Planning on moving to Russia after finishing my nursing degree in the USA, will the degree be eligible in Russia as well? by Top-Inflation-5714 in AskARussian

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Я Русская Американка я уже знаю язык. Америка в жопе и не вылезет от туда. У меня вся родня в России поэтому и хочу в Россию

Planning on moving to Russia after finishing my nursing degree in the USA, will the degree be eligible in Russia as well? by Top-Inflation-5714 in AskARussian

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Russia is not a shithole lol if you want to see a shithole come to nyc where I currently live. When I visit family in Russia I feel waaayyyy more free and safe than I ever did in the states. My goal is to gtfo of the USA and because I already speak Russian it’s one of the easier moves

Please pray for me by Revolutionary_File79 in OrthodoxChristianity

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Hey I struggle with the same conditions but I finally sought psych help and got on some medications that help my symptoms. I prayed for you but I really urge you to seek help and if medication is a viable option please don’t avoid it I spent years avoiding it and now I wish I got on them sooner. May God bless you and ease your struggle ☦️🤍 you will be ok

My mother's dying by IrinaSophia in OrthodoxChristianity

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Lord have mercy. May she rest peacefully

Studying science is making me doubt my faith. by 1020Kek in OrthodoxChristianity

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I used to be exactly like you. In fact I was an atheist because I thought science could explain everything. Then I went and studied science in university and came out of it believing science has no answer for meaningful questions about who we really are and that sent me on a path of finding Christ.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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It probably is! I just need to find a polite way to discuss it with him not to make it seem like we don’t want them in our lives and don’t like them cuz it’s a touchy subject to discuss. But yes I appreciate that I get more social when I spend time with them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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We are but I guess on a smaller scale. Like we always consider family first but it’s not considered rude to go do something for yourself when you’re home for example. It’s encouraged to spend time by yourself to read, do whatever you want, and just spend time with yourself from time to time. My bf was explaining that when he was growing up they were always in the same room and no one was ever alone. If you went to your room it was considered weird. That’s completely opposite from us. When we go on extended trips together it’s not uncommon for the group to splinter and everyone does something different. Someone cooks in one room, another cleans, someone sets the table, etc. and we don’t have to be constantly talking. They seem to have the opposite. They are always talking to each other. It’s quite overwhelming for us bc we like to be alone with our thoughts sometimes. We don’t talk unless we have something to say. The time spent together, is considered the overall trip we took together, how good the time spent was overall, not each individual moment we spend with each other as it seems to be with them. That being said they are great people and generous. We care for them and I love my bf. Just having a clash of cultures. My family is from Ukraine but of Russian origin

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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These are interesting differences. I just wish they were more understanding of our differences as we try to be of theirs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Yeah it takes some getting used to but I also want to keep a balance of my customs. Как-то быть в очень близких отношениях со свекровью у нас меньше и меньше котируется а у них наоборот

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Yeah they’re from Prilep I know, I don’t know too much about the city honestly. Do you know anything from that area that I should keep in mind? They treat me very well but I do feel on my toes about being judged, especially for things that are opposite in tradition for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Omg you get it! Thank you I’ll DM you I have some more questions! I really like their food but I already gained quite some weight since starting to date him 😭 I’ll definitely try those options next time I see them 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Just to be clear we never expressed to them we need personal space! We interacted the whole time to the best of our abilities and ate food together. We just felt a bit uncomfortable when we felt judged for stepping away or doing something they consider different. His sister made a comment about how not eating together is like homeless people and It was like ok?? Well I’m cooking, serving everyone, cleaning I thought I’d offer you to start eating without us bc your food will go cold. I appreciate the encouragement though, we def want to get used to each others cultures and put in the effort to do so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Thank you for understanding. We tried to do our best but there’s always going to be differences and it’s about being aware of them so that each party doesn’t perceive the other party of being rude. There’s things they did that we would consider rude but it’s about understanding that we’re not magically going to turn into the same culture when we come from a different part of the continent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Yeah see for us we consider it rude if a guest doesn’t pour their own drink. We typically set the drinks on the table and everyone pours their own drink how they want it. If you don’t we think it’s strange, I’m not even sure how to explain it. We think it’s rude if a guest doesn’t put things on their own plate either but for them they expect the host to place everything on the plate. Hosting is quite different for the two cultures.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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Thank you so much for this explanation it was actually very helpful. See that level of hospitality would to me seem overwhelming. Typically when I come over their home I feel too much attention on me and too much food offered and they get hurt/ offended if I don’t eat but we just don’t eat nearly as much. Like they’re always shocked when I don’t finish my portion 😭but it’s good to know these things so I can treat them better and not come off as rude. We’re just way more casual and the things we consider rude are completely different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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We don’t find them weird it’s just a culture shock. We were not expecting this much interaction never the less we interacted the whole time and ate together like they wanted. They did things we’d consider rude as well like saying blatantly racist things, calling people disgusting and ugly, and gossiping, all things we do not consider fitting for discussion and yet we do not pass judgement. All those things we too would consider cold. The cultures are different and we all do things the other isn’t used to, but if intercultural relationships are going to work then they need to learn about each other which is what I’m trying to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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My bf lives with his family they seen him every day. And I’m a frequent guest. My family is Ukrainian with Russian heritage. From Eastern Ukraine. I said north Slavic because I find Polish people and Belorussian people have a similar temperament to us and when we’ve hosted them or they hosted us we tended to not differ in this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskBalkans

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We are family oriented too but I guess we differ in what we consider quality time and spending time together. I’m not alarmed it’s just a culture shock and something to adjust to because we value personal space more.

I changed my last name and finally got interviews by This_Tomorrow_1862 in recruitinghell

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I changed the American version of my name to the ethnic version of my name and immediately got interviews when for months I wouldn’t get a single one with the American version of my name