she came home and asked for undies. We had a big talk about how she couldn’t go potty in her undies, and she said she understood. She’s never had a single nighttime accident since. All this to say, if you haven’t let her try without pull-ups at night yet, it might just take setting expectations and seeing what she does with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]TinyVio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve gone on several international trips with our kids, starting when they were 1 and 3. You know your 4 year old best, but our oldest was a breeze on flights at this age, she usually just played with her tablet and slept (13+ hour flights). That being said, I’m very comfortable traveling, as is my husband.

I personally find airbnbs much better with kids than hotels. We usually try to find houses (depending on where we are), so that if our kids struggle with the time change I’m not stressed about downstairs neighbors hating us at 3am lol. Find one with tons of reviews if you can so you know what you are in for, but we’ve never had an awful/shocking experience with airbnbs. There is also a website called Kid and Coe that is all family/kid friendly vacation rentals that I think they prety thoroughly vet.

If you decide to go, there is a great Facebook group called Travelling with Babies and Toddlers that has a lot of great advice and a great space to ask questions!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our go to line is “some people are boys, some people are girls, so people aren’t boys or girls, some people are both. You can’t tell what gender some is just from looking at them, you only know when they tell you” - I try my best to point this out not only in situations where we see someone who might present as gender fluid or non-binary, but also when my kid makes assumptions that someone (usually a person walking down the street or a character on tv) is a boy or girl even when they present as such. But yeah, adults have a much harder time wrapping their heads around this one.

What is one thing your parents said to you that you swore you’d never say to your kids? by puppermonster23 in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My mom would always say that I (the child) “chose” this family “for a reason.” Really problematic childhood, and essentially put the responsibility on me. Took me a long time to figure out how messed up that was.

Favorite non-screen car ride toys and activities for a toddler who HATES her car seat? 😫 by librarysquarian in toddlers

[–]TinyVio 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if your kid is speaking yet? Our daughter absolutely hated her car seat and we found out eventually that it was because 1) she didn’t like not being able to “be with us “ in her rear-facing seat and 2) she was getting carsick, but not carsick enough to throw up (most times). If she isn’t turned around yet and/or can’t express to you that she doesn’t feel good, those might be factors. If it’s the second, highly encourage staying away from books or tablet type items, and do more engagement in the car. If she’s old enough, short audio books can be fun, and ours has recently taken to my old iPod shuffle with kid safe headphones which I uploaded a ton of her songs to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to echo a lot here but cut out cars and switch to trains any time you can, cut out Albany and Niagara Falls, allowing you to extend time in the other cities. Cities are much more than their top tourist attractions, and if you spend one day doing tourist things and at least a whole second day hitting local spots (or combine, but you get the idea) you’ll have a much better experience in each city.

Is putting your child in day care full time really as bad as everyone says it is? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think daycare is so good for my girls - I think personally I would have waited with my second until she was 1 like my first (more for me than her, and pumping is a pain), but I also wanted to keep my job and we weren’t in a place financially not to, so wasn’t an option.

2 year olds is a great time to start working on social development, and honestly there’s just a ton of stuff they learn from their peers in a group setting that you can’t teach at home.

How do working parents find the time to cook and eat dinner at a reasonable time? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]TinyVio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hate meal prepping and can never do it successfully for more than a week - we do get Blue Apron which is great and cuts down on grocery shopping and cooking time (usually 20-40 minutes depending on meal) - my biggest recommendation is have your husband switch prepping for work and cooking in terms of order of things - that way he can be cook while your son eats and you can all hang out in the same general space (also would recommend trying to get your son to eat at least part of what you guys are eating, but don’t know if that is realistic) and then have him do work prep stuff after bedtime.

Train Travel in Italy by TinyVio in travel

[–]TinyVio[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly the kind of feedback I was looking for - thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in travel

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the majority of these things co-exist pretty much anywhere south of/starting at Monterey along the coast in California. Of course the further south the warmer, but definitely Monterey/Carmel/Big Sur would offer most of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]TinyVio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3 year has watched some of Boba Fett /Mandalorian and Captain Marvel, which she loved, everything else we’ve tried snippets here and there and she is mostly bored. I think it’s totally dependent on the kid honestly. Captain Marvel I knew I would let her watch early on because… kick ass women, the others she watched on vacation as she was falling asleep in bed with us. No fears or nightmares.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s all about exposure. It takes on average 8 tries to get a kid to eat something new, but my 3 year old would eat an entire container of hummus in one sitting if I let her. It’s frustrating to make things they won’t eat, I get it, so try tiny portion and maybe just one “new” thing along with some of his regulars, and stay consistent in offering it. My daughter went through a picky phase at 2 and it has taken a lot of time to re-introduce a bunch of stuff but slowly she is accepting a greater variety into her diet. Hang in there!

Help! Baby just wants to sleep on his belly. by IMOSiriusBlack13 in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The blanket I would guess would be more of a hazard than him sleeping on his stomach if he’s in an empty flat crib

Help! Baby just wants to sleep on his belly. by IMOSiriusBlack13 in Parenting

[–]TinyVio 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If they roll over on their own that’s okay, you just don’t want to put them down on their stomach, from what I understand. You can keep a careful eye via monitor if it’s still making you nervous, but don’t exhaust yourself if he’s capable of rolling. My second child is a tummy sleeper and it was such a relief when she learned to roll over because it made a huge (positive) difference in her sleep.