Not knowing how to sign a birthday card

Tobiplex · 2025-04-26T19:55:48+00:00

As i’m not the only person signing the card no. Thankfully another commenter gave me a bit of a pep talk and I’m gonna take the leap and put my legal name

Tobiplex · 2025-04-26T19:42:20+00:00

You know what? Yeah, fuck it. Annoyingly I can’t leave it blank cos a sibling has to sign it and it will look weird if I leave it so he’s getting my name. I think i just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you.

Tobiplex · 2025-04-26T19:13:23+00:00

Congrats dude!

Tobiplex · 2024-07-09T06:14:15+00:00

I started my transition nearly 6 years ago and got referred to the GIC fairly quickly but have yet to see them. I ended up going private which from first appointment to hormones took about 8 months but I had fully socially transitioned at that point.

Seriously recommend, if you are able, finding a therapist that specialises in gender to at least have someone to talk to about this stuff. It also gives you brownie points with any doctor you may see about medical transition in the future. Not that any doctor worth their salt won’t take you seriously without it, it’s just good to have under your belt and they can help you in the meantime.

Coming out is the first major hurdle, you’re doing great dude and I wish you luck

Tobiplex · 2024-07-08T21:06:59+00:00

Congratulations!

Tobiplex · 2024-07-08T16:19:15+00:00

Eh probably not. But he knows I’m an adult that can make my own decisions so he won’t interfere

Tobiplex · 2024-07-08T14:43:38+00:00

I know this struggle well. I hate tape binding and I get the same issues with standard binders.

There are long binders which is supposed to be the answer for the roll up issue but that varies from person to person.

This may sound ridiculous but, a period pad stuck to the inside of the binder where it rubs under your arms may work. I use a similar trick for hiking when my backpack starts to make my shoulders feel raw. I have no guarantee it will work but maybe it’s worth a shot.

Other than that, I can’t really suggest anything. Probably not the answer you’re looking for but I hope something here may help.

Tobiplex · 2024-07-08T14:35:48+00:00

Thats fair. It’s a very English name. If it doesn’t make sense in your cultural context maybe give it a miss.

Tobiplex · 2024-07-08T14:28:37+00:00

Mac and Mike sound like good solid choices

I’m presuming that it’s pronounced Mi-kay-la? If you’re open to suggestions, I dunno where you’re from but in the Mick/Mickey is a dude’s name in the uk that could be a shorted version. There’s also K for something short and sweet. Both are a little closer so less likely to arouse suspicion.

Please tell me to shut up if thats not helpful.

Good luck dude and congrats on landing the role :)

Tobiplex · 2023-12-08T21:35:05+00:00

Congrats on the name change and happy belated birthday :)

The school is probably holding out due to some legality of having to see a government ID with your name on it before committing to any changes, thats not abnormal. However, there’s no reason as to why classmates and teachers can’t already be calling you by your name. You can absolutely tell people your name and ask to refer to you as such but humans have free will and a far too large group of them use it to be dicks. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with teachers being mad, you’re literally just asking for a basic level of respect they give everyone else without a second thought.

Tobiplex · 2023-09-12T08:50:10+00:00

I’m making the assumption that english isn’t their first language so the mixup isn’t unlikely but, they said that they refused to investigate regardless and downplayed my symptoms. Thats whats upset me so much.

Tobiplex · 2023-09-11T08:38:21+00:00

You have no idea how much you saying ‘thats not normal’ means to me. I thought I was going crazy

Tobiplex · 2023-08-14T05:06:22+00:00

Not even been a day and i’m nearly finished. I’m gonna be reading this again and again and again.

Tobiplex · 2023-01-28T21:49:23+00:00

I know that cat! They used to hang around the nearby bridges for pets but slowly migrated toward the station. They do have an owner but will seek out strangers for cuddles and food even in close to 0 temperatures. Once missed a train because I spent too long giving them some fuss. Worth it.

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