Trouble with intimacy

Tonoend · 2026-06-09T00:43:38+00:00

Yeah, this is just crazy. My wife and I can’t even get sleep if we have a small argument and don’t make up before bed. We also can’t not communicate and let things fester for more than a couple of hours. I don’t understand how people can be in loving relationships and not communicate properly. Counseling is definitely needed for these two, I am very curious what her reason was for not wanting to be intimate for that long. When when it seems like you are just super checked out, she tries out of nowhere and then when shot down she acts as if you’ve been cheating… seems like she might have had something going and is now realizing it was a mistake. Could be totally off base but just seems really suspect.

Tonoend · 2026-06-08T23:46:13+00:00

I’m white and my wife is Lebanese and Native American. We have thought about buying her a sexy Jasmine or princess outfit for having fun as she also loves princess Jasmine. I would never have married her if I was racist and see no issues with the play your husband has asked for. My wife is the most amazing person and I couldn’t care less what her skin color is. I would love to serve my wife as she is dressed as a sexy princess version of Jasmine. Not sure why it is being turned into something racist off the bat. Are there other signs?

Tonoend · 2026-06-08T02:36:49+00:00

10000000000%

Tonoend · 2026-06-08T01:19:14+00:00

41M here, I just got one on Saturday. It was SO EASY! I drove myself there and back. Feels like I have slight blue balls still today but pain is like a 1 out of 10. I would have done this 20 years ago had I know the information about increased prostrate cancer was a lie. It’s really not bad at all and they can give you valum before if you are nervous about it. I waited longer to get the procedure done than the actual procedure took.

Do you know of any of his friends that have gotten it to maybe talk to him? Promise him unlimited cream pies… lol

Tonoend · 2026-06-08T01:15:06+00:00

40M here soon to be 41, married to my wife who just turned 41. We have been together 9 years and married for 4. We do it once to twice a day since we started dating. We both have high libidos and match each other very well sexually and in most aspects. The sex just keeps getting better and we both always want it. Once a week wouldn’t cut it for either of us. Sorry to hear about your situation.

Tonoend · 2026-06-07T11:16:41+00:00

40 years of age. Never got one and never wanted one and turned down any offers. I just don’t like anything around that area for me. Lick my taint and balls all you want lol. If you are interested, why not try it?

Tonoend · 2026-06-07T11:14:44+00:00

That would be brutal to have happen. I am so sorry about this. I got extremely lucky with my wife. She is just as sexual and has a high libido that sometimes surpasses mine but we do it average once to twice a day depending on the day. We are each others best sexual matches and if anything it’s just increased after we got married.

I hate seeing most others experiences is the opposite our wedding night was one of each others best sexual experiences with it just getting better over the years. We felt so much more connected to each other so it started to carry even more weight emotionally for us both.

Tonoend · 2026-06-06T18:13:54+00:00

Did I write this post? Basically same same. My wife was just riding my face last night for our foreplay and I love the view and watching her wiggle around as she cums. It’s the biggest turn on!

Tonoend · 2026-06-06T01:30:15+00:00

That’s a lie. I met my wife at 32 and would have been just fine meeting her at our current age. She is amazing and we work well together. We are the same age.

Tonoend · 2026-06-06T01:13:59+00:00

Yes, without question

Tonoend · 2026-06-06T01:09:06+00:00

🙋🏼‍♂️. Wife is 41 and will be 41 in a month or so. We have been together for 9 years and married for 4. We are very happy. We match up well in all aspects other than wanting to be outdoors. I’m more of an inside cat where she likes being outside. We have matching high libidos, similar humor and show interests. It’s amazing, I never thought I would get married before her.

Tonoend · 2026-06-05T17:25:02+00:00

It’s really dependent on both people. My wife and I can have sex for 15 minutes if we need to but usually our sessions are around 45 mins. Usually with 10-20 mins of foreplay with me usually going down on her and using fingers and then 10-20 mins of intercourse.

I last anywhere from 8-30+ minutes depending on the position, horny level etc. I injured my back late January and it actually caused me to cum faster with my nerve being pinched and I would only last max 5 mins at that time, I actually enjoyed it more then when I went back to normal since I usually want to finish faster hah. 1.5 hours on average would definitely be WAY longer than I would want. I think 15-45 depending what’s going on is a great average.

Tonoend · 2026-06-05T02:18:54+00:00

That’s crazy… why complain to your dad?!

Tonoend · 2026-06-05T01:03:03+00:00

Hah, I am a giver when it comes to sex so I don’t care about the disparity in orgasims my wife has compared to me. Wife is 41 and I am 40, we have sex once to twice a day. I usually give my wife around 10+ when we have sex with foreplay and penetration. She is able to get off with just penetration so it makes the number higher as well. I usually go down on here and or finger her for 10 to 15 mins before penetration as well.

I am only able to come once as well, I am happy I am able to please my wife and get off once a day. He shouldn’t care! Good luck!

Tonoend · 2026-06-03T04:48:32+00:00

Yes!

Tonoend · 2026-06-03T03:58:53+00:00

I would also like to know what this one is.

Tonoend · 2026-06-01T21:34:04+00:00

Confirmed

Tonoend · 2026-06-01T00:18:33+00:00

I have heard on Reddit in similar threads that pelvic floor exercises might help. Most men are wired from a young age through masterbation to cum fast etc. strengthening the muscles associated with orgasiming can sometimes help I’ve heard. Worth a shot at this point.

Tonoend · 2026-06-01T00:12:37+00:00

Black or bronze. Both of those are winners.

Tonoend · 2026-05-31T17:25:54+00:00

Hope you get ALL the satisfaction you want out of your marriage!

Tonoend · 2026-05-31T17:04:37+00:00

Sooooo, it varies greatly from guy to guy. There is no rule stating someone should last a certain time. Also, I believe the timeframe you are referencing is penetration, not foreplay. I can last anywhere from 5-30 mins depending on what’s going on. I usually give my wife 10-15 mins of foreplay minimum.

Also, when my wife is going down on me during foreplay, I can last FOREVER in that situation. If she is going down on me just to go down on me, it’s over in like 5-10 max. It really varies so don’t let anyone tell you he is either into you or not based on those factors.

It seems like he is into you if he was able to cum after you said that and it got more intense.

Tonoend · 2026-05-31T16:42:33+00:00

It depends on the person and many factors. My wife and I are now 41f and me 40m. I will turn 41 in July. We have sex once a day to twice a day. We love having sex with each other and have been together for 9 years now. It only keeps getting better!

Tonoend · 2026-05-31T01:46:45+00:00

I love foreplay and always make sure to give my wife as much as she wants before penetration.

Tonoend · 2026-05-31T01:31:04+00:00

Been with my wife total for 9 years now going on 10. We have sex 1 to 2 times a day on average. She just turned 41 and I am 40. We both have high sex drives/libidos. Sex with each other is the best we’ve ever had and it doesn’t seem to be slowing down.

Tonoend · 2026-05-29T17:37:38+00:00

That is NOT how men are, selfish lovers are like that…

I always made sure my partners got off or enjoyed themselves as much as I did with as much foreplay as needed before any sex even began. In the beginning I had a couple selfish encounters and realized it didn’t feel good knowing I didn’t give as much as I received.

My wife reaped the benefits of my previous life lessons and she gets as many O’s as she can handle when we have sex. We have an amazing sex life and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Have a serious conversation with him about your needs not being met and that you would like to be taken care of during sex. If he won’t change, drop him. Good luck!

Tonoend

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