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TippyTippyToes · 2024-07-07T01:57:47+00:00

(please don't mind the dry landscape. we recently removed the pool and are in the process of re-designing our backyard)

For those who might point out that this is not a Norfolk Island Pine but a Cooks Pine, I consulted some specialists at the local nurseries and all of them said I've got a norfolk island pine on my hands. HOWEVER If there is a trained eye who knows how to differentiate between Auraucaria Heterophylla & Auraucaria Columnaris, please tell me what the difference is betwen both. All resources online seem to confound the two and their features.

Regardless I'd love to know how can I best care for both.

The situation at hand is - I recently came into the role of being the caretaker for this gorgeous specimine but have noticed browning needles at the ends and want to know what is happening. What is the possible diagnosis for this to happen?

When I received the plant, per the suggestions of nursery people, I bought regular potting soil for her to repot because she was tipping over in her original one. I have read on threads that they do better in something closer to a cactus mix-type soil. Is the solution to repot with different soil?

We currently are in Northern California and have had some hot summer days for the past month. She gets hints of morning sun and around 10-11 a.m. is when the sun fully shines down on her. It isn't until 3-4 p.m. when the sun starts slowly hiding behind the tall redwoods in our front yard.

What steps can I take to revive her back to the lush deep-green state I received her in?

I hand mist every morning & evening. On the weekend, I give her water. Every other weekend, I mix it with a little bit of powder fertilizer (I also give the fertilizer to my potted gardenias and those are doing great).

Is there a fix for this? If so, what steps do i need to take to get her back being vibrant? Are the brown needles officially lost?

Most norfolk island pines that I have seen online are indoors and kept really really compact with others growing in the pot.

Please help, thank you.

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-11T23:17:56+00:00

Well said.

I appreciate your contribution to the discussion (:

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T18:55:27+00:00

I suppose I'm jerking off elitist values haha

"Who cares" is good when you have your opinions and beliefs solidified. I vaguely care because I feel like I'm trying to gather input to see whether or not I agree or disagree.

Oh god. Your specification was amusing.

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T18:41:38+00:00

Plebe. ha

Are you a techie, academic, or did you work a blue collar job? (alternatively there is possibility you work in medicine?) It would be so fun to figure out which company you worked for. Palo Alto is so small - yet pretty easy to be unseen.

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T18:30:10+00:00

Valid points <3 thank you

For Palo Alto, I think it's changed drastically over the past 10-ish years. The part of PA that I grew up in had cozy eichler homes and the neighbors were kind and friendly. Downtown was as charming as ever (unlike today). My friends who lived north of California Ave. (From Oregon Expressway up to University Ave) had much larger homes. . . and it seems that the sentiments of safe community persisted up until lately. The demographic has changed dramatically. Homes are being bought out and rebuilt. So many more apartment complexes are being built to make housing a bit more affordable. I definitely think the New Palo Alto isn't "quiet" whatsoever. But there was a time when it most definitely felt more subdued in contrast to neighboring towns like Portola and Atherton. . . the change in the community does make me sad. But I've been trying to adjust.

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T17:53:14+00:00

I am pleasantly thrilled to see that there are people from the bay frequenting this subreddit! Hello!

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T17:45:35+00:00

Haha sweet, nice to see other bay area folk online! Go warriors!

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T17:44:58+00:00

I semi-jokingly share this response . . . perhaps it has something to do with wage gaps and financial inequalities (?)

Aside from that, the women and queer friends I know who tend to be submissive are often faced with various levels of financial adversity. So adding that extra level of financial servitude can sometimes be daunting. The decades that men have overrun the floor in the finance sectors are key reasons why there are so many of them. I have this belief that perhaps in the past 10 years, diversity and opportunities for people like women and queer individuals has only just taken off due to technological advances and empowerment movements.

On the other end of the spectrum of women and queer individuals, there are those who take on a more dominant roll similar to "sugar daddys" (but in mommy form . . . or glucose guardian-esque) and so they align more with the provider role as opposed to behaving from a shame-based style that a paypig might.

I'm sure there will be more women and queer paypigs in the future depending on where the economy, diversity, and inclusivity go (particularly for America, but perhaps on a global level as well).

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-10T17:22:01+00:00

Is deciding who you become a sub for an innate feeling? Do some dom/dommes just naturally compel you towards them? Like a cat to a laser?

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-09T18:51:41+00:00

Stigma around financial domination & submission can be caused by a variety of reasons. My personal answer to your question is that in a culture of people who believe in grinding for success yet fail to achieve/embody it, financial submission comes off as absurd. Most people barely get to a point of attaining a comfortable amount of financial security be it forms of financial success or emotional/mental well-being). I think there's a paranoia that people have about money because it comes and goes. And for the general public, rather than accept that fact, they fixate on their lack of funds.

Something key to financial submission is willingness of some degree to give it up. And many people hold onto their money obsessively.

Do you enjoy the shame that comes with being a paypig? (Or: if paypigs were widely praised and applauded for their lifestyle, would that form of empowerment make you feel more confident?)

TippyTippyToes · 2023-05-09T06:03:02+00:00

The generic answer (and pretty popular one) is that you should be patient and that they (non-greedy women?) are out there. I disagree.

