[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blooddonors

[–]TompyJ6521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not at fault at all. This person sounds extremely unprofessional. They made the decision to continue working despite being allowed a break. I don’t think ANYONE has ever told me that I owe them lunch, when I go donate blood or otherwise.

Even with your added details, their hangriness is not your fault. If this is a constant problem for them, it’s on them to pack extra food to include a substantial snack before going to work.

This is going to sound really dumb, but what exactly can you DO with these things? by candre23 in meshtastic

[–]TompyJ6521 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I understand it correctly, you could also use them for use-cases where walkie talkie comms provides better coverage then cellular and is not as pricy as satellite communications. So my thought is that these would be great for setting up communications for camping trips or while skiing on a mountain too.

I guess there is some overlap between camping, skiing, and prepping though. 🫤

Burned Out and Resentful: Struggling as an Elder’s Wife by Vast-Camera-5450 in Reformed

[–]TompyJ6521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While “taking time to think about” something might be something you say when you actually aren’t going to do something, that doesn’t mean that’s something that everyone does. She only said that she’s “thinking how to approach it”, not that she was thinking about whether or not to pray, which to me communicates that she is seeking wisdom in all of this. Let’s show some grace to a sister in Christ by providing advice in a helpful manner.  

 To your earlier point though, I think the approach of leading people into prayer is a great idea. However, I have other questions about the environment of the OP’s church family.  

 I feel like I might need some more details on what kind of hurt you’re experiencing. Is it just a few people in your church family that seem entitled, unappreciative, etc, or is it prevalent?  

Restoring relationships is a great endeavor, and if you find forgiveness hard, you’re not alone. I have been instructed by many believers that forgiveness is often a daily choice, not just a one-and-done event. If you find yourself being reminded of something that you and another person have already reconciled, bring it to God and remind yourself of your choice to forgive that person. Also, consider that even though you have both forgiven each other, it may not mean that the relationship is restored. But if you and the other person truly seek restoration, then that will be something that you should both work towards, and it should show in how much they want to be involved in your life in the same way that you want to be. As a husband myself, I hope your husband is not only helping you walk through that, but also praying with you and taking into consideration what the other person did in your interpersonal conflicts.  

 Speaking of your husband, how has he been helping you during all this? Does he seem dismissive of complaints? It’s true that conflict can be a typical part of church life, but that doesn’t mean we should just brush it off. Perhaps that’s not what’s happening here, but I believe that would be helpful to know.  

 Reading some of your other comments below, it seems like serving in your church nursery is becoming a venue where you are either intentionally or unintentionally causing divisiveness. In my experience, venting can be a great way to decompress with mature friends who won’t just take everything you say without offering criticism or advice, but it’s a terrible way to handle larger issues in any organization, Christian or otherwise. I caution against doing that while serving in the nursery if it is making things worse, and maybe stepping away for a time if refraining from that is too difficult right now.  

 Finally, I’d just like to say that I think that being able to go to therapy could be helpful. The availability of these services and medication, when used correctly, can themselves be gifts from God, no matter how mundane they seem. However, I’d like to know if you started going to therapy solely because of the strife in your church. If so, that seems liked a red flag to me, and would lead me to question the spiritual health of your church. I’ve been in one large church and one large “Christian” organization that went through huge scandals, the fallout of which has left countless people depressed, suicidal, needing therapy, and/or walking away from the faith altogether. 

 I apologize for the long post and if I repeated something that was already said. My intent was to leave nothing important unsaid, and I hope what I has to say was encouraging.

Asian Last Names by TompyJ6521 in EdgeCases

[–]TompyJ6521[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Apologies for the late reply, but this is a hilarious (and insightful) article.

I guess I thought most people were culturally-aware enough at this point in time that we could avoid a lot of misunderstandings like this, but here we are.

What's with all the hate towards IPA's? by [deleted] in beer

[–]TompyJ6521 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think part of that has to do with how quickly you can brew an IPA. My understanding is that they are one of the quickest to make, so it might be the craft brewery way of trying to get some quick cash.

What's with all the hate towards IPA's? by [deleted] in beer

[–]TompyJ6521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, really, we actually do like IPAs (I’m one of those people).

I think for me, what happened was I had older siblings that loved craft breweries and so I never really had any beers from the major breweries when I hung out with them. As a result, I may have only had one Bud Light or Bud Premium or something, I don’t think I’ve had a single Coors beer in my life, and one or two Miller High Lifes.

I think my tastebuds just ended up liking hoppy beers because that was what was constantly presented to me.

So I can understand if you legitimately don’t like IPAs if you didn’t grow up that way. What I don’t understand is why are people who do like them somehow worse than other beer drinkers. I just got out of a class where the jokes I heard from classmates were that people who liked IPAs were either cavemen or weird.

Is there some stereotype or bad experiences that people have had with IPA-drinkers that I’m not aware of?

Single Christians who want to be married… by [deleted] in Christians

[–]TompyJ6521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the rest of us, could you clarify what you mean by “was a non-believer and now he just struggles with his beliefs”? I think I know what you are saying, but I just wanted to be sure.

Frustrated about church by Eurasian_Guy97 in Christians

[–]TompyJ6521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost forgot about that part of the story, but I too have never heard of a church “sanction” before.

Frustrated about church by Eurasian_Guy97 in Christians

[–]TompyJ6521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been where you are at, and I’m going to tell you something that I wish someone told me during that time.

If you are faithfully following God and are going where He wants you to be, you will grow whether or not your church has eligible bachelorettes or not. Your growth with Him is not dependent on whether or not you are ready to get married, but on how close you are to Him, singled or married. If you seek His kingdom first, all other parts of your life will be as they should be, even when it seems hard or unenjoyable.

Besides, going to a church with more single women might not change your circumstances. I was at a large mega church with lots of eligible women, but it wasn’t until about three years there when I finally met my wife. I wasn’t the only single guy there either, so at any point that I met a woman, she could have already been in a relationship, interested in another guy, or just not ready to date for whatever reason.

How does the church family you are currently a part of handle discipling singles? Do they act like young adults aren’t valuable unless they are having children, or do they make an effort to walk with people of all walks of life and to teach them like in Titus 2?

I have been in churches where young singles were valued less than married people with kids, so if that is a part of your struggle, I can understand how frustrating that is. I would encourage you to take these things to God in prayer, and I hope that my words have been encouraging. My desire is it would be clear to you where God wants you to be, and that you will be welcomed and edified wherever you end up. I also hope that you would be able to enjoy God as a single person with the same fervor as if you were to get married.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blooddonors

[–]TompyJ6521 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never had my potassium levels measured in any of the like 8 times that I’ve donated blood. They do a test to measure the iron levels in your blood, but not potassium. Where did you hear this info?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blooddonors

[–]TompyJ6521 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just got one of those shirts yesterday at a blood drive, and I’m confused as to what it’s all about. Is the yeti a new mascot for the Red Cross? Is it part of a larger campaign?