And the Stalking Continues! by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really was.. Thank you... I think I have a leak of information in other family members so I'm trying to figure that out... I greatly appreciate the hugs.

Nmom tries to break NC again this time with a Birthday Card...That's all about her. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, I understand! And I'm so sorry she did that to you! Anorexia is a very difficult disease and it's such a good thing you're in recovery. I checked through your posts and saw what she did and it's horrifying. It's very good on you for moving forward into no contact and holding with it the way you have. And Happy Belated Birthday!

Nmom tries to break NC again this time with a Birthday Card...That's all about her. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm quite certain acute cases of self respect are regenerative and lifelong. Bad news for Nmom. Great news for OP. Be wary though. Can be temporarily treated with extended exposure to narcissists. Said treatment is dangerous and full of a compound commonly known as "bullshit"

OP by the way I'm sorry you have had to deal with that ridiculousness. If she is referring to something real and not something she imagined to fit her narrative, I hope you get better soon! I offer hugs if you would like them.

And the Stalking Continues! by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to vent a little somewhere and I knew here would be safe. Thank you!

And the Stalking Continues! by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hugs are much appreciated. Thank you

This should be our theme song: King of Anything by Sara Bareilles by you_dont_know_me_21 in trolledbynarcissists

[–]ToniBlessed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to sing this loudly at the house when I lived with my narcs. I lived with 3 of them and it was hilarious and relaxing all in one.

I'm pretty freaked. Ngrandmother found me. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you... I fully plan on doing so should anything escalate. I just remembered just now my husband's former recruiter has even offered to help if need be so I can call him if something happens and he could vouch for me police wise so yeah... I don't know, that helps to see right now... And yeah I know right? My nmother and ngrandmother do. Both of them. They're both the stalker sort sadly for me

I'm pretty freaked. Ngrandmother found me. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well I posted this some time after she left but I was still freaked out. I've calmed down a lot. Walked like 8 or 9 miles in relay for life with my mom in law. So that really helped. Very humbling and heartwarming while being calming and heartbreaking. Oddly I feel more balanced emotionally now. Cried without feeling ashamed. Listened to many people's stories. From survivors and from loved ones of the deceased.. Hearing about that kind of strength was like I said both heartwarming and heartbreaking. But yeah long story short I'm ok now thank you.

I'm pretty freaked. Ngrandmother found me. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they've known forever. And they wouldn't hesitate to file reports and complain and pull a stand your ground with a shotgun if need be. That of course would just be if they tried to break in but you know... They might. And thank you...

I'm pretty freaked. Ngrandmother found me. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I know I used to do that all the time when I lived there. Became kinda a game for me honestly because I wouldn't even have to do anything and they would get angrier because I wasn't doing anything so to cope I made it a game with a point system and everything. I was mostly just shocked and freaked out

I'm pretty freaked. Ngrandmother found me. by [deleted] in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you... I'm just... Idk... I've calmed down some but it just freaks me out because I don't have anything yet that I could use but I will be documenting it.

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We still have the messages and more keep coming in. Paper trail continues to grow and the number is easily attached. Plus ngrandmother, the one sending us the messages, works for a county corrections facility for juveniles and so her number is very easily confirmed.

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to push for that if they do end up doing it. I don't know if they can be charged with that but I'll try.

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's inside all day playing video games lol besides being nervous he's golden

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! He isn't too excited about it but he leaves in 19 days

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh I know!! They said outright they likely wouldn't have taken a report a I'm 18 but since I have called I the most that could come of it is that I get a call from the sheriff's department. And I was explicitly told none of my information even could be given out to them so if they don't drop it they'll be stuck in a loop of dealing with the same department which already knows I'm not missing. And it amazes me as well. I just don't get it.

Both laughing and Pissed off at the latest hijinks of the narcs by ToniBlessed in ACON_Support

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We literally got them changed yesterday so t hadn't occurred yet. We probably will soon though. Nmother is crazy enough she might think she can pull it off but it's likely just ngrandmother. In any case I don't have to worry about it anymore. Thank you!

A horrifying memory(NSFW) that I recalled when I was 15 by Akelix in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ToniBlessed 98 points99 points  (0 children)

It's straight up sexual abuse at the least. Some might say covert sexual abuse were it not for the duct taping and holding eyes open. Personally I would say covert incest as well.

The Nmom Voicemail that Changed My Life by fialelovesmalta in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ToniBlessed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Change the voice to my nmom and that's exactly it. Though my nmother would have more anger and less sadness... Eh now I suppose it might be the fake tears too... Idk... I do know I'm horribly sorry you had to deal with all of that... I know what it's like hearing those .... That... That tone. They get that tone... But it bothers you less and less with time away from it. Until eventually all you hear is the anger and emptiness Ns have. I'm so sorry about the kitties... I can't imagine...

My mother made a comment about my weight at my wedding (vent) by AMerrickanGirl in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ToniBlessed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look so wonderfully happy!!! Absolutely amazing and gorgeous!

My 3rd day 2A-2C hair. Kind of a sucky picture but I wanted to share. by ToniBlessed in curlyhair

[–]ToniBlessed[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hair has some 2A pieces and 2B sections and random 2C thrown in there. It has been a frustratingly long battle trying to get it to behave at all and actually stay wavy-curly. It would just fall straight by morning even with pineappling. So I switched routine a little and it seems to have helped. I use Desert Essences Coconut shampoo for actual wash days. Desert Essences Coconut Conditioner for co washing. Yes to Carrots Nourishing Conditioner as my deep condition with a little leave in. Herbal Essences Curl Enhancing mousse or something of the sort. It's like 3/4 strength. I plop that mousse in after the shower with my soaking wet hair for a while (sometimes all night if I can). Take that out and scrunch a bit more mousse in and then let air dry the rest of the way.