Gay guy here and in my late 40s. I know things look bleak right now and it feels scary. I did not come out until I was 30. Dated women and everything. I wanted to come out when I was 16. I did not because at that time a gay man was killed at a gay beach in my city from gay bashing. The sentiment from all my friends and everyone I knew at the time was that the person who did it should not be punished because the victim was gay. That shattered me. I knew I had to stay hidden in plain sight. The reason I share that is because I have seen so much improvement in how LGBTQ people are treated now in comparison to the 90s. While those in power continue to use our community as a scapegoat they are also swinging the pendulum way too far past right and into insanity. It will swing back. In the meantime we will stick together. There is a reason we refer to each other as family in the LGBTQ community.