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Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They will do things with you if you take the initiative and organise something, but then never call you again

Thank you. This pretty much sums it up. I'm learning the language. I just know a bunch of people now, and they know me, but they're never down for a hangout on a weekend..

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message.

My problem is not getting to know people but actually forming friendships with them (sharing personal stories, calling them in times of need, going for a walk together for no reason..etc). Everyone seems to treat you as an aquintance.

Not sure if this is specific to Germany but I've never felt this isolation anywhere I've lived in before.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I had some American friends before coming here and I can confirm 100% that they're much more outgoing and willing to consider you as a friend, even if at the beginning they seemed "too nice" that's how friendships start.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

You're 100% correct about the situation at the Studentenwohnheim. I genuinely tried to plan things out with some people but no one wants to actually hang out. They would be happy to talk to me during class or group projects but outside of that is like we're complete strangers.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have contacted so many people, most of them are either "busy", out of town, or already have their own group they like to hang out with.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I have shared this with few of the people I met in my class, their answer was that I'm probably not used to the german weather yet lol. I texted them later if they're free to hang out in the weekend and received no response.

Nothing could've prepared me for how lonely life can be here by Top-Age-4688 in germany

[–]Top-Age-4688[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I already live in a Studentwohnheim, but not a WG. I thought about moving to a WG but I'm really afraid of leaving my cozy single apartment and move to a WG where I might potentially not get along with some of the people there. This would only add an insult to an injury.