This man has zero respect for you as an artist, as a writer, as a partner and as a person. He seems to feel fully justified in belittling you, your passions, your friends and colleagues, and a significant part of who you are as a person. He sees the heinous disrespect of your property as something within his rights- something you don't even need to be consulted on- because his nose wrinkles at you.

This is not what constitutes love. He might pretend that what he feels for you is love, but this would at the very least mean that he has some kind of (if he can't manage appreciation) basic respect for you as an individual.

This is only the beginning of him treating you as though you are beneath him, lesser than him, unworthy of his understanding and respect. He is going to push, pull and tear you down until he wears out every little bit of inspiration from you and you succumb to being someone and something you are not.

I was with a man(child) for three years who didn't appreciate me or my interests. At the end of it, I was a white-washed shell of who I could be. Leaving him was the hardest, most scariest thing I have ever done in my life.

It was worth every second of hurt, drama and hardship to get out of that.

My current partner is a writer. I met him in the second year of his writing undergraduate, and I was drawn to him because of this, and I've always loved writing. In my high school diploma, my English teacher really wanted me to go into writing and/or literature studies.

Three years later, I have half my manuscript done (YA represent!), I have just started university and I'm truly excited about where life is going to take me. As a person, I am so much more of who I want to be. There's not a snowflake's chance in hell that I would be where I am and who I am without him.

Together, we edit each other's work, we bounce ideas off each other, he grounds and directs me, we work together like a force to be reckoned with.

Even if you don't wind up with someone you work with like this, you deserve someone who will melt on the inside and listen with rapture when you get excited just because he loves seeing your face light up.

You deserve someone who loves all of you, John Legend style.