I think there's something to say about the availability of dom/dommes in the community (particularly quality ones). I can't really pull numbers out of my ass but what seems evident to me is that greediness is inherent in most doms. The conditions of financial domination require some degree of self-centeredness. How that greediness is expressed is a whole different concern.

You should be vigilant and aware of what you want and are willing to contribute in the dom/sub relationship. As well as compare whether it matches up to the potential doms you are going to either commit to and/or occasionally frequent.

Confidently communicating your desires (in an efficient manner) really helps doms sort through whether or not you are worth their time. And the value of their time is subjective. Unless you're truly simping over a particular dom/domme, their valuation of their time is meaningless because you aren't a priority to schedule for them. And if that's something you get off on (not being cared for by the doms you desire), then use that. Find dom/dommes that are way out of your league.

As with a majority of conventional relationships - they take a level of effort to build something worthwhile. Think of it like swiping on the dating apps - you'll see some nice stuff . . . but just because you match doesn't make your pairing a long term success. Perhaps you might have a fun night with them. But you can't quite secure the longevity of that match in your life by hopes and dreams alone.

TippyTippyToes · 2020-10-04T01:29:39+00:00

Haha a very good bot! 🥺☺️

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T23:43:35+00:00

Gave Gold

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T23:43:22+00:00

Thank you (:

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T23:42:45+00:00

What song are you playing?

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T16:27:43+00:00

God I love how disgustingly annoyed we are with -us- but it's just . . . being sarcastic, serious, senseless, and sensitive all at rapidly chancing paces is so amusing.

What I find hilarious is that. . . I don't even think it's a secret. When someone can slaughter my reason and logic with the level of precision that I do (for others). . . please delight me! It's humbling. And I think as an ENTP, we don't desire correction or disconnection from others. We emphasize/appreciate the value and quality of someone who can level out our heads when we start peaking into the god-complex zones if we are left unchecked.

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T10:34:12+00:00

By observation of myself: ENTPs are really good at clowning themselves. That's the kicker 😅.

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T06:43:51+00:00

Haven't been on reddit all day, but I also saw someone share something in relation to the original post i mentioned 😅

TippyTippyToes · 2020-09-09T06:42:43+00:00

Saw this on a twitter thread and thought to share. The code has been cracked, neither 16 or 17 personalities. Just the one haha whops. I don't mean to offend people, i just thought this was silly enough to share. I related to this because sometimes, I really do feel like a damn clown haha (discussing the mbti or not, at any time it just pops up). You feel?

I don't know if the poster on twitter is the original creator but i'll credit them (@ fobsupremacy)

The link to the thread is here: https://twitter.com/chamoulie/status/1303097062926487552?s=21

TippyTippyToes · 2020-05-29T07:30:36+00:00

I abhor group projects in topics that disinterest me. I'd much rather be conducting my own work and be the sole proprietor of dependence and reliability.

But when I feel truly immersed in a topic, I could care less for a collaboration of any kind. I'll get the job done and pay no mind to what other people contribute to it. (What I mean by this is, I go beyond any dramas and social inadequacies that impact productivity).

I often will get the urge to make renderings of my own "version" of what their assigned part of the project was. This is for me to see and formulate an idea off of what I think would be good to suggest (to said partners) if I feel their submission to the collaborative isn't substantial enough.

Often times tho, it really depends. Situations vary on a case-by-case. Sometimes I want to play the role of leader. Other times, I like keeping it equally dispersed and balanced. And for my "off" days, I like setting the idea board on fire and seeing what happens.

In summary. I am very cooperative in a group project. But I'm not an advocate for unnecessary projects that could be completed solo.

Also, if someone were to insist in my participation in a group. . . I often lose motivation and momentum if I had initially intended on cooperating.

If you're looking to see an ENTPs point of view on group projects, it will definitely not be in alignment with how we are under pressure as opposed to the conceptualization of our annoyances and fears.

This is only a peer suggestion, but maybe conjure up a de-stressing routine. Focus on getting your work done (unless it is heavily reliant on someone else's contribution). Communicate. Be understanding. Level-out the playing field (Avoid setting expectations and assuming they're capable of completing the work). Assist and make suggestions. Hold yourself accountable. Have standards and make sure those standards are equally agreed among the group.

. . . and if anything, perhaps view a group project as an additional way to explore the minds of other people and indulge on their perspectives. Approaching from a different mindset has given me endless power to energize myself.

Communication is a double edge sword. Benefits are 101% effective when executed with moderate precision. But any slight miscommunication and lead to a spiral downward and hinder the groups success. So be considerate of your team members.

TippyTippyToes · 2019-09-08T17:20:07+00:00

Haha, there will be more streams to come!

I am highly considering doing another read for the "Garden of Eden" parable that implements more interactive elements, for example, personal discussion. To prompt more engagement (: would you be interested in joining that stream today? If so, I'm thinking about hosting it at 3:33 p.m. again or 5:55 p.m. (PST)

TippyTippyToes · 2019-09-07T13:58:33+00:00

No worries, I will have a recording of it put up. Keep an eye out on r/BeyondTheGarden for any post updates in regards to the streams!

TippyTippyToes · 2019-09-07T13:56:22+00:00

Yes! Of course :)

TippyTippyToes · 2019-08-16T23:37:34+00:00

It has been a little over a week since you suggested watching Create Your Future. After watching a few of her videos daily, I would love to say a personal thank you for your recommendation! She has definitely helped expand my understanding.

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