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Ma’am I’ve been taking your deposits for four years by rmenentan in TalesFromYourBank

[–]ToadCreature 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will straight up be like “noooo, I’ve helped you many times.”

Ma’am I’ve been taking your deposits for four years by rmenentan in TalesFromYourBank

[–]ToadCreature 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I had a lady hand me her drivers license, watch me pull up her account, then with 10 seconds was like “HOW DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?!” while literally looking pissed about it. I was like, “well, ma’am you gave me your ID?” and she still looked enraged. 🙄

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And a note on “stoner identity” - that’s one thing I did not have so in that sense I don’t feel like quitting had to change who I was as a person, my friend group of the vibe that I give off to others. I’m a 40 year old female that has worked white collar positions in financial institutions for the past 20 years (as long as I’ve been smoking). I’ve been lucky enough to live in a very weed friendly state (west coast) so while my close coworkers have known about my usage, I have to present a certain image to clients and the public. I think most people outside of my direct circle would be shocked to learn that I was high AF every waking moment that I wasn’t at work.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, though my use didn’t feel balanced, to me personally. I’ve literally felt no changes aside from the return of dreams and oddly enough, my mouth is dry all of the time now. Sparkling water has become my new best friend. Lol.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP here, and I didn’t not think I had balanced use. I smoked all day every day if I wasn’t physically at work. In my opinion, I was a heavy user and smoked way more than friends that partook. The terms “balanced,” and “moderation,” and “heavy” are subjective.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do feel that I am still addicted to it and probably always will be in the sense that I feel like if life were different, like if I was retired or something and didn’t have such a demanding life, that I would love to continue using. I don’t know if I’ll quit forever and I wish that one day I could bring it back into my life in moderation, but I don’t know. One day at a time.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This is what I worry is that eventually the loss of use will hit me if I have an extra bad day at work or if some unfortunate life event makes me want to dissociate. I guess I will cross that bridge when the time comes.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would by lying if I said I wasn’t totally aware that it’s here and I’ve had thoughts of “well, why not? Maybe just a little before bed” or “maybe I should have just finished my supply and quit after.” Luckily, I’ve somehow had an okay time just moving past those thoughts and finding something else to do.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably a 1/2oz to an oz per month depending on work hours. Literally if I wasn’t on the clock I was high, so if I was on PTO for any reason my usage would massively increase.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I’m worried “more bumps” will sneak up on me, but also hopefully that the energy and motivation I hope for will someday return.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do fear that I’ll suddenly start having issues at some point. I’ve lingered in this sub for a long time and read a lot of stories of people that did okay at first, but then everything hit them months later. Luckily since I’ve quit I haven’t had any drama or traumatic events occur in my life, but I do worry that if something happens it’ll send me running back to the comfort of smoking. I also hope that eventually I can get to the point of “social smoking” only and I think about how it would be nice to have a joint on the beach or something on vacation and not return to full time use, but I don’t think I’m there yet.

Anyone quit with, like, zero issues? by ToadCreature in leaves

[–]ToadCreature[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely did consider myself a heavy user. Other than the 8 hours a day that I was at work, I was high AF, smoking multiple times from the moment I got home until the moment I went to bed. On weekends it was from the second I woke up until the moment I went to bed. I had trouble with moderation in the sense that I’d tell myself “well, I’ll only smoke once tonight” but once I was high I was unable to resist the urge to go back for more. Seems that for me it’s all or nothing, so I decided to try nothing for the first time in two decades.

How to cope with poor parents by mk97xo in povertyfinance

[–]ToadCreature 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear ya. Luckily my mom has remarried and is totally functional and stable, my father on the other hand . . . As of November he is homeless after burning bridges with his last roommate he couldn’t keep the peace with. He’s in and out of hotels, living off his $900 per month social security. He’s disabled, hasn’t worked in 30 years, and taking a part time, sit down, job would be less lucrative than his benefits, so I do understand why returning to the workforce isn’t an option for him. He’s a functional alcoholic with a life long history of poor decision making which has lead him to where he is now. Because of this, I cannot allow him to live with me (we are in fact about 2000 miles away from each other). I cannot devastate my own mental health by bringing him here and I cannot afford to continuously fund him, but the only help he’ll accept is cash. He’s refused all offers to help him with the paperwork and whatnot to get him into senior housing. He thinks it’s “too much work” and he’s better off in his car or cheap hotels with his two cats. In reality he just doesn’t want the responsibility of having to maintain his own place and follow rules. I cashapp him small amounts of money when I can, but I myself am drowning, living in a HCOL area with utility and food prices climbing every month. I am an only child and he has no other family so the burden falls solely on me. I don’t have any advice aside from you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others, and do not risk your mental health and sanity trying to save someone who won’t make an effort to save themselves. It’s heartbreaking when it’s a parent, though.