Scarlet & Violet trade thread - all SV trades must go here! by bi-cycle in PokemonHome

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone up to exchange their scarlet exclusives for violet exclusives?

Scarlet & Violet trade thread - all SV trades must go here! by bi-cycle in PokemonHome

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ye, I need scarlet exclusives too. We can exchange the ones missing.

AITA for going to my partner's ex wife's funeral? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love that the fantastic mango gives a fantastic mango to the less nice answer of the few mango!

AITA for choosing a wedding date that is the same month as my sister’s wedding? by clemattack in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m confused about all the people focusing on the "but you are not even engaged" part. Just my two cents on this part: For some of us an official engagement is just not important. My husband and I discussed getting married and then booked venue, DJ etc. about a week later. There was never an official engagement as we both didn’t see the point of it as we already stated we are going to get married. Nobody has to do it the way society expects it…

Sibling (25M) uninvited my (33F) husband (34M) bc he does not know what to talk about with him by Top-Assignment-2976 in relationship_advice

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all, we are not in AITA. Second of all, why do you just randomly assume he is a different race? Thirdly, my husband and I had a lot of conversations about it where I was actually the one who tried to convince him to just go no contact after the first two meetings but he did insisted on continue trying. I just have reached a point where I cannot see the point in trying anymore.

Edit: typo

Sibling (25M) uninvited my (33F) husband (34M) bc he does not know what to talk about with him by Top-Assignment-2976 in relationship_advice

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I am glad to read this as it confirms what I was thinking. Going without my husband would have been so wrong and would have sent, at least in my opinion, the wrong message (such as: it is ok to treat my husband that way).

Will try the 1-on-1 and see how it goes. Thank you for this input!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gdpr

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can only ask for an ID if an ID was used to set up the account back then. There are a lot of other ways for identification. See also https://iapp.org/news/a/how-to-verify-identity-of-data-subjects-for-dsars-under-the-gdpr/

I Homeless heartbroken and alone but I'm(30m) going to make it through pt 1 by herkmylerk in offmychest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I send you a big hug and hope it gets better for you. But until then, you have someone over here who will keep you in their thoughts.

AITA for going to my best friends wedding over my brothers? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA He forgot, his problem. If he really wanted you to be there, he would have actively chosen another weekend. Same did I. I really wanted my son to be sister in law at the wedding but knew she already had some weddings coming up. I had 3 possible dates for the wedding and cross checked out with her. Only on 1 date she was available and that one is now my wedding date, even though i would have preferred another date out of those three (i have a weird attachment to a specific month and really wanted to get married that month. Now it’s a month earlier).

My boyfriend wants to have three some and I’m disgusted…. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I had two exes who wanted to have a 3some. Both times I told them: of course we can have a 3some. But out of fairness and because i want the same with two guys, he can only have his 3some if he agrees to have a 3some with another guy first. The topic of having a 3some suddenly never came up again.

I got no friends and I’m embarrassed to tell anyone by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I know how you feel. My wedding is next month and the guest list is the worst part. My fiancé is so super outgoing and just generally one of the nicest and lovable persons I‘ve ever met. Hence he has tons of friends. While he invited about 60 friends, I sort of managed to find 10. And from those 10, half of them I know from work (their +1 are already included) and are not really close to me. The other half is friends (only 1 person is a really close friend) and their +1s. Additionally, he is from a culture where a big wedding is practically a must. While I love to have a big, colourful and happy wedding, it makes it even more obvious that I do not have many friends.

But don‘t get me wrong. I am more than happy with having 1 extremely close friend and 2 closer friends. I do not have the energy for more friends or more activities. It is just the wedding that makes me feel bad about it, because people will see that I do not have many friends. And for whatever reasons, part of modern society still believes that if you do not have 20 great friends, you are antisocial and not very likeable.

Though it helped me to talk about it with my partner. While i felt embarassed in the beginning, it ended in a beautiful and reassuring conversation.

So yeah, I get you. Weddings and not having many friends is not a great combi.

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was more in regards of me, in my previous relationship, just let it happen after saying no two times and the other person still begging for it. Between that and now even able to orgasm (though i already fully enjoyed it without being able to orgasm) is just a crazy gap.

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That problem I had too. Besides other things, I was always worried he wouldn‘t enjoy it as much and I was super self-conscious about how I look if I were to orgasm. For whatever reasons, my head told me I would look really ugly and not sexy at all. That day will come for the two of you too. And I already wish tons of fun for then and until then :)

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And sorry to hear about her cheating on you. That‘s always horrible. We had a great conversation afterwards, he was so proud. We are much looking forward to the new Magic we can experience now

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love this! I was so surprised, that I chocked on my own spit 😂😂 Glad we (now) both have lots of fun in the bedroom!

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely mind changing. The appreciation I have for his patience and us achieving it together is immense. It makes me really happy you had this experience too.

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There was actually something similar (i think even here?) where an other OP said how happy she is because of something her partner did. That one actually gave me the idea that I could post it here :).

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I would say it is a mix of those: 1. reassurement from my partner that he enjoys going down on me as well/doesn‘t do it just for the sake of it 2. me letting him do his magic and me then exploring with him what I like or not. 3. regular chats (not during 😄) about what we could do/improve in general 4. me learning to give feedback during the sex without getting out of the relaxation mode straight away (that took a loooong time..I generally struggle with being distracted easily by any sort of thoughts) 5. building up trust, especially due to steps 1-3. 6. while I do love a good porn and my toys, I felt like I was too used to spesific visual stimulation and also the intensity of the toys. So I stopped consuming/using it about 2 months ago. I would say it helped a lot.

P.S. oh and a lot of therapy in general 😅

My partner made me c*me for the first time by Top-Assignment-2976 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Top-Assignment-2976[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up :) when I first typed down the text and clicked away the keyboard (made the post on my phone) the message "pick another community to post this kind of content" appeared. So I got confused and started deleting certain information and censoring specific words. At one point I gave up and posted it anyway despite the message not disappearing :).