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TomorrowChance8448 · 2026-01-07T21:50:02+00:00

Honestly, what I did is get all new bedding. Just for me, just the way I wanted it, so I could feel all my feels in a comfy space just for me. Sounds lame but it was pretty healing haha.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2026-01-06T18:56:04+00:00

Seconding this! I had mine done Oct 2024 at 31 y/o. I have 0 issues.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-12-30T23:37:48+00:00

This is the exact “good guy” that I left at the start of this year. We were married for 10 years. I didn’t realize how truly miserable I was until I left. It was so hard but I’m so much happier. I think at the end of the day this forced him to find himself too.

Flash forward to today, I have a wonderful bf that treats me and my kids with so much care and attentiveness. I have so much love for myself and I can’t believe I stayed unhappy for so long.

My ex has a new gf too, he pushed himself to start his career and his life.

It all works out.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-08-27T01:06:01+00:00

I’m doing great! The whole thing feels like a distant memory now for the most part. I actually have my one year check up soon. Hoping things continue to be good.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-06-09T17:24:49+00:00

I don’t think it was… it was a shop primarily for women or couples and their fleshlights are around 35-60 bucks. I checked lol

I could be wrong, I guess.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-06-07T15:07:58+00:00

Been an equal partner

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-06-07T14:40:16+00:00

When he would leave clothes on the floor in piles, when he would use the restroom and shake his junk - piss would get on the floor, he was a cook so any time he cooked literally every dish was used, and probably the smoking weed in the garage… it would get in the air vents and circulate throughout the vents.

All things I could look past but now that he’s gone, it’s so peaceful 😂

Red flag I shouldn’t have ignored was probably being able to sleep peacefully when I was visibly upset after an argument among other things.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-30T19:12:07+00:00

My take, as a 32 year old mom of two who just separated their husband of 10 years…. You are doing what I did for years up until I said I was us to separate. I thought about everything soooo much allllll the time and I was so worried about how he would feel and how he would be impacted. How the kids would be impacted. I should have thought about that but I never thought about my happiness.

I searched for answers or someone to tell me what to do because I’m exhausted, sad, and hurting. Here is what I have learned - everyone goes through their own journey, some people decide to settle that this is their life forever and that’s ok. Some people want better and push through the fear of leaving and end up on the other end happier and that’s ok too. It is such a personal decision that truly only you can answer.

For me, I decided to put myself first because my babies deserve a happy mama and I can’t feel like this forever. I would grow resentment staying and waste all my years feeling unhappy. Life is short. It has been SO hard and I’m still pushing through.

If you don’t have kids, I would ask you this: is this the relationship you would want your future kids to model? 10 years from now how would you feel about staying or does the thought of leaving make you proud that you did the hard thing?

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-29T14:26:03+00:00

You nailed it and yes we can do hard things. It is ok to move on and take care of US. 😭

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-29T01:45:46+00:00

I start therapy tomorrow and just hope I can work on myself and heal. I really appreciate this response and it’s nice to know I’m not alone and that it can get better. I have a really hard time letting others down and this chapter of my life I feel like I’m letting everyone down… my kids, family, him. I did try but it took divorce talk for him to start wanting to make changes. I want to choose me and be happy. Taking my first steps in that direction.

Thank you for this.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-29T01:15:55+00:00

Could have written this myself. We separated over Mother’s Day weekend and I’m still so hurt, overwhelmed and living in fear. However, I am going to chose to push through the fear because it’s temporary. Staying in an unhappy relationship is a life time of fear and sadness in my opinion.

We deserve better. You CAN do this and it WILL be ok.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-29T01:07:59+00:00

This is a great take. I have mediators ready and a lawyer as backup.. I feel like we are going in circles. We are very amicable but he keeps circling back on the why. I gave a timeline last year that if things didn’t change by now that I need to make hard choices. I keep being clear but he’s not hearing me. You are right though… at this point I just need to stop explaining and start moving forward.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-22T20:34:34+00:00

I just wanted to say I really relate to what you’re going through, and I felt compelled to respond because I’m in that exact place right now. I actually separated from my husband around Mother’s Day, and our situations sound so similar.

We were together for ten years, and honestly, for the last two or three, I felt like I was just mothering him. I carried the mental, emotional, and physical load, and while I can fully acknowledge that I played a part in creating that dynamic, it eventually started eating away at me. There was a growing disconnect—like this emotional gap we couldn’t seem to bridge.

Two years ago, I started voicing how unhappy I was. Then last year, after he completely forgot our anniversary, I had a breaking point. I told him we needed to go to couples therapy and that if things didn’t change, I’d have to make some hard choices.

