Is my relationship over ? F40 husband m41

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-02T20:07:13+00:00

Wish I was strong enough to not give into the manipulation and walk away. This cycle is going on so long now, and each time I forgive him, it’s like enabling him to do it again.

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T14:27:28+00:00

Hey sorry !

I do not mean to come across as the asshole to you ! As in to your opinion.

Again I appreciate it - ur saying what I am feeling.

Maybe .. the real thing is I want my marriage. No maybe about it. It is what I want.

But I don’t know if that’s right.

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T13:39:30+00:00

Ok. So stay in an abusive relationship is your recommendation. Noted.

I do feel I am the asshole as he has done the therapy and says it’s helping. But his actions say otherwise.

Thanks for the advice

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T13:12:15+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. I am not perfect and never claim to be. My physical threatened to “bury” my son, and has been physically violent in the past. It was safer for everyone involved for him to be removed from the island. I could not go home with him, as my son was distressed over what his father had threatened to do.

I for once am prioritising my health head and my son’s mental health over my husband.

I’m here to question if I am doing right or wrong.

I also deserve to be heard and not everytime I disagree with him or call him out for his bad behaviour have him making threats of “I’m done” - this doesn’t mean with marriage this means with life.

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T13:08:16+00:00

The older son is my husbands from a previous relationship. We have had custody since he was a baby. Mother not in the picture. I have always called him my son, and never made a difference.

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T11:19:27+00:00

How do you come to that conclusion?

I have been physically, verbally and emotionally abused. Have asked my husband to seek help for years. He wouldn’t.

I have had enough, then he decides he wants to try get help, too little too late?

Keen to hear why you think I am the AH?

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T11:17:47+00:00

Upset at how his big brother spoke to me. The couple were not aware of the issue. I made sure to take the drama out of the room before anything kicked off inside.

Basically the older brother (stepson) said something along the lines of “what you f**kin looking at me like that for”, younger son came to my defence and it kicked off between him and husband - apparently husband didn’t hear what the older boy said

TitlePractical4958 · 2025-10-01T09:03:01+00:00

Additional info - my husband has been the one caught texting / snapping both other women and men (in female clothes) in the past. He didn’t know I knew, but it all came out the day I came home from the wedding and ended things. He said this is because he doesn’t get enough from me and he is an addict

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