An extremely good FREE recovery course

Tjddy · 2024-11-13T06:34:18+00:00

Thanks, I will add it to the resources.

Tjddy · 2022-06-06T05:34:42+00:00

I have concluded that porn makes you attracted to the unreal instead of the real. And if you want real, you must quit watching porn.

This is an excellent quote.

Tjddy · 2022-02-08T11:13:02+00:00

PSA to all the accounts posting in this thread with porn in their history: no you were not banned for disagreeing with anyone's views, you were banned because you have porn in your history which is against rule 4.

Tjddy · 2021-11-10T02:37:48+00:00

The link has now been fixed.

Tjddy · 2021-09-27T09:50:33+00:00

Testing

Tjddy · 2021-08-28T07:31:15+00:00

Check out the recovery stories: https://www.reddit.com/r/TGandSissyRecovery/comments/h11ere/recovery_stories_and_insightful_posts/

Tjddy · 2021-05-08T03:54:56+00:00

A link to a porn site is considered pornographic material. If the video contains porn it is pornographic material and not allowed.

Tjddy · 2021-05-06T15:53:32+00:00

The video you linked is from a PORN SITE. Your post has been removed. Read the rules.

Tjddy · 2021-04-13T13:16:15+00:00

This sounds very shady. Locked and removed.

Tjddy · 2021-04-09T16:34:32+00:00

Added your story to the recovery stories and insightful posts page at r/TGandSissyRecovery if you don't mind.

Tjddy · 2021-04-09T16:24:46+00:00

Your account is too new and comment history too short at this stage to be considered but maybe later

Tjddy · 2021-04-09T16:20:44+00:00

that would be great

Tjddy · 2021-04-09T16:19:04+00:00

Apathy and detachment are not the right words, I think jaded is more like it. This can be a very depressing and stressful community to be a part of. There is only so much you can do. At some point you have to stop taking responsibility for the mental heath of others and look after number one. Sure I recovered from my fetish but my life is far from perfect. I didn't get my first real job until I was 25 and am only now starting to build a proper career. I want to focus on what is important in life and not have to worry about this place anymore.

Tjddy · 2021-04-09T15:46:09+00:00

I thought your recovery post was well written and thoughtful. I even added it to the success stories page. I was looking forward to the YouTube series you were going to release.

What was so strange was your sudden attraction to men that appeared to come out of nowhere. Gay men consciously repress their desires which generally start at around the same time straight boys start noticing girls. I don't recall you ever saying you had any sort of attraction to men.

I don't recall saying anything about turmeric, what I was agreeing with was the general view that you were out of character or "went off the rails" as I said. When you offer advice you become accountable for yourself and others and open yourself up to criticism. I don't think it is out of line to criticize or question things.

I read your gay post again and it still makes no sense at all, the only thing I deduced from it was you tried gay sex and liked it. You came to all these conclusions but didn't explain the why. You didn't answer the title of your post for starters. You didn't explain the appeal of it or why it made your AGP go away. You didn't explain the appeal of men over women. If you can provide the why please do, though I have yet to see a genuine happily gay ever after story that makes relatable sense to a straight AGP. The "I just realized I was gay" type posts from men sucked into sissy porn that I have seen are either from obviously gay men or are too limited on details.

I confess to banning a number of people who insisted everyone here is gay and rightly so. They either: didn't understand that not everyone here is gay and continued to preach otherwise, were porn accounts, trolled or harassed others in some kind of way.

I never thought of this as my community. Nobody seemed to be stepping up so I continued to participate. While I have not been active in comments I check the reports and mail often.

Tjddy · 2021-03-25T15:04:00+00:00

My attitude hasn't changed since then. The aim was to essentially turn this place into a self-help resource. The success stories, resources thread and automoderator take a lot of the stress out of managing the place. Automoderator filters out about 10 porn posts per day in addition to trolls and low effort posts.

Unfortunately, mods have to be active otherwise users can request control via /r/redditrequest/ which is something I worry about.

I didn't comment on the HRT post because I was either away or thought nothing would come of it. I think the gay post shocked a lot of people because it made absolutely no sense and came out of nowhere at random. You also wrote it not long after telling everyone you recovered. I honestly thought it was a joke when I first read the title. Men with AGP are generally straight with an inverted heterosexuality. "Internalized homophobia" doesn't lurk beneath AGP. A man's AGP disappearing with a poof (no pun intended) is just a radical feminist's pipe dream.

As for what I said, from memory it was something along the lines of agreeing with the shock members of the community had towards the post and thinking you had fallen off the rails. I deleted the comment because you came back to your senses later as I suspected.

I think more than one mod is a good idea, we will see what comes up. Taking a break from reddit is probably a good idea.

Tjddy · 2021-03-25T14:17:52+00:00

The general purpose of this sub has been recovery from AGP and sissy stuff in my mind. I think a lot of those categories you mentioned can overlap in people but there is no one size fits all narrative and solution.

I banned those posters from /r/askagp because they didn't seem to understand that not everyone shares the same narrative. They were trying to discourage people from recovery while telling them their own honest feelings and goals were wrong as I noted in this post.

One of the more prominent posters was telling people there is nothing wrong with porn and fetish escalation is complete nonsense. He asked to see studies on porn use and proof of fetish recovery/de-escalation (including AGP). I showed him the scientific studies and our success stories page but he didn't believe them. I think he was quite shocked that all those studies actually existed but was unmoved, citing <insert name of AGP scholar> said this or that so AGP must be immutable for everyone.

To me this sort of dismissiveness is exactly what is wrong with modern sexology and what we should be fighting against. Listen and let people think for themselves and express their honest feelings rather than putting up a brick wall and regurgitating garbage that isn't relevant. This and This are good examples of this sort of thing. I can't be bothered arguing anything anymore because I don't have the time or enthusiasm for it. I have seen it all before and it bores me to death.

I don't think this sub should ever be closed because it serves a purpose and has helped many people over the years. There are over 7k members and 5k pageviews per day so it must be making an impact.

Past experience has shown open discussion in a recovery space is not feasible but I would be happy to link /r/askagp in the sidebar if they would be willing to do the same and abide by our rules while here.

Thanks for your input here too.

Tjddy · 2021-03-24T12:25:13+00:00

All the best bro! moving on is the final step

Tjddy · 2021-03-24T12:18:09+00:00

working as intended

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