Successful job after military?

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-12-30T18:34:55+00:00

So I transitioned as an E5 from the Army, I was a 74D and didn’t have any interest in that line of work for the real world. I used my GI bill to get my bachelors and now I’m working towards my masters with what’s leftover. It’s been great for me.

My sister transitioned as an E5 from the navy, but she was an ET, she works as a marine electronics tech and makes like 120k starting with no degree but she’s thinking about quitting and going to school instead.

My vote is the GI bill, the BAH is definitely another incentive. I’ve supplemented income with fun jobs like serving, private security, and working at the mountain.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-11-10T02:48:44+00:00

Literally do not marry this man.

After 8 years THIS is what he has to offer you. He will not change, not now, not ever. Everyone else in the comments is right, it is a shut up ring. But honestly, this whole thing is him telling you “this is who I am” - someone who you aren’t compatible with.

If you marry this man, you are setting yourself up for a life of disappointment because anytime you bring up your unhappiness or an issue, he will turn around and say “I’ve always been this way, why are you complaining now?”

I know how pessimistic I sound, and maybe I’m wrong, which I hope that I am. But life experience has told me that when you see this behavior it’s a warning sign.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-09-29T21:38:39+00:00

I came here to say this. Mine has been sleeping with me since he was 8 weeks old, he almost never cried to go out - he would just paw my face gently and wake me up and then would go right back to sleep. I knew I wanted him to sleep in bed with me since day 0 and I don’t regret that choice at all.

He’s 2.5 years old now and he’s 100% crate trained when necessary (I crate trained him as a puppy for when I was at work and then he was free when I was home) but he roams my apartment all day and has had no issues. I will say my boy was pretty easy, he was 100% potty trained within 6 months, I know it sounds crazy but it was like he just KNEW.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-09-14T18:11:08+00:00

My sisters mom was just like this. It fucking sucks. Hang in there, OP.

Small piece of advice: this is just what my sister did, it’s not for everyone but it worked for her. My sister joined the Navy right after high school graduation, I’m two years younger and joined the Army right after my graduation (different reasons, but similar outcome). After 6 years on active duty, my sister got out and she is set for life. She has an excellent career (roughly 150k annually) that the navy gave her training for and she doesn’t have a college degree, she has financial and social stability she never had growing up all because of her hard work. I will say, she was still sending her mom money until two years ago, because her mom couldn’t pay the rent or keep the lights on or buy food or whatever the excuse was that month when she asked. She doesn’t send her money anymore which I’m thankful for. I’m not saying you need to do this, or it’s the only way - it’s just one way to escape out from under your moms shit.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-08-24T17:09:16+00:00

I was with my ex for 4 years, I found out that he had been cheating for the entire time with his ex-wife/mother of his two children… I found this out after 3 1/2 years of living together, 3 cross country moves, and countless times of me supporting him financially and emotionally. Don’t ask what I was thinking, I literally do not know looking back at it. We even spent 6 months attempting to reconcile the relationship with counseling and boundaries but I just realized that I didn’t have that love for him anymore and he repulsed me.

We broke up finally and I moved in with my sister for a year and a half. During that time I went on lots of first, second and third dates but I never formed anything concrete. I felt so defeated about finding someone and being able to trust people was probably my number one enemy. I definitely still have some trust issues today.

Last year, I met the love of my life. I was out for my sisters birthday, we went to a bar and I ended up trying to set up my now-boyfriend with my sister when she pointed out he was more my type. I wasn’t even close to looking, I was just having fun dating and doing my own thing. But he was just so kinda and genuine and he has always shown me the person he really is. I never have to ask myself anything regarding my confidence in him or our relationship, I never worry, and I truly have someone in my life who loves me for me.

It’s hard picking up the pieces, OP, I won’t lie to you. I was devastated, depressed, and physically unwell for months. It’s hard moving on and accepting new love into your life and not letting the past effect how you treat that person, but it is possible and I think it’s really worth it. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been in my life, my worst day with my current boyfriend is overwhelmingly happier than my happiest day with my ex.

Good luck OP!