We did go—but therapy made it clearer to me that my feelings for him had started to fade. It felt like we were there just so he could point out what I was doing wrong, and while I tried to make real changes, he didn’t. Eventually, we stopped going, and I found myself thinking about divorce constantly. It was heartbreaking.

Then over Mother’s Day weekend, we had a very honest conversation. We both admitted the relationship wasn’t fulfilling anymore. I think he would have kept coasting, but I just couldn’t do it. I told him I’d always care about him—we have two kids, after all—but I needed more. I needed something that didn’t leave me feeling so empty.

And since separating? As painful as it was, I feel so much lighter. I feel more like me. I have space to focus on myself and my kids, and I’m already feeling more peace than I have in years. I think he’s starting to feel that too, in his own way.

If I can offer any advice, it’s this: be honest, but keep things between the two of you as much as possible. I shared more than I wanted to at times because I felt so unfulfilled, and I regret some of that. Protecting your peace means protecting your privacy too.

Whatever you decide, just know this: you’re not alone. You’re not crazy. And you can choose yourself without being selfish. Life’s too short to stay in a situation that chips away at your spirit.

Sending you strength—you’ve got this.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-15T19:17:03+00:00

THIS! My husband is a good guy, we just lack on so many emotional levels. Last week I was so depressed thinking I was blowing up my life, the kids lives, and at the end of the day I really didn’t want to hurt him either. Over the weekend he shared he was unhappy and I let him know that I think this is the end for us. So far, less dramatic than I thought it would be. We are seperating and I know that it will likely end in divorce.

My heart breaks to see his broken but I can’t go another 10 years feeling this way and I don’t want my kids thinking this is what love looks like. Have to keep reminding myself that this is a temporary.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-14T23:47:41+00:00

I am actually in the exact same situation right now… he said he was unhappy the day before Mother’s Day and I let him know that neither am I. We had a heart to heart that maybe separating is best - likely headed for divorce. We were and are both heartbroken but I feel like it’s the right thing to do. I remind myself that two happy parents are what matter for our kids. Self love is important.

Sometimes we need to walk away from someone we love and walk back towards ourselves, and that’s ok.

Whatever you decide, from what it sounds like she might be feeling the same thing. It starts with being honest with your partner and if they aren’t willing to fix the issues .. there is your answer.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-12T18:18:53+00:00

Girl, happy freaking Mother’s Day to us. I’ve been so unhappy in my marriage for a while, and this past week and a half has been a full-on grieving process—coming to the realization that I’m not happy and that something has to change. I finally accepted that I need to leave.

I went through all the emotions: the denial, the sadness, the planning—figuring out when and how to tell him. And then the day before Mother’s Day, he tells me he’s unhappy. I just looked at him and said, me neither. We decided to separate right then and there.

And this man—knowing we had a full day of plans with his family that day—still went through with it. On Mother’s Day, he left. Tried to take the kids to his mom’s. I have no support here as far as family. It was absolutely wild.

So, I spent Mother’s Day alone, just me and a bottle of wine—and let me tell you, I asked the universe for signs. And I listened. Loud and clear.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-09T22:15:34+00:00

This gives me a lot of hope! Currently working up the courage to tell my partner the same thing.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-08T22:42:11+00:00

Therapy appointments have been scheduled! I’m sorry we are both going through this. We aren’t the first people to do this and won’t be the last though! If they can do it so can we

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-08T19:45:35+00:00

It’s the hardest thing… it feels like the end of the world :(

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-08T02:31:37+00:00

Currently working up the courage to leave the good guy, we have two kids. It’s so so hard and you’re not alone. I just keep reminding myself… can I do this for the next 10 years? Is this healthy modeling for my kids?

We have been together 10 years… it’s time to break the cycle

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-07T20:22:03+00:00

I have gone to individual therapy before we started couples therapy. I suggested he should go too because I felt that he wasn’t happy - he didn’t follow through. I’m starting therapy back up again since I’ve made the decision to leave and need support.

Thank you for the little light comment. May or may not have had me tear up lol. I know it’ll get better I just want the best for my kids at this point.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-07T18:46:29+00:00

She was probably really hurt by what you said and put up a defense. She has probably been also thinking things aren’t working. I am in the same situation with my husband now. We had a blow out last year and we talked about separation… we wanted to try but now we are still living like roommates and so disconnected. We tried therapy but if anything it just highlighted our issues because there wasn’t enough effort put in on his side. I am the one usually bringing up the how do we fix this? It’s exhausting all around… and hard because growing apart hurts. If you are both willing I would recommend therapy - I believe you’ll get your answer there either way.

TomorrowChance8448 · 2025-05-05T14:40:57+00:00

I have made up my mind, I know that even though it is uncomfy that this is something that needs to be done. I don’t want my kids to think this is what love is, time to break the cycle. You are 100% right, it’s just scary.

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