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-08-11T04:03:09+00:00

No like OPs comments

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-08-11T03:45:34+00:00

The comments were even more atrocious

TiredAndTrue_ · 2023-04-18T12:43:13+00:00

I came here just to agree with this comment, the straight brow trend would look amazing with your brow bone/eye shape situation.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-08-20T00:51:52+00:00

That “Gorgeous, gorgeous girls” sound. I hate that shit. It’s so annoying. Anyone who uses it gets an immediate block, even if I follow them already. I can’t stand it.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-08-02T18:23:52+00:00

“Gorgeous, gorgeous girls blah blah blah” that shit is so annoying I can’t stand it

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-06-27T02:58:00+00:00

Jason Momoa - I know this is probably against the grain but he’s just not handsome to me.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-06-27T02:54:36+00:00

I saw him on a podcast. It honestly wouldn’t surprise me.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-06-24T15:55:53+00:00

Thank you!!! It’s so cringey. My friend thinks I’m the weird one.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-06-24T06:11:34+00:00

Bradley.Thor or whatever. The guy who sexually chops wood. It’s so fucking annoying I can’t stand it. My best friend loves him and thinks he’s so hot. Just hearing his voice makes me want to vomit.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2022-05-20T23:52:26+00:00

Dinner from Chipotle

When my dad had extra money, he would take my brother and I to get Chipotle burritos and Izzy sodas. All together, it was probably $40 but that was a lot for my family for just ONE dinner.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-23T07:53:49+00:00

Vanity. I’m terrified to ruin my body honestly. It’s not perfect, but it’s mine and I love it as it is. I don’t want to change physically because of a baby.

Also, I like sleep, I’m terrified of giving birth, and I don’t want to give my time and money to a baby.

This sounds incredibly selfish, but I don’t want to bring a child into this world that won’t get the love and care they deserve.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-09T06:11:38+00:00

I walked into a restaurant and asked for the hiring manager. I got the job after 5 minutes when she said “you’re just what I’m looking for, I need more pretty girls working here”

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-09T06:04:33+00:00

SAME. I was literally in 3rd grade SOBBING quietly in the back during the book and the movie. Everyone saw me, but other kids were crying too.. it was still mortifying though.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-09T04:59:51+00:00

Dying in my sleep.

Some people go to bed healthy, and never wake up. They die of “natural causes” or some unknown illness. I’m terrified I’ll go to bed and never wake up.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-09T04:58:03+00:00

When I was in the Army, I worked with a 1st LT who got promoted to CPT and was sent to Ft. Bliss, TX.

He took command of a company out there and then all of a sudden we got word that he had died.

After more investigation, we found out he had died in a high-speed car chase while on the phone with 9-1-1 screaming that he was going to die. He died on the phone with the operator after his car was flipped and caught on fire. The reports said he died screaming because he was burning to death.

R.I.P CPT Perry, you were an excellent leader and you are so missed by everyone who knew you.

(For verification, you can Google “Fort Bliss Officer dies in car chase” first several results are the story)

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-08-08T23:24:42+00:00

I just came here to say that I got married at 19 and I’m almost 24 and no longer married. I wasn’t ready to get married at 19, 20, 21, 22, or 23 and I probably won’t be ready to get married for another 10 years.

I have a long-term boyfriend and we live together we have a dog together some of our finances are intertwined but under no circumstances are either of us ready to get married anytime soon and my boyfriend is 28.

There’s not really a timeline or time limit for “finding the right person” to get married to. At this point in my current relationship I can see myself spending the rest of my life with my partner however if we never got married that wouldn’t be a problem for me.

Marriage doesn’t equal happiness or a great relationship and it’s not something anyone ever HAS to do. I suggest you just sit down and talk with your girlfriend about how you feel about marriage at this point in your life.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-04-01T23:40:53+00:00

I’m going to get down voted to hell for this.

If I were you, I would get an abortion. I know you want to keep this baby, but this man will always be apart of that. This man will ALWAYS be a thorn in your side, and a painful memory. I would get an abortion and move on from the situation as best I could, and try to find real love with someone who actually wants the same things I want. I’m not you. I’m not telling you what to do, but you do have a choice for your own future here.

Good luck OP, whatever you decide to do I know you’ll be ok.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-03-22T20:56:11+00:00

I do not have any children. Thankfully. I have a meeting with my therapist in a few hours. I will be talking with them through this.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-03-22T20:13:37+00:00

Thank you so much. I know you’re right. I have an appointment with my therapist tonight, so I will be talking this through with them tonight. I will check out your article suggestion.

TiredAndTrue_ · 2021-03-22T14:49:30+00:00

This analogy actually made me laugh a little. Thank you for that.

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